get married. when one can not masturbate because it is haram and leads to porn, when one can not fast because it leads to psychosis due to the medications one is on, and one can not marry because it will take some time to get hired and hold down a basic job (which i am settling for....no more waiting till the end of college if it gets too bad), and be ready emotionally and heal my trauma so i dont run from attachment and committment, and perhaps finish my tech certification which lasts a few months so i can get a better job, as im not doing too well academically, but i cant marry as i am too immature, and i need healing from bpd, immaturity, emotional troubles, and compulsive sexual behavior. how can i deal with it in the mean time? can you please make dua so i can get married without running from committment? i havent tried marrying yet, but in the past when i would try dating, i cut it short within minutes or hours, though that is a bad example as i feared haram, but there are other examples of me having what the turks call "a monkey's appatite"
Re: When the sexual desires become overwhelming and one can not masturbate, fast, or.
Asalamualykum
Why don't you keep your mind and body busy in halaal activities? For example studying, sport, holding down a job, learning a new skill, building something for akhira, developing a relationship with Allah swt... etc.
We need to benefit from the time we are blessed with as this is something we will be questioned about. Generally speaking the more we feed a habit either a good habit or a bad habit the bigger the habit or desire gets.
Focus on healing - Insha Allah everything else will fall into place. There is no point adding more complexities to your life if you can't handle your current affairs.
Pain and hardships allow you to grow spiritually Alhamdulilah so smile when a so called calamity befalls upon you.
Alhamdulilah Allah swt is the greatest.
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