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WomanOfJihad
01-30-2005, 01:49 PM
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i think it is important to keep reminding our muslim brothers n sisters the etiquettes in Islam .. living in a western society ..the majority of the people become westernised, they want to act and adopt their style of living , BUT WHYY ? ... they r muslimss they shud b folllowing the ways of our Prophet saw and not the Kuffars ... some people naudhubillah go to the extent that they consider it improper to follow the ways of our beloved prophet saw and fear that they will be laughed at or accused in following the sunah. if a non muslim mocks anyone who acts on islamic teachings, why should he fear him?... more like he shud have in mind what his beloved prophet saw says and wants him to do. our beloved prophet saw's dress, his life, everything he did shud b our way of life (inshAllah). wHY SHUD WE FEEL SHY in obeying the Commands of Allah swt ? if we were to ask the mUslim brothers n sisters if they love allah swt ..then indeed they all r goin to say YES THEY LOVE Allah swt.. so if you love Allah swt then follow him .. (inshAllah)

if we live as the prophet saw did , then we bcome the beloved of Allah .. (subhanAllah)
the quran was revealed to the prophet saw about one thousand five hundred years ago ..why do we feel shy n why cant we be bothered to obey something that has beenthere so long? even other people follow their elders and dntfeel shy about it..then why is it that we learn the ways of the enemies of islam?

so inshAllah .. reminding brothers n sisters of the etiquette swill be very beneficial n we shud all try and act upon watever etiquetees wil be posted.. (Jazakahumullahu Khairan)

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Far7an
01-30-2005, 02:35 PM
1- Dining Ethics:

1. Start eating with the name of Allah (Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem) and conclude with praising and thanking Allah (Al-Hamdu Lillahi Rabbil-Aalameen). Eat from the nearest side of the dish to you and use your right hand, because the left hand is generally used for cleaning dirt.

Bukhari and Muslim narrated on the authority of ‘Umar Ibn Abi Salamah, may Allah be pleased with them, that the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said to him: “Mention the name of Allah, eat with your right hand and eat from the nearest side of the dish.”

2. Never complain or disapprove of food whatsoever.

Bukhari and Muslim narrated on the authority of Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, that; “The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, has never found fault with any food. If he liked it, he would eat it, if not he would just leave it.”

3. Avoid eating or drinking to excess in the light of the Qur’anic words:

“Eat and drink, but be not prodigal. Lo! He loves not the prodigals.” (The Qur'an, Al-Aaraf 7:31) And the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) ’s words: “The son of Adam (man) has never filled a vessel worse than his stomach. If there is no way out, let there be a third for his meal, another for his drink and another for his breath.” (Narrated by Ahmad)

4. Never breath or blow into vessels. According to Ibn Abbas the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said:

“Forbade breathing or blowing into the dish.” (Al Tirmidhi)

5. Eat with others, not alone, since Allah’s Messenger says:

“Gather around your food so that it may be blessed.” (Abu Dawud and Tirmidhi)

6. If you are invited to a meal and you take somebody with you, you should seek permission for him. According to Abu Mas’ud Al-Badri, may Allah be pleased with him, a man invited Allah’s The Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) to a meal along with four other people. A man followed the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam). At the door, the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said to the host:

“This man has come with us: If you’permit, he will come in; if not he will go back.” The host said: I give him my permission, O Allah’s Messenger.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
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Far7an
01-30-2005, 02:35 PM
2. Ethics of Seeking Permission:

There are two kinds of ethics: a. Those relating to out-of-door formalities: “O you who believe! Enter not houses other than your own without first announcing your presence and invoking peace upon the folk thereof...” (The Qur'aan, Chapter An-Nur, 24: 27) b. Those relating to indoor formalities: “And when the children among you come to puberty then let them ask permission even as those before them used to ask it...” (Qur’an, Chapter An-Nur, 24: 59) This is all intended to keep household secrets and protect the privacy of homes, as pointed out in the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) ’s saying: “Asking permission is intended for sight protection.” (Bukhari and Muslim) It is advisable not to persist in asking permission: “You have to ask permission three times. If you are not allowed in, go back.” (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim)
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Far7an
01-30-2005, 02:35 PM
3. Ethics of Greeting (Salam)

Islam has encouraged the custom of greetings among the members of Society because it leads to love and friendship. This is supported by the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) ’s Hadith: “You will never enter Paradise until you become believers, and you will not become believers until you love each other. Shall I guide you to something that makes you love each other? Spread greetings with peace among you.” (Muslim) - Answering a greeting is obligatory: “When you are greeted with a greeting, reply with a better one or return it...” (The Qur’an, Chapter An-Nisa’a, 4: 86)

Islam has also explained obligations in matters of greeting priorities. According to the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “A rider should greet a pedestrian, a pedestrian should greet him who is seated, and a small number of people should greet a bigger number.” (Narrated by both Bukhari and M) In one narration by Bukhari, it is added: A little or young person should greet an older one).
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Far7an
01-30-2005, 02:36 PM
4. Ethics of Sitting:

1. Greet attendants of the meeting or gathering. It is stated by Allah’s Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him: “If one comes to a meeting he should say: Assalamu Alaykum! (I.e. Peace be upon you!) And on leaving he should do the same, for the first greeting is not more important than latter.” (Abu Dawud and Tirmidhi)

2. It is not appropriate to ask someone to leave his sitting place for someone else: “Never should anyone of you make someone rise from his place and sit in his place; rather, make more room for others to sit.” (Bukhari and Muslim)

3. “If someone leaves his sitting place then returns to it, he will have more right to it”, as stated by the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), peace and blessings of Allah be upon him.” (Muslim)

4. Never separate two persons sitting: “It is not permissible for a man to separate two men (by inserting himself sitting between them) unless they give permission.” (Abu Dawud and Tirmidhi)

5. Never talk to a friend privately in the presence of a third person: “If there are three of you, never should two of them talk without the third until you mix with other people, for this would grieve the third.” (Bukhari)

6. Never sit in the middle of a circle or group of people: “Damned is he who sits in the middle of a sitting group.” (Abu Dawud)

7. Leave space for others to sit: “O you who believe! When it is said, make room in assemblies, then make room; Allah will make way for you (hereafter). And when it is said, come up higher! Go up higher; Allah will exalt those who believe among you, and those who have knowledge, to high ranks. Allah is Well-Aware of what you do.” (The Qur’an, Chapter Al-Mujadalah, 58: 11)

8. It is desirable to suppress yawning as far as possible as it is a sign of laziness: “Yawning is from Satan, so when one of you yawns let him try to repel it as far as possible, for if one utters ‘Ha!’ (When yawning) the devil will laugh at him.” (Bukhari and Muslim)

