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IbnAbdulHakim
08-29-2008, 12:57 PM
This is an excerpt from the book Islamic Manners by Sheikh Abdul Fattah Aboghodda, an old famous Syrian scholar in the field of hadith and fiqh. The complete book can be viewed at this link:

http://www.al-inaam.com/library/char...ic_manners.htm

Once I had a conversation with a brother, there were only two instances where I was given a chance to speak: in greeting him I said saalam and in departing I said saalam. Just like any other human being, I wished the brother would have been more considerate in listening to me.

Be a Good Listener

If a person starts telling you, whether in private or public, something that you already knew very well, you should pretend as if you do not know it. Do not rush to reveal your knowledge or to interfere with the speech. Instead, show your attention and concentration. The honorable tab'i Imam Ata ibn Abi Rabah said: "A young man would tell me something that I may have heard before he was born. Nevertheless, I would listen to him as if I had never heard it before."

Khalid ibn Safwan al-Tamimi, who frequented the courts of two Khalifahs: Umar ibn Abdul Aziz and Hisham ibn Abdul Malik, said: "If a person tells you something you have heard before, or news that you already learned, do not interrupt him to exhibit your knowledge to those present. This is rude and ill mannered." The honorable Imam Abdullah ibn Wahab al-Qurashi al-Masri, a companion of Imam Malik, Al-Laith ibn Sad and Al-Thawri, said: "Sometimes a person would tell me a story that I have heard before his parents had wed. Yet, I listened as if I have never heard it before." Ibrahim ibn al-Junaid said: "A wise man said to his son: 'Learn the art of listening as you learn the art of speaking.'" Listening well means maintaining eye contact, allowing the speaker to finish the spech, and restraining your urge to interrupt his speech. Al-Hafiz al-Khatib al-Baghdadi said in a poem:

Never interrupt a talk
Though you know it inside out

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crayon
08-30-2008, 10:47 PM
Ooh how cool, I know one of his grandsons, he's my little brother's best friend.

Anyway, great reminder, i need to remember to shut up a lot of the time, and just listen.
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IbnAbdulHakim
08-30-2008, 10:58 PM
yeh it really does test your patience

the amount of times i lose concentration coz i kno i heard it before, my mind phases out..
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Derya
08-31-2008, 08:07 PM
Beautiful post! Thanks for sharing and fortunately, I'm a good listener. :)
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~ Sabr ~
05-01-2012, 05:04 PM
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Chaajo
05-02-2012, 11:18 AM
I always listen to people. I actually enjoy that. But of course having someone listening to me and answering back really lifts me up though I rarely find that chance. :( Still hamdullah.:smile:
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