Opposite Gender Concerns

I actually agree with the better safe than sorry philosophy. If there is an attraction, things tend to happen that may not be in each person's best interest. However, I admit that this is a very hard concept to grasp in the West. In the West, we are encouraged to mix with the opposite genders, even to the point of having events to encourage opposite gender interaction. Many people are taught to date (but not get too serious), take your time before getting married, etc. So Islamic westerns have to go against the grain of the societal norm yet again.

As far as the friends thing goes, I have a few internet buddies that are male that I chat with from time to time. We have never met face to face and the topic of conversation is usually Islam. Once you get to the point of calling, hanging out, spending alot of time together, you are in danger of getting feelings involved. Worse, the feelings may even be one-sided! Save yourself and others from the headache and the heartache folks.

mashaAllah...what a nice post. well done everyone!

format_quote Originally Posted by Al Habeshi

Unless your a Muslim who believes in following man's laws and making our own laws then I don't see how the above can be right. Muslims dont pray because they think that prayer is good, nor do muslims not speak ill of one and other because they think it's bad. I have yet to see one ruling which is based on Muslim's perception.

I thought it was a Muslim man who made the gender segregation law. Either way, I'm confuzzled. >.< Care to put it in mo' simple words?

format_quote Originally Posted by Jazzy

Muslims dont make laws. We follow Laws God has given us.

But what about all those times when somebody asks a major figure in Islam about a certain topic? Do they look at their Quran and say, "It says here not to," or do they just make their own ruling based on their understanding of the Quran?

i was walking today and ive seen a sister with an hijab on with the most tightest pari of jeans ive ever seen in my life. and to top it of...she had on an revealing shirt on. as a sister, i wanted to talk to her and tell her that its haraam what she is wearing (i dont think its wrong...as a sister i should let her know) i greeted her very respectful and told her that its haraam what she is wearing and as a muslim woman...she should cover up more and loosen her pants. she got really upset and told me that she is cover up and that she feels its fine. she told me no one should judge her expect allah. she told me to leave her alone and that she doesnt have to wear that long black dress (sorry i dont know the name for it really sorry ) anywaz i was very upset because i dont think i did anything wrong. i strong agree that sister should dress more modest and not tight. did i do anything wrong???

format_quote Originally Posted by habibti4allah7

i was walking today and ive seen a sister with an hijab on with the most tightest pari of jeans ive ever seen in my life. and to top it of...she had on an revealing shirt on. as a sister, i wanted to talk to her and tell her that its haraam what she is wearing (i dont think its wrong...as a sister i should let her know) i greeted her very respectful and told her that its haraam what she is wearing and as a muslim woman...she should cover up more and loosen her pants. she got really upset and told me that she is cover up and that she feels its fine. she told me no one should judge her expect allah. she told me to leave her alone and that she doesnt have to wear that long black dress (sorry i dont know the name for it really sorry ) anywaz i was very upset because i dont think i did anything wrong. i strong agree that sister should dress more modest and not tight. did i do anything wrong???

No u dun good,may Allah forgive her,well done!!!

i had a sister come up to me and say that my hijabs were slightly bright and catches attention, is there something wrong with wearing bright scarfs? i'm dressing it down tho, i'm trying to wear black and browns buts its hard!

SubhanAllah, may Allah reward the sister for enjoining that which is good and forbiddance of that which is evil. some sisters need to realise that by wearing those tight jeans, the last thing a guy is gonna be thinking about is what her hair looks like under the headscarf! dress with modesty and adorn knowledge with actions.
WaAllahu A'lam

format_quote Originally Posted by habibti4allah7

i was walking today and ive seen a sister with an hijab on with the most tightest pari of jeans ive ever seen in my life. and to top it of...she had on an revealing shirt on. as a sister, i wanted to talk to her and tell her that its haraam what she is wearing (i dont think its wrong...as a sister i should let her know) i greeted her very respectful and told her that its haraam what she is wearing and as a muslim woman...she should cover up more and loosen her pants. she got really upset and told me that she is cover up and that she feels its fine. she told me no one should judge her expect allah. she told me to leave her alone and that she doesnt have to wear that long black dress (sorry i dont know the name for it really sorry ) anywaz i was very upset because i dont think i did anything wrong. i strong agree that sister should dress more modest and not tight. did i do anything wrong???

Khayr Insha Allah Ukhti. Your intention was good Insha Allah May Allah reward you.
Sisters are very sensitive about these issues so one has to be awary of how to approach them. It is good what you did but maybe next time be-friend the sister before you advice her. Rather then say "Sister what your wearing is haram!" maybe ask her name, give her a leaftlet or invite her to the Masjid or a talk or something.

she told me no one should judge her expect allah.

lollll, everytime they don't like to face the truth they use this excuse. in general when u tell something that they're wrong, they get mad and don't like critics.

sis, elhamdulilah you have completed your duty as a sister to tell her. now it's up to her.

i've seen some sisters, it's like they have the hijab, but a part of their chest is uncovered. lollll

That's not hijab - Baba Ali
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F4jQi0Gjy3M

format_quote Originally Posted by Jazzy

Long years of study and understanding of the Qur'an isnt "making" new laws. Saying we make the laws is saying its man-made. Unless u mean otherwise, u should be clear We dont make our "own" ruling. Rulings r presented according to the Qur'an and Sunnah.

So when someone asks Muhammad (pbuh) or one of his close friends about something like marrying a widow, they aren't making their own ruling, they are going by what the Qur'an specifically says?