9. About sneezing, the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) says: “If one of you sneezes, let him say: Praise be to Allah! And his Muslim brother should say to him: May Allah have mercy on you! upon which he answers: May Allah guide you and make you well.” (Bukhari) It is also advisable for a person, as stated by Allah’s Messenger on the authority of Abu Hurairah, “on sneezing, to cover his mouth with his hand or garment and suppress his voice.” (Abu Dawud and Tirmidhi)

10. Avoid belching while sitting in the presence of others. According to Ibn Umar, may Allah be pleased with him and his father, one man belched in the presence of Allah’s Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, upon which the Messenger said to him: “stop belching, The biggest eaters in this worldly life will be the hungriest in the Hereafter.” (Tirmidhi Bin Majah)

11. The assembly should not be busy with nonsense or void of the remembrance of Allah and useful discussions of worldly and religious affairs. Allah’s messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said in this connection: “Any people who rise from an assembly in which the name of Allah is not mentioned are like those who rise from around a donkey’s carrion, and the assembly will be a source of sorrow for them.” (Abu Dawud)

12. A person should not face those sitting with him with what they dislike.
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Far7an
01-30-2005, 02:36 PM
5. Ethics of Gathering:

Islam respects the feeling of people who gather at a place to make gathering desirable and repel all that causes people to hate gathering. Therefore, Islam instructs its followers to be clean-bodied, with no bad smell, and clean-dressed, with no disgusting sights. It also instructs them to listen to the speaker without interrupting him and to sit where they find room without stepping over people’s necks or causing them any inconvenience by pressing against them. This is supported by the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) ’s saying while addressing Muslims during Friday sermon: “Whoever has a bath on Friday, puts on the best of his clothes, puts some scent on if any, then attends Friday prayer without crossing over people’s necks and performs whatever rak’as he could, then keeps quiet when the Imam mounts the pulpit until he concludes prayer, his prayer will be an atonement for the whole week preceding that prayer”. (Abu Dawud).
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Far7an
01-30-2005, 02:37 PM
6. Etiquette of Conversation:

1. Listen to the speaker without interrupting him until he finishes talking. In his speech during the Farewell Pilgrimage, Allah’s Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said, “Ask people to keep quiet.” (Bukhari and Muslim).

2. Talk clearly so that the listener may understand you. Ayeshah, the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) ’s wife, said: “The Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) ’s words were so clear-cut that everyone could understand them.” (Abu Dawud)

3. Cheer up and speak pleasantly. This is in accordance with the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) ’s Hadith: “Do not underestimate any kind of acts, even to receive your brother cheerfully.” (Muslim), and his other Hadith: “A good word is an act of kindness.” (Bukhari and Muslim). Al-Hussain, may Allah be pleased with him, said: “I asked my Father about the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) ’s behavior among his companions”, to which he answered: “He was always cheerful, easy mannered and lenient. He was not rough, noisy, vulgar, insulting, or miserly. He used to overlook what he dislikes without depriving others of hope or answering them negatively. He refrained from disputation, prattling and curiosity. He spared others from three things: He never censured, found fault with or spied on them. He spoke only what he hoped would be rewarded. When he spoke, his listeners lowered their head quietly and when he was silent they spoke. They never spoke haphazardly in front of him. If one talked in his presence they listened to him until he had finished. He used to laugh and wonder at what they laughed or wondered at. He was patient with strangers who were rude in both their talk and requests.”
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Far7an
01-30-2005, 02:37 PM
7. Etiquette of Joking:

1. Allah’s Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said to his companion Hanzala, who thought that life should be free from fun and entertainment and that he committed hypocrisy when he played and jested with his wife and children: “But, Hanzala, refresh your heart from time to time.” (Muslim). Here the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) explained to the man that permissible fun and self-refreshment is desirable for the human soul to regain its activity and liveliness. He, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, also taught them the rules of conduct as regards joking, when asked about his joking with them, by saying: “Yes, but I speak truthfully.” (Tirmidhi).

2. Once an old woman came to him and said: O Messenger of Allah, pray to Allah for me to be admitted into Paradise. He said: "No old woman will be admitted into Paradise. On hearing this she went away crying. He said: Tell her that she won’t be an old woman when she goes into Paradise. Allah, the Exalted, says: “Lo! We have created them a (new) creation and made them virgins, lovers, friends.” (Qur’an, Chapter Al-Qamar, 54: 35-37)

3. Allah’s Messenger’s jokes were not limited to words, they included acts as well. Anas Ibn Malik, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “A bedouin called Zaher used to bring presents from the desert to the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) and the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) used also to supply him with provisions on leaving. He said about him: “Zaher is our ‘desert’ and we are his ‘city’. The Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) loved him, though he was ugly-faced. One day, the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) came to him while he was selling some goods. He hugged him from the back unawares. Zaher said: “Release me.” Then he looked behind him and recognized the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), so he pressed his back against the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) ’s chest. The Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) called out: “Who purchases this slave?” Zaher said: “O Messenger of Allah, You will find me not sellable”. The Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) answered: “But to Allah, you are not unsalable, or he said: To Allah, you are so dear”. (Tirmidhi)

4. A joke should not involve any hurt or insult to any Muslim. Allah’s Messenger said: “No Muslim is allowed to scare another Muslim.” (Abu Dawud) He also said: “Nobody should take (Muslim) brother’s belongings.” (Abu Dawud and Tirmidhi)

5. Joking should not drive a Muslim to lie in order to make others laugh; this is understood from the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) ’s words: “Woe to him who lies when speaking to make people laugh. Woe to him! Woe to him!”
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Far7an
01-30-2005, 02:38 PM
8. Etiquette of Condolence

1. Condolence has been prescribed to console the dead person’s family, relieve their sorrows and alleviate their distress. Allah’s Messenger said: “A believer who condoles with his brother on a bereavement will be dressed by Allah in the robes of honor and glory on the Day of Resurrection”

2. There is no specific formula for condolence. However, Imam Shafi’i recommended the expression: “May Allah magnify your reward, give you solace and forgive your deceased one.”

