I'm generally not very good at giving advice but I feel I must share a few very important ahadeeth/Athaar with you. I do realise that they are easier said than done but try your level best, have patience, and remember that your reward is with Allah (
subhaanahu wa ta'aala). Here goes.
1. Try your best not to disobey or anger your parents, even if they treat you unjustly.
Ibn 'Abbas said, "If any Muslim obeys Allah regarding his parents, Allah will open two gates of the Garden for him. If there is only one parent, then one gate will be opened. If one of them is angry, then Allah will not be pleased with him until that parent is pleased with him." He was asked, "Even if they wrong him?" "Even if they wrong him" he replied.
The scholars say that you should obey your parents as long it does not entail disobedience to Allah. This is all within reason of course - you can't just let them continue beating you.
2. Whatever you do, don't sever ties of kinship.
Abu Hurayra said, "A man came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and said, 'Messenger of Allah! I have relatives with whom I maintain ties while they cut me off. I am good to them while they are bad to me. They behave foolishly towards me while I am forbearing towards them.' The Prophet said, 'If things are as you said, it is as if you were putting hot ashes on them and you will not lack a supporter against them from Allah as long as you continue to do that.'"
'A'isha reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Kinship (rahim) is derived from Allah. If anyone maintains ties of kinship Allah maintains ties with him. If anyone cuts them off, Allah cuts him off." (All narrations taken from Al Adab al Mufrad)
That's not to say that you can't live in another house, but don't cut off ties with them completely. Also, have a look at
this thread.
Btw are your parents Muslim?
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