I hope you are all doing well and enjoying Ramadan!
OK well this thread is about Backbiting, Hypocrasy and choosing whom you befriend. Let's start with backbiting, shall we?
Backbiting
Backbiting is often referred to by people as talking about somebody behind their back. Allah (swt) has mentioned in the Qur'an that backbiting is wrong:
O you who believe! Avoid much suspicions, indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting) . And fear Allah. Verily, Allah is the One Who accepts repentance, Most Merciful.
{49:12}
I've also underlined "you would hate it", oh so true. You might meet let's say... a new guy in your school, college, area, whatever, and some people may go back to their friends after meeting this new guy: "Oh, he's weird." Now think: If you were that new guy and you heard somebody talking about you in such a manner, wouldn't you be upset?
Intentions
Perfect subject for this month. Intentions are very important, and to an extent it is all that matters. For example, I heard some people fast just for the sake of it, pray just for the sake of it, just for the sake of securing your Hereafter; but do they actually fast for their Creator? Pray to their Creator, thanking him and calling unto him? Prayer is not a routine, you must be focused as to what you are actually doing. Are you focusing on the lovely patterns on the prayer mat or focusing on praying with top sincerity?
Allah will not call you to account for that which is unintentional in your oaths, but He will call you to account for that which your hearts have earned. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most-Forbearing.
{2:225}
Murder is a serious sin. Some may think that if you've murdered you've secured Hell, but no.
And whoever kills a believer intentionally, his recompense is Hell to abide therein, and the Wrath and the Curse of Allah are upon him, and a great punishment is prepared for him.
{4:93}
Only if it was intentional! But even if it was intentional and you're sorry and repenting, then chances are you may be forgiven. How merciful!
...Truly, Allah is oft-forgiving, Most Merciful.
{2:173}
Choosing whom you befriend
Very important. Say you're in school, college, or anywhere and you're hanging out with a group of people who do, let's say for example crime, because it's "cool", because that specific group of people are, in the eyes of certain people, "amazing", but do people ever think what those people are in the eyes of Allah (swt)? It's important that you hang around with the right people; people who won't damage your religious beliefs and what you believe.
Hadiths on friendship:
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you befriend." [reported by Abu Dawood & Tirmidhee].
In another Hadith, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "The example of a good companion and a bad companion is like that of the seller of musk, and the one who blows the blacksmith's bellows (respectively). So as for the seller of musk then either he will grant you some, or you buy some from him, or at least you enjoy a pleasant smell from him. As for the one who blows the blacksmith's bellows then either he will burn your clothes or you will get an offensive smell from him." [Bukhari & Muslim]
In his commentary of this Hadith, Imam an-Nawawi said that the Prophet (peace be upon him) compared a good companion to a seller of musk and spoke of the virtue of having companions who are good, who have noble manners, piety, knowledge and good culture. Such are those who grant us from their virtue. And he (peace be upon him) forbade us to sit with those who do evil, commit a lot of sins and other bad deeds, as well as with innovators, backbiters, and so forth.
Another scholar said: "Keeping good company with the pious results in attainment of beneficial knowledge, noble manners and righteous actions, whereas keeping company with the wicked prevents all of that"
Qur'anic evidences:
And (remember) the Day when the wrong-doer will bite his hands and say: Woe to me! Would that I had taken a path with the Messenger. Woe to me! If only I had not taken so- and-so as a friend! He has led me astray from this Reminder (the Qur'an) after it had come to me.
{25:27-29}
Friends on that Day will be enemies one to another, except al-Muttaqoon (i.e. those who have Taqwah).
{43:67}
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Especially now in ramadan!