3. It is desirable to prepare food for the family of the deceased as is clear from the following Hadith: “Make food for Ja’afar’s family as they are distracted by the event.”
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Far7an
01-30-2005, 02:38 PM
9. Etiquette of Sleeping:

1. Mention the name of Allah: “Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem” and lie on your right side in accordance with the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) ’s words to Al-Baraa bin Azeb: “If you want to go to bed, perform ablution as that for prayer, then lie down on your right side, and say: O Allah! I submit myself to You, and turn my face towards You, and confide my cause unto You, and take refuge in You, out of love and fear of You. There is no refuge or escape from You except in You. I believe in Your Book, which You have revealed and Your Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), whom You have sent as Messenger.” (Bukhari and Muslim)

2. “Do not sit late at night and do your best to sleep early unless there is some need or necessity. It is narrated that the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) disliked sleeping before Isha’ (evening) Prayer and (sitting and) talking after it.” (Bukhari and Muslim)

3. Do not sleep on your belly, as this was prohibited by the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam): “Such manner of lying down is disliked by Allah.” (Abu Dawud)

4. Make sure there is nothing that hurts you at your bed, as recommended by the gracious The Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) : “When one of you goes to bed, he should clear his bed with part of his loincloth as he does not know what is lying inside after he has left it, and let him say”: Allahumma bika wada’tu janbi, wabika arfauh. Allahumma in amsakta nafsi faghfir laha, wa in arsaltaha fahfazha bima tahfazu bihi ibadakas-Salihan. (O Allah! With Your name I have lain on my side, and with Your name I raise it. O Allah! If You hold my soul (i.e. take my life), then have mercy on it, and if You return it, then protect it with what You protect Your pious servants) (Bukhari and Muslim)

5. Take care and ward off the sources of danger. The Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “This fire is an enemy to you, so when you want to sleep put it off”. (Bukhari)
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Far7an
01-30-2005, 02:39 PM
11. Etiquette of Traveling

1. Return trusts to their owners, settle grievances and debts, and leave for your family sufficient provisions. Never travel alone except in cases of emergency when you find no company. The Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “One passenger is one devil, two passengers are two devils, but three passengers make a caravan.” (Abu Dawud, Nasa’i and Tirmidhi)

2. On traveling, choose good company and select one of you as your leader. The Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “When three people set out on a journey they should appoint one of them as a leader.´ (Abu Dawud)

3. You should inform your family of the time of your arrival back to them. Do not return home at night as this is undesirable so that you should not see anything that you dislikes. The Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “If one of you is absent from home for a long time, he should not come back to his family by night”. In another version of the Hadith, the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) prohibited a man returning home by night. (Bukhari and Muslim)

4. He should say goodbye to his family, friends and companions, as the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “If one of you intends to set out on a journey, let him say goodbye to his brothers, for Allah Almighty will make in their prayers a blessing for him.”

5. He should return home quickly after he achieve the objective of his journey. The Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “Travel is a piece of anguish as it deprives each traveler (of you) of the facilities of eating, drinking and sleeping. Therefore, when one of you has completed the purpose of his journey he should return home quickly.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
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Far7an
01-30-2005, 02:40 PM
12. Conduct in the Market:

1. Among the rules of behavior in the market are those included in the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam)’ s words when he said: “Refrain from sitting in the streets.” The Companions said: “O Messenger of Allah, we have no alternative, there is no other place where we can sit and discuss matters.” Allah’s Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: “If it is so, then in that case, discharge your responsibilities due to the street.”

2. The Companions asked as to what was due to the street. He said: “Keeping your eyes down, clearing the streets of obstacles, responding to Salam greetings, enjoining virtuous deeds and forbidding evil.” (Bukhari and Muslim). In another narration he added: “Helping the aggrieved and guiding the aberrant.” (Abu Dawud)

He also said: “Beware of two cursed practices.” His Companions asked: What are the two cursed practices? He, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, answered: “A person answering the call of nature in a public thoroughfare or in a shady place (where people rest).” (Muslim)

3. A passer-by should refrain from carrying harmful weapons or devices, as enjoined by the Gracious Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) who said:. “When any one of you happens to move in our mosque or bazaar with an arrow (in his hand) he must grasp its pointed head in his palm, so that none amongst the Muslims should receive any injury from it.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
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Far7an
01-30-2005, 02:40 PM
13. Etiquette of Buying and Selling

1. In principle, selling is lawful in Islam because it is based on exchange of benefits between the salesman and the purchaser. However, in case any harm occurs to either party, the dealing becomes unlawful based on the following verse: “O you who believe! Squander not your wealth among yourselves in vanity.” (The Qur'aan, Chapter An-Nisa’a, 4: 29)

2. It is also based on the Holy Messenger’s Hadith, when he happened to pass by a heap of eatables (corn). He thrust his hand in that heap and his fingers were moistened. He said to the owner of that heap: “What is this?” He replied: “Messenger of Allah, these have been drenched by rainfall”. He (the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) remarked: “Why did you not place this (the drenched part of the heap) on top so that people could see it? He who deceives is not of me (i.e. not my follower).” (Muslim)

3. Truthfulness and clear description (of defects, if any) is required in accordance with the Holy Messenger’s saying: “Both parties in a business transaction have the right to annul it as long as they have not separated. Thus, if they speak the truth and make everything clear they will be blessed in their transaction; but if they tell a lie and conceal anything, the blessing their transaction will be blotted out." (Bukhari and Muslim)

4. Benevolence and fair dealing is also recommended in business, since this is a means of strengthening seller-buyer relations as pointed out by Allah’s messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him: “May Allah have mercy on a person who is easy and courteous when he sells, buys or asks for the payment of his dues.” (Bukhari) That is because Islam wants this ease of dealing and tolerance in matters of selling and buying to save people from panting for material interests that undermine brotherly and human relations.

5. Avoid swearing oaths when selling, in compliance with the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) ’s instruction: “Avoid too much swearing while selling (your goods), for in the beginning it promotes business and then it brings all loss.” (Muslim)

The above are some of the Islamic Etiquette and ethics, and there are many others that would take a very long time to explain. Nevertheless, it would suffice here to remind that no human affair, private or public, goes without Qur’anic or the Prophetic instruction or guidance that defines or regulates it.
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Far7an
01-30-2005, 02:41 PM
Source: Aspects of Islamic Etiquette

By Abdur-Rahman A. Al-Sheeha


For those of you who have read the book, you will know why i deliberatly excluded point number 10 :zip:
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Far7an
01-30-2005, 04:48 PM
fawzan???

i dont wish to post it, ill pm it to you insha allah
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WomanOfJihad
01-30-2005, 07:16 PM
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SUBHANALLAH BRother Farhan .. looks like u have more or less covered everything .. JazakAllahu Khairn for ur efforts .. :applaud:

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Far7an
01-30-2005, 07:22 PM
wa eyak, May ALLAH keep us all steadfast and forgive us for our shortcomings
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WomanOfJihad
04-13-2005, 08:36 PM
SUNNAH METHOD OF COUNTING ON ONE'S FINGERS

Our beloved Nabi S.a.w has ecouraged us to make zikr and count on our fingers as the fingers shall then be able testify to our remembering Allah on the day of Qiyamah.. keepin count of the fingers in any way is sunnah .. but during our nabi s.a.w time there existed a specific method. by means of this method one shall be able to keep count upto 10,000 - ( Clearly indicating that the sunnah way is the best , most beautiful and most perfect way of doing a thing) .. inshAllah..

