This is something that I usually ignore, but its becoming so common now when I go outside, that I wanted to seek some advice on what to do
Non-Muslim and Muslim couples make comments about my looks. And they make it obvious by staring me down, and clearly say things about me especially my looks.
For example, I went to the supermarket today, there was an young Asian woman who stared at me continuously then said something to her partner, I heard "she's pretty isn't she?" who turned around, and started staring at me as well.
When I noticed and asked them what is it was, and he said "nothing you *****" and then said to his partner "you're prettier than her." This was completely unprovoked.
I cover up, and I don't think I'm absolutely model level beautiful at all, quite the opposite and nor am I arrogant, but I don't know why people keep doing this.
Its so disrespectful and disgusting that people do this, especially directly?
Likewise, when I catch taken men staring me down sometimes, their partners get confrontational and rude towards me for no reason, when I didn't even do anything to get their attention. I am always minding my own business, not smiling etc.
I've read ayatul kursi and my daily prayers, I just need some advice on what I should do. I want to confront but I feel its not really worth it either.
And I do try to ignore this, but its triggering my anxiety and I also have schizophrenia so I talk to myself following on from those situations, when I am alone on what I would have done differently.
Its really affecting me, because I don't know why I feel targeted, objectified and I feel like I am not seen as a person... I can handle people glancing, or even staring I can't stop people doing that, but when comments are being made - especially from couples it makes me so angry.
I can't get married because I am a carer for my mother, and have no extended family.
I'll probably never will get married and that hurts me so much, so it especially angers me even more to see some people with such bad insecure partners.
I just need some reassurance that I am doing the right thing, by ignoring them and just getting on with things.
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