Where do I begin? This may come as a shock to some of you (as it was to me), but I don't know, maybe you could give me some advice.
The other day i met with a friend of mine at my university prayer room. It was just a general chat but then she started talking about marriage. She's 21.
She is interested in some guy in one of her classes, who is not muslim. He has liked her for ages (she said since last year!!) but she has just ignored him (being religious alhamdualillah) and he has realised that with her being a muslim woman - he should leave her alone. Apparently he still likes her coz she said he keeps lookin at her, but he is also shy to talk to her.
She said that she liked his decency for doing what he did - (not coming up and chattin her up). She then said (shock horror) that she reckons she should talk to this guy in a public place, know what he is like ("without being flirtatious" - if thats gonna be possible!) and then tell him exactly what she thinks - that she's interested in marrying him, but he would have to become a muslim. I asked her how she was gonna do all this and she said that she'd give him information through dvd's, literature, etc. She mentioned that she wouldnt 'make him' become a muslim but give him a choice. if he said he wouldnt become a muslim after reading the information and stuff about Islam, she'd leave him alone and not bother. But if he agreed to be muslim, she'd tell her parents and things would go from there.She asked me what I think she should do.
It seemed a little far-fetched to me....but I didnt know what to say to her.
Can anyone, anywhere give me some advice on what to say to her? I am just tongue-tied when i go near her, coz i just dont know what to say. :zip: I'm stressin out for her coz she seems rather confused too!
Tell the sister to stay away from him. Sisters are not might to chit chat with non-Mahrams. No point liking him if he hasn't got the quality of a Muslim even worst is that he is not a Muslim!
I won't agree for a non-muslim guy to marry a muslim girl even though he says he is now a muslim even for six months or 12 months unless there was like some known brother living with him or has close ties some people say their muslim but their deceivers they want to take you out of being a muslim, and drive you nuts.
Do you think perhaps your generalising there, just a bit...
And erm, about the Dajjal, do you have a source for that???
For crying out loud. People are not reading the query properly. She WILL NOT marry him if he is NOT a muslim. Please dont keep repeating "It is not allowed for a muslim girl to marry a non-muslim." She already knows this. And she wouldnt do it.
I am surprised that this thread has restarted after so long...
Peace.
Tell ur friend that she should tell her parents before asking the boy to come into islam.
Then if everything works out then she should get her father to talk to him and things will go from there.
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