COUNTING FROM 1 to 9

Counting from 1 to 9 is done by opening and closing only the little, middle and ring fingers. The Index finger , thumb and Left hand is nt used


ONE : is formed by closing the little finger of the right hand

TWO :is formed by closing the ring finger also

THREE: is formed by closing the middle finger also

FOUR: is formed by opening the little finger but the ring finger and middle fingers should still be closed

FIVE: is formed if the ring finger is also opened

SIX : is formed by opening out the middle finger and closing the Ring Finger towards the wrist by stretching it

SEVEN : is formed by opening the ring finger and stretchin and closing
( towards the wrist) the little finger.

EIGHT: is formed in the same way the ring finger shoud also be closed Stretching towards the wrist ..

NINE: is formed if the midddle finger is similarly closed.. Stretchin towards the wrist

Note: One shud Understand the Difference between 1 , 2 , 3 AND 7, 8, 9

1 2 3 the fingers are closed normally like only til the end of a finger
7 8 and 9 shud b closed stretching towards the wrist

to b continued...

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Umm Yoosuf
04-13-2005, 10:07 PM
I didn't get....I need to re-read it Insha Allah!
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BlissfullyJaded
04-14-2005, 06:38 AM
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Jazakallah khair bro farhan and sis WomanOfJihad. :thumbs_up

The sunnah way of counting on the fingers is tricky in the beginning.. loq. InshaAllah I'll get better at that... :)
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Uthman
04-14-2005, 03:38 PM
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Jazakallah khair! :) Very informative! Please hurry up with the next part WomanOfJihad! :)

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WomanOfJihad
04-15-2005, 01:16 PM
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COUNTING the TENS Which are Formed by the usage Of the Right hands INDEX FINGER and THUMB ONLY


TEN : formed by placing the tip of the index Finger on the top line of the thumb ( thereby Forming a cicrle)

TWENTY : formed by placing the thumb nail at the botom end of the index finger ( i.e. between index and Middle finger)


THIRTY : formed by joining the tips of the Thumb and Index finger

FORTY : formed by placing the thumb on the lower bak portion of the index finger

FIFTY : is formed by placing the thumb on that line which is on the edge of the palm between the Index finger and Thumb ( Hope theres no Difficulty understanding this inshAlah)

SIXTY : formed by bending the thumb and on its (thumb's) nail to place the second line of the Index finger

SEVENTY : is formed by the top of the thumb touching the top line of the Index finger

EIGHTY: is formed by placing the tip of the index Finger on the bent bak of the thumb

NINETY : formed by placing the tip of the Index Finger on the lower joint of the thumb ( basically on the second line of the thumb)


* IT may Seem Complicated for the members to Understand .. but Use the brainz more harder inshAllah *
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Uthman
04-15-2005, 03:19 PM
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Jazakallah khair. :) Again, very informative. :) Now, let me try to work it out Insha'Allah. :)

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Ra`eesah
05-06-2005, 01:56 AM
Assalamu'Alaykum


The Etiquettes of Eating

Courtesy: From ad-Dawal ila-Allah




These rewards and blessings can be attained only by those keen to imbibe the Guidance and Example (Sunnah) of the Prophet Muhammad (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) into every mode of their lives, seeking thereby none but the Face of Allaah. For such people, their whole lives become 'Ebadah (worship). Even the act of eating and drinking upon which all living things depend can become acts of 'Ebadah. Thus, by acquainting ourselves with the Sunnah of eating and drinking we too can turn this mundane exercise into an act of worship and a source of blessing, Insha'Allaah!!

The Etiquettes of Eating

1] How to Begin

When a Muslim begins to eat, he should begin with the name of Allaah. As the Prophet Muhammad (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) said: 'When one of you eats, he should mention Allah's name (i.e. say 'Bismillah); if he forgets to mention Allah's name at the beginning, he should say (when he remembers): I begin in the name of Allah at the beginning and at the end of it ( Bismillah awwalahu wa Akhirahoo)." [2]

The Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) explained that shaitan partakes in the food if the name of Allaah is not recited at the start of eating. However if one forgets in the beginning and then remembers and says the aforementioned du'aa shaitan is made to vomit out what he has eaten. [3]

2] The Manners of Eating

The best manner in which to eat food is with the fingers. The Companion, lbn Ka'ab ibn Maalik reported that he saw the Messenger (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) eating with three fingers and when he finished, he would lick them. [4] Sadly nowadays, the Muslims are choosing to imitate the disbelievers rather than the Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) and are choosing to eat with knives and forks rather than the finger's. Although it is not at all forbidden (haraam) to eat with a Knife and fork, to con*sider this a better and more cultured or civilized way to eat is definitely wrong, since this is to consider someone else's way to be superior to that of the Prophet's. It should also be men*tioned that if one does choose to eat with a knife and fork, then they should make sure that the fork is in the right and not in the left hand as is the convention with the disbelievers. This is because to eat with the left hand is forbidden. The Prophet, (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) said: "Do not eat with your left hand for shaitaan eats with his left hand," [5]

Another thing which the Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) taught us about the man*ners of eating is that we should always eat from what is near*est to us and not from the middle of the plate. The reason for this is that the blessings come down upon the food in its mid*dle, therefore it should be left to last. [6]

3] The Manners of Sitting whilst Eating.

It would probably come as no surprise to us to learn that unlike the arrogant manner traditionally associated with the Greeks and Romans, the Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) would never eat from a reclining position.[7]

His whole life was a model of modesty and humility and this was no less in his manner of eating. The Companion Anas, radhi Allahu Anhu' each reported that he saw Allaah's Messenger squatting and eating dates.[8] Other times, the Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) would sit on his knees, as reported by 'Abdullaah ibn Busr who said that the Prophet was sitting on his knees upon which a bedouin said: 'What is this sitting?' The Prophet (sallallahu alahi wa-sallam) replied, "Allaah has made me a respectable servant and He did not make me an obstinate tyrant. [9]

4] Don't Criticize Food:Aboo Hurairah, radhiAllahu 'anhu reported that the Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) never found fault with food. If he liked it, he would eat it, but if he disliked it, he just left it.

