I come for advice in great distress. I simply don't know what to do and I kindly ask for a dua or a surah from the Holy Quran to help me cope the difficult situation I am facing
About a year a go my husband left me because of another woman. This came as a shock to me as we had a very loving and understanding relationship, his sudden decision ruined my whole life. I loved him still and a part from being my significant other he was my every thing. With no choice, i left him with a heavy heart. That was almost a year ago. Since he is no longer my mehram I have no choice but to move one, but my heart wont let me. I have turned to family and friends for comfort and support, yet everyones assurances on that "time will heal all wounds" have fallen short.
I can't seem to forget about him, and a year prior to the incident my wounds are still fresh and hurting...another problem is I cant seem to cut him out of my life...and i feel weak and desperate. We are no longer living like husband and wife, naturally...but i wish to never see him again. Yet i feel my own weakness will never let me.
oh sis , if u 2 are divorced , u must not stay with him alone as this is not allowed anymore . If u need to talk to him , u have to do it in presence of someone else to avoid the temptation of Satan. Don't let him touch u again as it's haram.
Pl. offer Ishthekhara prayer & take a decision. Talk to any professional marriage counsellor . Online free help is also availabe .. i guess.
feel free to pm/ email me if u need to talk to me.
may Allah make it easy for u , Ameen.
Thank you sister I haven't done anything unlawful, nor will I. I have made it clear that he cant push the line that is between us now...and i think this time he finally got it. I haven't heard from him in a while now.
I am trying to keep busy, but it is hard. I study so school keeps me a little busy, but ever since the break up my mood and concentration has been low...i cant get out of this gloomy depression.
I have family with me, I am living with them. I do have their love and support...but a part of me just died or went missing when this relationship ended. There is a void there i feel no one can fill....
Sis all I can say is this --- Under no circumstances let him back in your life -- no contact is the best thing -- because its over yes but also cause too much time has passed, words have been said, tears have been shed, and love and trust broken. You cant go back to how it was as it will never be that way again.
Im sorry if this is harsh on you but it something that took me ages to realise myself. I always always held out hope that things will go back to how it used to be. But it just can't --- its better to cut contact and drift apart. You can cut him out of your immediately but cutting him from your thoughts will take time.
And thats what they mean by time heals wounds --- with time you think less and less about him. Now is the time to grieve sis (if you havent already) -- yes you gotta say goodbye to that part of your life and day by day rediscover yourself and gain a deeper connection with allah and your self.
Increase your worship and fInd out what it is that excites you interests you and explore them. You might surprise yourself and be capable of doing things you never thought you could.
Just remember sis its hard but a step and day at a time -- pick up your life and start moving forwards inshaAllah. This is "ME" time sis -- so make the most of it grieve, heal, rediscover, reenergise and inshaAllah when time is right you will be able to marry again and be able to be there emotionally.
And sis, the doctor is always there for chat too --- doctors arent just there for your physical health but your mental and emotional health too -- go speak to your doc sis inshaallah they can also help--- its time like these I wish there was a professional islamic counselling service, Inshaallah with time.
Anyways sis --- ive developed a thing for long posts lol i gotta stop -- if you need a chat im here inshaAllah.
Is it possible to forgive your husband and pray for him, that Allah may also forgive him for all the wrongs he has done you.
I believe that we can understand more fully how God can forgive us our sins if we also forgive them. If we cannot forgive them, how can we understand and accept that God will forgive them and us.
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I haven't done anything unlawful, nor will I. I have made it clear that he cant push the line that is between us now...and i think this time he finally got it. I haven't heard from him in a while now.
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