asalamu alaykum all my dear brothers and sisters in islam. may Allah grant u all many rewards for helping people and being kind towards one another, ameen.
my husband and i have a serious problem. my youngest child who is not from my husband has accused my husband of child molestation. my children have been taken out of our home and have been placed with paternal grandparents. she has given the counselors and police a very vivid description. my husband is beside himself. he is a muslim from birth and i am a revert alhamdulillah. i know deep down in my soul that my husband could never do this and he is worried that even without proof he will go to jail. he swears by Allah that he could never do such a thing to a child be it his wife's or any other. he didnt use to pray all the time but he has started back and swears he will never stop again. we talk about this every day and we just dont know who could have done such a thing to her. she told my husband this past summer that a friend she has told her that the friends brother makes the friend to things to him. and i believe my child has absorbed this information and believes it has happened to her. i also believe that she is jealous that she has to share her mom with someone else. for 7 years it was just us 4 girls. and she is wanting it back the same way.
i am so afraid for my family. please help with du'a.
actually my past has taught me what to look for, and i am seeing nothing different in my daughter. usually if she is telling a lie, she is almost pulling her clothes off, but when she tells the truth there is no fidgetting or pulling. and she always looks me in the eye when it's truth. but with her lies i get no eye contact which is what i get when i ask her about what happened. this is all just making my husband and i so crazy and stressed. our home is not a home anymore. it's too quiet. it has been 8 days since my children were taken from me and not 1 day passes that i dont cry. i am always asking Allah to guide my daughter to the truth and to help us. i have faith that he will. he has already helped twice in this mess. 1st he made it so i could give the children to their grandparents who live just across the street. and the doctor found no evidence which i have been praying for.
God bless u too dearheart
Sometimes trusting in God and waiting for his next move is all we can do - even if we yearn to see some action now and have instant solutions.
It is not in our human nature to wait for things patiently - especially when we are hurting or in fear!
I don't think I can give you any more advice sister, and yet I feel an urge to continue posting to you ... just so you know that I am thinking of you. That's all I can do, and it's very little ...
I'm glad to see you holding on to the positive things. Don't lose hope!
peace
Peace glo
Here I stand.
I can do no other.
May God help me.
Amen.
Come, let us worship and bow down •
and kneel before the Lord our Maker
[Psalm 95]
i too am worried how i will react if the children are ever allowed to come back home and my husband is found innocent. my youngest has put such a depression on me, i dont know if i will ever shake it.
Do not worry too much sis... this will all pass. Kids do all sorts of things... I'm sure she didn't realize what she was doing... don't forget she's still a little girl. A girl who has been influenced by the bad apples of society. Nothing that you cannot fix.
I'm sure you try to teach them about Islam... but, I think it's very important that they understand the values Islam teaches about family and kinship. I hope and pray that Allah guides them to Islam as that will create a better bond between the family; because they will not be joined by family bonds but by faith as well.
Trust in Allah to help you through this... If I were you.. I would encourage the oldest daughter to embrace Islam and be an example for the other sisters to follow. But, that is all up to Allah. Inshallah, everything will turn out for the best.
Stay strong sis... don't forget the power of Duah.
i would like to thank everyone for their help. especially glo, fi_sabilillah (spelling?) hamid, and F.Y.
may Allah bless you all for your kindness and the advice you give to your Ummah.
i am going to do whatever it takes to clear my husbands name and to bring our family back together.
glo, even though u think your help is very little, your posts have made me feel better, you have a very kind heart. may Allah reward you for your good deeds.
hamid, your posts have also helped me in ways i find difficult to express. may Allah continue to guide you, save you from the punishment of the grave and grant you jannatu firdows. ameen ameen ameen.
thank you all for your prayers and du'as on my behalf.
i love you all for the sake of Allah.
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