This is how our Prophet was. Yet if we look to ourselves today, we find that we are ever ready to criticize whatever we find on our plate. This is extreme ingratitude to Allaah on our part and next time we think of complaining about food or maybe moaning that 'there's nothing to eat' even though our fridges are full, we should spare a thought for all those people both Muslim and non-Muslims who don't know where their next meal is coming from. So we should instead be grateful as instructed by Allaah:

"0 You who believe! Eat of the good things that we have provided for you and be grateful to Allaah, if it is He you worship." [al-Baqarah(2): 17)

5] DON'T LEAVE FOOD FOR SHAITAAN
As Muslms we must be aware that shaitaan is around us wher*ever we are and whatever we are doing. Even when we are eating shaitaan is in our presence, waiting to grasp any oppor*tunity he can to fill his belly. This is why the Prophet, (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) commanded us never to waste food, because food that we waste is eaten by shaitaan. He (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) said: "The shaitaan is present with everyone of you in everything he does; he is even present when he eats food, so if any on of you drops a mouthful, he should remove away anything filthy on it and eat it and not leave it for the devil; and when he finishe, he should lick his fingers for he does not know in what portion of his food the blessing ties." [11]

So here, the Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) enumerated another reason why we should not waste food i.e. we may deprive ourselves of the blessings which are contained n the food. this should be sufficient encouragement fares to appreciate the value of food and not waste it.

6] DON'T EAT TOO MUCH
One of the worst habits we nave adopted as a result of our relatively luxurious lifestyle is the habit of overeating and not showing any restraint in that. How many times can we think of where we have eaten so much that we can barely breathe, or where we can feel the food coming up to our throats?! This eating pattern does not befit the Muslim, who should do all things in moderation, including his eating. The Prophet, (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) said: "A Believer eats in one intestine, whereas a non-believer eats in seven intestines"[12]

Therefore it is not for us to eat till we are completely satiated; rather we should eat such that the hunger goes but there is still room for more.

7] AFTER EATING
When we have finished eating, we should always remember Allaah and be grateful to Him, for He is ar-Razzaaq, the Provider and our Sustainer We should express this gratitude in the manner in which the Prophet taught us. He said: "One who has eaten some food and then says: 'AlI praise is for Allaah, who has given me this (food to eat] and provided me without any effort or power on my part', he will have his sins forgiven. (Alhamdulillaahil-lazee at'amanaa haadha warazaqeenee min ghairi hawlin minnee wala quwwah)." [13]

SubhaanAllaah! The reward for just saying this short du'aa is so great, too great to neglect. Can we afford to miss out on such opportunities of Allaah's Mercy and Forgiveness?

8] A MEANS OF DRAWING CLOSER TO ALLAAH
The ahaadeeth mentioned here only cover some of the Islamic etiquettes of eating which the Messenger Muhammad (sallalahu alaihi wa-sallam) taught us. Many more hadeeth on this subject are to be found in the books of hadeeth such as Saheeh al-Bukharee, Saheeh Muslim and others. But just a few narra*tions cited here give us some indication of the attention that the Companions paid to even the smallest details of the prophet's Sunnah (example). Many of us today may consider such matters to be 'trivial' or 'insignificant,' but we find the Companions did not take these matters lightly. They consid*ered such details important enough to preserve through careful transmission which their successors meticulously recorded in the books of hadeeth so that they could be read by genera*tions to come. It is up to us whether we want to benefit from the knowledge they carried for us or not.

So during this blessed month of Ramadhan, when we take the suhoor (the predawn meal) and break our fasts, we have an excellent opportunity to transform an everyday practice of eating and drinking into an act of worship and a source of blessing for us. Every mouthful of food we take will serve as a reminder of Alaah's great favour upon us and His Mercy and this in turn will cause us to earn favour with Allah, for the Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wa-sallam) said: "Indeed Allah is pleased with His servant who, when he eats a morsel, praises Him for it, or drinks a sip and then praises Him for it." [14]

May Allaah grant us the ability to become of His thankful servants. Aameen.

FOOTNOTES

[1] There is a common misconception that to wash ones hands before eating is from Sunnah. This is based on the hadeeth which alleges that the Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wa-sallam) said: The blessing of the food is in washing the hands before it and after it. [Ahmed, Aboo Dawood and others] It should be known however that this hadeeth is daef (week) according to Aboo Dawood. Imaam Ahmad, at-Tirmidhee and others. Infect some scholar went as far As to say that this practice was disliked since it was a practice of the Jews and only if there was a reason to wash them was it not disliked. The point is that washing the hands before the meal contains no added reward since it is not from the Sunnah, although there is no harm in doing as if one needs to. [Up]

[2] Saheeh - Narrated by Aaisha and collected by Aboo Dawood (eng. Trans. Vol.3, p.1064, no.3758). Authenticated by at-Tirmidhee and al-Albanee inhis Saheeh. Sunan Aboo Dawood. Note that the Sunnah is to say 'Bismillah' only and not 'Bismillah Ar-Rahman Ar-Raheem' [Up]

[3] Saheeh Muslim (eng. Trans. Vol.3, p. 1114, no. 5004). [Up]

[4] Saheeh Muslim (eng. Trans. Vol.3, p. 1119, no. 5040) [Up]

5 Narrated by Jabir and collected I Saheeh Muslim (eng. Trans. Vol.3, p. 1115, no. 5007). The ruling also applies to drinking as well as taking or giving something (i.e. it should all be done with th eright hand) (Saheeh Muslim vol.3) [Up]

[6] Aboo Dawood (eng. Trans. Vol. 3, p. 1064, no. 3763). This is not superstition or an old wives tale, rather the saying of one inspired by Allah, who is the knower of all things hidden. [Up]

[7] Narrated by Aboo Juhaifah and collected in Saheeh of Imaam Bukhari (eng. Trans. Vol.7, p. 234 and 311). NB. Ibn al-Qayyim mention in his Zaadal Maad that any posture in which the posterior is on the floor is regarding as reclining. [Up]

[8] Saheeh Muslim (eng, trans vol.3. p. 1127, no. 5073). [Up]

[9] Saheeh - Reported by Aboo Dawood (eng. Trans. Vol. 3, p.1064, no. 3764). Authentic in his Saheeh Sunan Aboo Dawood. [Up]

[10] Saheeh Muslim (eng. Trans. Vol. 3, p.113, no.5121). [Up]

[11] Narrated by Jaabir and collected in Saheeh Muslim (eng. Vol. 3, p. 1121. no. 5046) [Up]

[12] Narrated by Ibn Umar and collected in Saheeh Muslim (eng. Trans vol. 3, p.1137, no. 5046) [Up]

[13] Hasan - Narrated by Mu'aadh Ibn Anas ans collected by at-Tirmidhee and others. Authentic by at-Tirmidhee and others. Authenticated by at-Tirmidhee, Ibn Hajr and others. (Note: that the other du'aa from Aboo Dawood tht is often mentioned in books to be recited at the end of eating: "all Praises are form Allah who fed us grave us drink and made us Muslims' is not authentic as mentioned by Ibn Hajr and others.) [Up]

