horrible incident!

I am very sorry at what happened to you sis.It really feels horrible to hear that.I wish i could break the bones of that guy .Anyway from next time take you bro or dad or whoever with you.

...sometimes i really hate being a vunerable, fragile girl.

Dont worry sis be brave.

format_quote Originally Posted by Sahabiyaat

last night whilst walking to taraweeh on a dark and deserted road with my female cousin, a guy suddenly came out of some dark corner and .....how should i say this.....well indecently exposed himself....he was asian, possibly muslim..i think he saw us coming and since i was fully covered, thought he would get a kick out of shocking us.

unfortuantely i will not be going to the mosque to pray taraweeh anymore , and i dont feel safe where i live , ....its an area full of crime, drugs and bad people.

What saddens and sickens me the most is that this guy, was probably 17/18 or something, and can go home and mingle and be normal, and no one will know what he has done, he must have a mother and sisters and family, and being an asian boy they prob think the world of him....which sickens me.

my poor cousin is only 15...and she panicked so badly, because ofcourse she assumed we were going to get raped, she nearly ran into traffic.She had tears in her eyes and was shaking and could not read her prayers, so we had to miss them and instead i took her and sat in the washroom area comforting her.

the worst thing was had to walk back down that way,we were terrified and we kept thinking he would still be there, so we held hands and ran all the way down, passing the canal where the boys usually go to do drugs and past the pub which for once didnt have drunken men outside it.


...sometimes i really hate being a vunerable, fragile girl.

Sister I am very sorry this has happened to you, I will remember you and your friend in my Dua's Insha Allah. Thank Allah that you were not harmed by him, Alhamdulillah.
Sister I suggest next time you go out you take a Mahram with you, A male, That is much better.
Insha Allah you will be safe at all times, Ameen.
Be brave sister, Remember Allah is with you at all times, So never fear.

:sorry:

format_quote Originally Posted by Sahabiyaat

no, trust me, when u hear of these things, u say i will do this or that, but when it actually happens u panic SO much....my poor cousin really lost it....even after he walked away laughing, she tried rushing across the road with so much traffic....and kept saying we have to cross...we have to cross now! right now! ...thank God i was holding her back, and kept saying its ok, hes gone now!!! calm down!

but she wouldnt calm down....it was terrible, shes just a child, only 16.

and ofcourse we asian girls have to conceal such incidents, as the first person to be blamed will be us, for being in that place at that time....which ofcourse is so typical of asian people, when it comes to protecting their honour and image.


i think i saw him walking past my house today..........

*sigh*.......this has really shaken me.......he was INCHES away from me with his trousers pulled down saying 'cmon girls'......God i feel humiliated.


I will be saying at home, if i ask to be accompanied, it will only raise suspicions.and i have to check up on my cousin today...i hope thhe poor thing is ok.

Please keep me in your duas.

believe me sister i would i was once harassed when i was 15.. while i was walking to the local shop. i never spoke about it to anybody and i swore i would not let it happen again and i will defend my self.. the only difference is this guy was a bit drunk he walked passed me and he started touching me and feeling me up, i was trying to get a way but he was holding me back with such strong grip. he was so strong i will never forget it. i started crying screaming then thank god a neighbour heard my cries and she came out and he ran off with his friends.. there was a dark lane in front of us. he was trying to get me down there. it took me a long time to get over it and i was very young also

format_quote Originally Posted by markislam

is this happening in the UK or some where else ? I really don't understand, in the US the laws are so strict, i am glad about it.

in europe the cops just don't care. this crap happens so much that id say theres not even enough cops to deal with this situation because its a growing problem. if they do get caught they just get a simple warning thats why some brothers are forced to take the law in to there own hands

format_quote Originally Posted by Scents of Jannah

It is really traumatic when this sort of thing happens. I remember years ago, a non muslim posing as someone interested in islam, sent me a picture saying it was his sisters (yes I stupidly believed). Only when I opened it, it was him exposing himself. I cried my eyes out. I felt so dirty like I'd been contaminated.

Hamdulillah, it doesn't affect me no more. I pray Allah quickly removes it from both your memories. Ameen

I've been through the same sis O.o I forgot who it was but astaghfirullah...

Sis sahaabiyat i hope ur both ok inshaAllah. InshaAllah i will make dua for u guys. Definitely be careful next time and keep a mahram with u

format_quote Originally Posted by markislam

I think the guy was not a muslim, or may be he is intoxicated or mentally ill. I have seen it happen so many times.

