Salaams, I will explain a little.
Every since I can remember I have felt like I was in chains, I was young yes and so I listened to my parents, mostly my father and sure there are rules every child must follow but when I am older enough to start thinking for myself about god, naturally I have questions, and every child likes to ask questions, it's the natural process of learning. If I tell you I saw a gorilla at the zoo and you've never seen one before, what will your first question be? What did it look like probably... right? How big was it? etc.
But when I ask my parents questions about some things they taught me I just got told "don't question Quran" "don't question your father" and "because prophet Muhammed pbuh did it" which just wasn't a sufficient answer for me so I was always left thinking "is this actually real or just a story, like the bible"?
Then as I grew older I am not allowed to mix with boys, I am not even allowed to sit next to them in school when I was 14 years old in the dinner hall. I am not allowed to sit next to them in class even when our teacher says "boy girl boy girl" seating structure, this is to prevent boys grouping together and girls grouping together because we don't get much work done because we're always talking and not paying attention. Just little things, zero freedom whatsoever it was horrible.
So I just started to think "what the hell" and started to go against my father and I started to enjoy school much more, my grades improved because I was happy and wanted to learn. Still I am young like 14 and he is forcing me to the masjid but at this point it is worthless because I don't have a foundation of knowledge and belief so I'm at the masjid and I'm just thinking it's a waste of time and so I don't like going there. Then my father found I was talking to boys from my school on facebook, not sexually or anything just normal talking about various things, going to see movies with our friends, going to the park or whatever and he disabled my facebook and told me not to mix with boys. Again I am just crying inside because I and in chains with everything. I cannot even go to the damn theme park because our group was 6 girls and 8 boys. It was organised for a long time and I really wanted to go and have fun but he forbade it.
My life was such misery and my advice to you, if you have a daughter then teach her Islam of course but if she asks you questions please for the love of god explain the answer, don't just tell her the answer. If 5+5=10 don't just say "because it does" explain WHY it does. You understand?
Also do not put handcuffs on every aspect of her life. Allow her to have boy friends and girl friends, allow her to mix with both genders because this will teach her valuable lessons about life. If I listened to my father and followed his rule I would end up killing myself. My life would be like this.
no education
no life experience
no friends
married to someone chosen for me
cleaning and cooking and that's it
getting fat because I get no exercise
live only to please my husband
What the hell kind of life is that? I may as well be a slave from the 1800's You mention you are doing an MSc in Munich, wow that is great, I am also going to university to study biochemistry, something I love but my father did not support me going to university and was forbidding it. So you see how happy you are to go and study in Munich? Make sure you allow your daughter the same opportunities your father has allowed you otherwise she might resent you because her soul is crying out to explore the world and you are keeping her in a house like maid.
I wish inshallah the best for you and your family in the future. Teach her Islam by all means, but please please do not use it as a prison cell to keep her from knowing anything about anything.
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