[14] Narrated by Anas and collected in Saheeh Muslim (eng. Trans. Vol. 4, p.1492, no. 6592). [Up]


SOURCE:

http://www.ahya.org - Authentic Islamic Information and Resources
http://www.ahya.org/amm/index.php/mo...ticle&artid=80
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Khayal
06-01-2005, 09:51 PM
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:sl: Wr Wb

Excellent thread... :applaud: :applaud: :thumbs_up

jazak ALLAH khair

:w: Wr Wb
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ABDULLAH SAOOD
06-05-2005, 09:27 AM
Assalamo-alaikum-warahmatullahi-wabrakatu

Before going to sleep, dust the bed. (Bukhari)

Sleep in a state of wudhu, lying on the right side. (Bukhari)

Do not sleep, lying on the back with one leg resting on the other. (Muslim)

Allah does not like a person who sleeps on the stomach. (Tirmidhi)

Do not sleep on such a roof which has no means of protection on the sides. (Tirmidhi)

It was the practice of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam to rest in the afternoon.

Recite BISMILLAH while closing (locking) the doors.

Cover all food and drink. If nothing is found to cover these, then place a stick on the top. (Bukhari)

At the time of sleeping always extinguish all fires, as it is your enemy. (Bukhari, Muslim)
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ABDULLAH SAOOD
06-05-2005, 09:29 AM
The best action of Islam is to feed (the poor).

Rasullullah sallAllâhu alayhi wasallam has said: "The person who has faith in Allâh and in the hereafter, it is necessary for him to be polite to his guests." (Bukhari)

One remains a guest for three days, thereafter it is sadaqah. (The host must entertain his guest for three days. More than that whatever entertainment is made, will be regarded as sadaqah).

One should entertain ones guest with special food for one day and one night. (Bukhari)

A guest should not remain at the place of the host for such a long time that would either incovenience or disgust him.

Whoever is invited and does not accept has disobeyed Allâh and His Rasul sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

Whoever enters (a house) without invitation (for meals), enters as a burglar and departs as a bandit. (Abû Dawûd)
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Uthman
06-05-2005, 09:52 AM
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JazakAllah for sharing that ;) V. informative. :)

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Uthman
06-05-2005, 11:00 AM
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JazakAllah Khair. :)

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Arwa
06-05-2005, 02:23 PM
wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu

A good reminder. :sister:

Alhamdulillah I do nearly all of them. :)
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Far7an
06-05-2005, 02:38 PM
Assalamu 'alaikum

Barakallah feek akhee

please visit the following thread for Islaimc Etiquettes :)
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Khayal
06-05-2005, 05:37 PM
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Assalaam O Alaikum Wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu


Jazak ALLAH khair..:rose:


Wa Alaikum assalaam Wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu
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Khayal
06-05-2005, 05:38 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by farhan247
Assalamu 'alaikum

Barakallah feek akhee

please visit the following thread for Islaimc Etiquettes :)


Assalaam O Alaikum Wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu


I read it few days back, jazak ALLAH khair..:rose:


Wa Alaikum assalaam Wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu
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Khayal
06-05-2005, 05:55 PM
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Assalaam O Alaikum Wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu


Very good sharing, jazak ALLAH khair..:rose:


Wa Alaikum assalaam Wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu
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jameeluddin
06-05-2005, 09:13 PM
Aoa
treat guests with respect and honor for they are blessings, help them and advise them in things they need help in
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WomanOfJihad
07-19-2005, 05:05 PM
Etiquette of Amama

* wear the Amama whilst standing facing the qiblah and take it off whilst sitting.
* Is it the Sunah of the Angels.
* Tie the Amama from the right ( clockwise)
* do not have the lenghth more than twelve arms as it is against the sunnah.
*Take the Amama of the same manner you put it on but do not oull it off.
* the angels make salam to those who wear a Amama.
*wear Amama as it is a sign of islam and it distinguishes betwen a muslim and a non believers.
* the Prophet said , when i ascended the sky ( me'raj) i saw that most of the angels were wearing Amamas.
* make a practice of tying Amamas since it is a hallmark of the angels.furthermoretie them bak in such a manner that the tail hangs at the bak

* it is against the sunnah not to have a tail ( shimla) for the amama
* the difference between a polytheists and us is that we wear a hat under our amama while the polytheists do not.
* Rasulullah would not venture out without an amama
*Salaah wirh an Amama is equivelant to 10,000 rakaats
* those who wear Amamah Allah and his angels send durood on fridays
*every round you tie on ur head of the amama, on the day of resurrection you will be given noor.
*tie the amama as ur knowledge will increase
*Amama is the respect and the sign of Islam
*The Prophet Saw pointed to the amama and said " there r only forty crowns of angels
*with the Amama one Jumu'ah is equivelant to to the seventy jumu'ah*
* prayer offered wearing and Amama is seventy times more excellent than that offered without.
* to stay bear head is not the sUNNAH, you should try to put on the angels crown from time to time as it is the sunnah of our bEloved prophet.
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A7med
07-19-2005, 05:07 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by WomanOfJihad
Etiquette of Amama

* wear the Amama whilst standing facing the qiblah and take it off whilst sitting.
* Is it the Sunah of the Angels.
* Tie the Amama from the right ( clockwise)
* do not have the lenghth more than twelve arms as it is against the sunnah.
*Take the Amama of the same manner you put it on but do not oull it off.
* the angels make salam to those who wear a Amama.
*wear Amama as it is a sign of islam and it distinguishes betwen a muslim and a non believers.
* the Prophet said , when i ascended the sky ( me'raj) i saw that most of the angels were wearing Amamas.
* make a practice of tying Amamas since it is a hallmark of the angels.furthermoretie them bak in such a manner that the tail hangs at the bak

* it is against the sunnah not to have a tail ( shimla) for the amama
* the difference between a polytheists and us is that we wear a hat under our amama while the polytheists do not.
* Rasulullah would not venture out without an amama
*Salaah wirh an Amama is equivelant to 10,000 rakaats
* those who wear Amamah Allah and his angels send durood on fridays
*every round you tie on ur head of the amama, on the day of resurrection you will be given noor.
*tie the amama as ur knowledge will increase
*Amama is the respect and the sign of Islam
*The Prophet Saw pointed to the amama and said " there r only forty crowns of angels
*with the Amama one Jumu'ah is equivelant to to the seventy jumu'ah*
* prayer offered wearing and Amama is seventy times more excellent than that offered without.
* to stay bear head is not the sUNNAH, you should try to put on the angels crown from time to time as it is the sunnah of our bEloved prophet.
JAZAKALLAH KHAIR!!!!! :brother: but.........
http://www.islam.tc/ask-imam/view.php?q=1249 :confused:

i wear mine with a tail
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Halima
07-20-2005, 03:54 AM
Etiquette of visting the sick



These actions create love of bonding within the Muslims. Furthermore, the Muslims in essence are like one body as mentioned in an authentic narration of Rasulullah . If one part of the body hurts the entire body hurts. Our consolation will not take away the sickness from our Muslim brother or sister, but it may lift his spirits and make him happy.
Just as our Master Rasulaullah has guided us on how to conduct ourselves in every sphere of our lives, he has also guided us regarding the method of visiting the sick.
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Angel24
07-20-2005, 04:07 AM
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Jazakallah khair for the post :)
i did try the finger thing both...
was kind of hard... :-[
but i kind of didn't get the meaning...why do we have to know this???
if someone explain it to me that would be great....