My brother, what makes u automatically assume he wasnt muslim or was drunk?

this guy was muslim (so called) and in his senses...he was just doing it for kicks...his parents must think he's at taraweeh praying...little do they know, that hes not interested in praying and is instead roaming the streets until pray time finishes doing these sick acts for fun.

*sigh*

and why do u think he did this at night??...so i would not recognise him properly....i only registered his clothes and looks for a moment..and a very very similar person walked past today....so i cant really describe him to the police?

im sure indecent exposure is an offence in the law here in the UK, but its very common...friends have started telling me about all their experiences! ...and all the guys involved are non practising muslims , young and mature.

my friend told me 13 yr old (muslim) boys often come up to muslim girls to ask them sex related questions in public to embarass them and simialr incidents are a regular occurence!!....im shocked...why is today's society so sex obsessed......esp muslims??...have we really lost all sense of haya that we will expose our private parts to strangers for kicks?

AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

Its really strange how i suggested a "theretical" example of this kind situation and had a debate regarding the issue of youth, muslims of today, our problems not only with the ummah but i own community in our on city/town.

I shall post a thread soon.

I am so disgusted over this

FiAmaaniAllah

format_quote Originally Posted by Sahabiyaat

last night whilst walking to taraweeh on a dark and deserted road with my female cousin, a guy suddenly came out of some dark corner and .....how should i say this.....well indecently exposed himself....he was asian, possibly muslim..i think he saw us coming and since i was fully covered, thought he would get a kick out of shocking us.

unfortuantely i will not be going to the mosque to pray taraweeh anymore , and i dont feel safe where i live , ....its an area full of crime, drugs and bad people.

What saddens and sickens me the most is that this guy, was probably 17/18 or something, and can go home and mingle and be normal, and no one will know what he has done, he must have a mother and sisters and family, and being an asian boy they prob think the world of him....which sickens me.

my poor cousin is only 15...and she panicked so badly, because ofcourse she assumed we were going to get raped, she nearly ran into traffic.She had tears in her eyes and was shaking and could not read her prayers, so we had to miss them and instead i took her and sat in the washroom area comforting her.

the worst thing was had to walk back down that way,we were terrified and we kept thinking he would still be there, so we held hands and ran all the way down, passing the canal where the boys usually go to do drugs and past the pub which for once didnt have drunken men outside it.


...sometimes i really hate being a vunerable, fragile girl.

Sister Sahabiyaat

its your mistake why? bcoz you knew that the area you live isnt a safe place and still you still going to mosque alone ? why dont you go with your brother or some 1 else in the family while you were going to mosque and why do you live in a bad area like that?and report to the police btw were do you live?

I am sorry you had a very bad experience sis..

sorry to hear this ...
i dunno what to say except to get your mahrams onto him. i advise you not to take matters into your own hands cos guys only harass girls to get their their attention. so if you even beat him up, he'd probs be happy about it as you are giving him you attention (even tho that aint your intention, but that's how he will take it ) so yh just stear completely away from him...dont even look at him. and don't go out alone.

the worst thing was had to walk back down that way,we were terrified and we kept thinking he would still be there, so we held hands and ran all the way down, passing the canal where the boys usually go to do drugs and past the pub which for once didnt have drunken men outside it.

isnt there some other way to the masjid

format_quote Originally Posted by khalid84

Sister Sahabiyaat

its your mistake why? bcoz you knew that the area you live isnt a safe place and still you still going to mosque alone ?

you are right.It is my fault partly...we have 2 mosques one very nearby and this one which is a 10 min walk. although i prefer to just go 2 the one up the road my cousin bugs me to go to the one further away, because she enjoys the walk,so i listened to her.

format_quote Originally Posted by khalid84

and why do you live in a bad area like that?

thats a strange question?.......i was born here? ...it wasnt this bad when i was young.Infact we used to play out til late and there was no danger. but now even boys are not allowed out for fear of getting hurt or mugged, let alone girls.Its true, it was dangerous to go out like that.

format_quote Originally Posted by aadil77

They wouldn't have the balls to do it to a white girl, its cause they think they own other muslims/brown people and would only dare doing it to them, knowin they can get away with it.

I know!...maybe because a white girl would not be so shocked and would just go and kick him right in that area! ..whereas a muslim girl would have too much haya to do that. and they know that.

format_quote Originally Posted by aadil77

If you know the guy is a local and know what he looks like get a mahram to go with you and sort him out

if only i was absolutely sure!!! i would definately get him beaten up!!!

The only comforting thought i have is that i know he cannot escape Allahs punishment, which is sure to come soon....and im hope the punishment involves him being abused in a smilar way so that he knows how it feels.

JK for you kind words and advice.