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ABDULLAH SAOOD
09-10-2005, 01:43 PM
The Five Branches of the Sharee'ah

The Sharee'ah consists of following five branches or parts:

Aqaa'id (Beliefs): e.g. beliefs in the Oneness of Allah Ta'aala and the Risaalat (Prophethood) of Rasoolullaah sallallahu alayhi wasallam

A'maal (Righteous deeds): e.g. Salaat, Sawm.

Mu'aamalaat (Transactions, Contracts): e.g. trade and commerce.

Akhlaaq (Moral character): e.g. humility, generosity, etc.

Husn-e-Mu'aasharat (Beautified social conduct): i.e. good relationship with people, e.g. abstention from acts which cause others inconvenience, such as disturbing a person in his sleep.

Of the above five constitutional branches of Islaam, Muslims in general nowadays regard only two branches as being integral parts of the Deen. These are Aqaa’id (beliefs) and Ibaadaat (worship).

May allah give us the ability to practice them all - ameen
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Safa
09-10-2005, 01:55 PM
Salam,

I agree and we should educate ourselves on the other branches of Islam. Akhlaaq in my opinion should be learned from the manners and actions of our Prophet pbuh and the sahabas as some of their stories are very thought provoking.

Wa'salam
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Khayal
09-10-2005, 05:39 PM
Jazak ALLAH khair..:rose:
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Khayal
05-20-2007, 10:56 PM
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Bump.....


:w:


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'Abd al-Baari
05-08-2008, 09:11 PM
Assalamu Alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatuh,

Etiquette of visiting the Graveyard


Question:

If I want to visit my father’s grave, what should I do? What is the etiquette of visiting graveyards? Are there any things I should pay attention to?

Answer:

Praise be to Allaah.

It is prescribed to visit graves in order to learn a lesson from that and to remember the Hereafter. That is subject to the condition that one does not say anything that will anger the Lord, such as calling upon the one who is buried or seeking his help instead of Allaah, or praising him and saying that he is for certain in Paradise, etc.

The purpose of visiting the graves is twofold:

(a) The visitor benefits from remembering death and the dead, remembering that their destiny will be either Paradise or Hell. This is the primary purpose of the visit.

(b) The deceased also benefits and is treated kindly by the visitor greeting him with salaams, making du’aa’ for him, praying for forgiveness for him. This applies only to Muslims. Among the du’aa’s that may be recited are:

“Assalaamu ‘alaykum ahl al-diyaar min al-mu’mineen wa’l-Muslimeen, in sha Allaah bikum laahiqoon, as’al Allaaha lana wa lakum al-‘aafiyah (peace be upon you O people of the dwellings, believers and Muslims, In sha Allaah we will join you, I ask Allaah to keep us and you safe and sound).”

It is permissible to raise the hands when reciting this du’aa’, because of the hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah who said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) went out one night, and I sent Bareerah to follow him and see where he went. She said, ‘He went towards Baqee’ al-Gharqad [the graveyard in Madeenah], and he stood at the bottom of al-Baqee’ and raised his hands, then he went away.’ Bareerah came back to me and told me, and when morning came I asked him about it. I said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, where did you go out to last night? He said, ‘I was sent to the people of al-Baqee’, to pray for them.’”

But you should not face the grave when making du’aa’ for them; rather you should face the direction of the Ka’bah, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) forbade prayer (salaah) facing graves, and du’aa’ is the heart and soul of salaah, as is well known, and is subject to the same rulings. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Du’aa’ is worship” then he recited the aayah (interpretation of the meaning): “And your Lord said: “Invoke Me [i.e. believe in My Oneness (Islamic Monotheism) and ask Me for anything] I will respond to your (invocation).” [Ghaafir 40:60]

You should not walk between the graves of the Muslims wearing your shoes. It was narrated that ‘Uqbah ibn ‘Aamir (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘If I were to walk on hot coals or on a sword, or if I were to mend my shoes using my feet, that would be better for me than if I were to walk on the grave of a Muslim. And it makes no difference to me if I were to relieve myself in the midst of the graves or in the middle of the market-place [i.e., both are equally bad].’” (Narrated by Ibn Maajah, 1567)

We ask Allaah, the Most High, the Omnipotent, to have mercy upon our dead and the deceased Muslims.



Adapted from Mukhtasar Ahkaam al-Janaa’iz by al-Albaani

Source > http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ref=14287&ln=eng


WaAlaykumus Salaam Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatuh
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'Abd al-Baari
05-09-2008, 05:46 PM
Assalamu Alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatuh,

Etiquette for Visiting the Sick
Khutbah by 'Abdul-Hameed Ad-Daaghistaani

Imam, Makkah, KSA
Translated by Hazem Ragab


O Muslims! Fear Allah, and seek the help of your Creator in all matters. Seek guidance from the way of your Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam, for he was the most kind and beneficial person to others. He kept strong ties with people, especially when they were afflicted with illness or close to death.. Being busy with running the affairs of the Islaamic state did not stop him from visiting the sick, especially those with whom he had ties of kinship, despite the fact that he had a lot of relatives and belonged to a large tribe.
People loved him dearly and he was always surrounded by many people, regardless of whether he spoke or kept quiet; he remembered Allah, worshipped Him abundantly and was a brave fighter.

The Messenger of Allah sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam has taught us that:

"The rights of a Muslim upon his fellow Muslim are: that he answers his salutation, or Salaam, when he is saluted, he visits him when he is sick, he follows his funeral when he dies, he accepts his invitation (to food) when he invites him, and he says the relevant corresponding supplications when he sneezes." (Bukhari & Muslim)

It is evident from this Hadeeth that it is not necessary that one knows the person in question; rather, it is enough that he is a Muslim for him to have these rights. This is because the Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam began with: "The rights of a Muslim upon his fellow Muslim..."
Therefore, if there is a relationship added to the fact that the person in question is Muslim, such as being a neighbour, relative or brother, then this renders the right even greater. In fact, its greatness is directly proportional to the proximity of the bond between the two people.

In another Hadeeth, Al-Baraa' Ibn 'Aazib, may Allah be pleased with him, said:

"The Messenger of Allah sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam commanded us: "To visit the sick, to follow the funeral processions, to say the relevant supplications upon sneezing, to fulfil one's oaths, to support the oppressed, to accept invitations (to food) and to spread the salutation of Salaam." (Bukhari & Muslim)

One who visits the sick enjoys the fruits of Paradise until he returns home. The Messenger of Allah sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam said:

"The Muslim will continue to be in the Khurfa of Paradise until he comes returns (home)."

So somebody asked him: "O Messenger of Allah! What is the Khurfa of Paradise?"

He replied: "They are gardens of fruits." (Muslim)

As for the virtues of visiting the sick, 'Ali ibn Abu Taalib, may Allah be pleased with him, who was the cousin of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam reported that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam said: "No Muslim visits another Muslim (at the time of sickness) in the morning, except that seventy thousand angels will (ask Allah to) send peace upon him until that evening. And if he were to visit him in the evening, then seventy thousand angels will (ask Allah to) send peace upon him until the next morning, and he will have fruits of Paradise (awaiting him)." (Tirmidhi)

It is from the etiquettes of visiting the sick to rush to visit him as soon as he becomes sick, as it is understood from this saying of the Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam.

However, there are Ahaadeeth that state that one should visit the sick after three days of sickness, as it is reported that the Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam did not use to visit the sick until three days had passed. (Ibn Maajah & Bayhaqi)

Therefore, if the illness is serious or dangerous in nature, such that one fears the loss of life of the sick person, and it is known that he will not be harmed or bothered by being visited immediately, then the visit can take place immediately. But if the sickness is a light one, then the visit should take place after three days.

It is from the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam that the duration of visiting the sick should be short, especially if the patient is weak or if there are too many visitors, or if the place where he is resting is small. The Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam said: "Make your visits short, people will love you more." (Al-Haakim)

The best gift for the sick is that one supplicates for him upon entering upon him, and not that one secretly provides him with things that have been forbidden by the doctors, like certain foods or drinks, especially if they are Haraam, such as cigarettes.

It is recommended for the visitor to follow the example of the Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam when visiting the sick, such as stroking the sick person with one's right hand whilst saying: "O Allah! Lord of Mankind! Take away this pain. O Allah! Cure him. You are the All-Curer: there is no remedy other than Yours, a remedy that never leaves the diseases." (Bukhari & Muslim)

Or one can say seven times: "I ask Allah the Exalted, the Lord of the Great Throne, to heal you."

Ibn 'Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, reported that the Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam said: "Whoever visits a sick person whose death is not approaching, and says seven times: 'I ask Allah the Exalted, the Lord of the Great Throne, to heal you.' Then Allah will heal him. (Al-Haakim)

Another of the greatest gifts that one can give to the sick is the advice of the Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam, as reported by 'Uthmaan Ibn Abi Al-'Aas, may Allah be pleased with him, that he came to the Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam complaining about pain in his body, so he sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam advised him to: "Place your hand where it hurts on your body and say, 'Bismillaah' thrice, then say seven times, 'I seek refuge in Allah and in His power from the evil of what I find and of what I guard against.'" (Muslim)

It reflects fine manners and love for the sick when one asks his family about his condition. When 'Ali ibn Abu Taalib, may Allah be pleased with him, came out from the room of the Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam at the time of his sickness, and people asked him about the condition of the Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam, he replied: "By the will of Allah, he will be better by morning."

The Messenger of Allah sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam said: "Allah will say on the Day of Judgment (to a person): 'O son of Aadam! I was sick and you did not visit Me!' So the person will reply: 'O my Lord! How could I have visited You, while You are the Lord of the worlds?' So He will say: 'Did you not know that My servant, so and so, was sick, yet you did not visit him? Did you not know that if you had visited him, you would have found Me with him?'"(Muslim).

It is also recommended that the visitor sits beside the head of the sick person, and that he makes encouraging remarks, giving him hope of speedy recovery and prolonged life. The Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam said: "If you visit a sick person, then try to put him at ease by giving him hope (of prolonged life), for it does not change anything, but relaxes (and comforts) him." (Ibn Maajah & Tirmidhi)

It should be said to the sick person: "Do not worry. It (i.e., the sickness) will be a purification (for you), Allah willing." (Bukhari)

Also, one should ask the sick person to supplicate for him, as the Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam said: "If you enter upon a sick person, then ask him to supplicate for you, for his supplication is like the supplications of the angels." (Ibn Maajah)

It is commendable to remind him of the phrase: 'Laa illaaha illa Allah' (i.e., there is nothing worthy of worship except Allah) if he is on his death bed, as the Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam said: "Have the one facing death repeat after you 'Laa Ilaaha illa Allah', at the moments of death." (Muslim)

He also said: "He whose last words before death are 'Laa Ilaaha illa Allah', Allah will grant him paradise." (Abu Daawood)

WaAlaykumus Salaam Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatuh :)



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ummAbdillah
05-09-2008, 07:37 PM
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'Abd al-Baari
05-26-2008, 11:37 AM
Assalamu Alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatuh

Etiquettes of Speech According to Sunnah

Abu Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported: “I heard the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, saying: “A person utters a word thoughtlessly (i.e., without thinking about whether it is good or evil) and as a result, will plummet into the fire of Hell deeper than the distance between the east and the west.” [Al-Bukhaari & Muslim]

Abu Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported that the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: “A man may utter a word pleasing to Allaah without considering it of any significance, but for which Allaah elevates his ranks (in Paradise); another one may speak a word displeasing to Allaah without considering it of any importance, but for which he would be plummeted into Hell.” [Al-Bukhaari]

Ibn Mas’ood, may Allaah be pleased with him: “That which requires imprisonment the most is one’s tongue.”

`Adiyy bin Haatim, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported the Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam as saying: “Allaah will surely speak to every one of you without an interpreter. He (i.e., the one being spoken to) will look to his right and see nothing but (deeds) which he had done, and will look to his left and see nothing but (deeds) which he had done. Then he will look in front of him and will find nothing except the Hellfire facing him. So protect (yourselves) from the Fire, even if by giving in charity half a date, and if you cannot find that, then with a kind word.” [Al-Bukhaari & Muslim]

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WaAlaykumus Salaam Warahmatullah
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Sapahi
05-26-2008, 07:51 PM
Jazakh'ALLAH Khair for sharing this useful information with us. I have a book titled 'Muslim Manners', after i have read it i shall post what i have learned over here aswell Insha'ALLAH... :)
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