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Hmm....Say...

Would you marry somebody who had diff beliefs to you? i.e. On several things such as Tawassul, waseelah etc etc...

For brothers this may be important but may also be irrelevant since the child takes the religion of the father and the wife should obey her husband in all halal matters anyway.

For sisters, well what do you think? :blind:

WassalamuAlaykum
 
Asalam alaikum sister,
It has worked for some people, I have met several people who are of different faiths and they have made it work. It seems like it might be hard though, since the mother should be teaching the kids that fathers religion and if she doesn't know much about it then it might be hard to do.
InshAllah pray for guidance and Allah will give it to you.
Take Care sister and I wish you all the best.
 
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JazakAllahu khayr sister.

But I think you misunderstood me, I meant differing views and beliefs within Islam :-[

WassalamuAlaykum
 
As catholics, we can marry with muslims and other faiths too but the condition raised by church, if i remember correctly, is that the children must follow the catholic religion :-[
I have to check up that. - not sure.
 
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Yes sorry sis, I did misunderstand.
 
*edit* thanks :)
 
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Asalam aliakum sister,
In that case inshAllah it could work out, after all marriage is about understanding and communication.
 
JσℓιєFℓєυя;1002839 said:
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Hmm....Say...

Would you marry somebody who had diff beliefs to you? i.e. On several things such as Tawassul, waseelah etc etc...

For brothers this may be important but may also be irrelevant since the child takes the religion of the father and the wife should obey her husband in all halal matters anyway.

For sisters, well what do you think? :blind:

WassalamuAlaykum
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if i can see serious seeerious piety in the partner in question i wouldnt hesitate.... but my mum would.... she'd bring out that famous danda aswell
 
IbnAbdulHakim said:
if i can see serious seeerious piety in the partner in question i wouldnt hesitate.... but my mum would.... she'd bring out that famous danda aswell
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Ok...JazakAllah khayr, somebody who understands :exhausted

But, would you understand if that made the sister uneasy? And altho u saw the piety, how would you explain to her that it was ok? Coz to me....it seems like an issue
 
i know what u mean sis, i guess that is up 2 u. ive never really thought about these things of things, in the past my mentality has been i would do whatever my partner wanted if i loved him but that is so wrong astagfirulla. i need to have my own beliefs and u have raised this thought into my head now....
 
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i know what u mean sis, i guess that is up 2 u. ive never really thought about these things of things, in the past my mentality has been i would do whatever my partner wanted if i loved him but that is so wrong astagfirulla. i need to have my own beliefs and u have raised this thought into my head now....
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Yup sis, you know what....one may not have much 'ilm....well less than the partner in question anyway but I will always stick with what I have been taught (provided I believe it fully and have no reason to believe that it is incorrect)....I wont be changing for anybody but Allah .. Insha'Allah
 
JσℓιєFℓєυя;1002857 said:
Ok...JazakAllah khayr, somebody who understands :exhausted

But, would you understand if that made the sister uneasy? And altho u saw the piety, how would you explain to her that it was ok? Coz to me....it seems like an issue
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of course that would make the sister uneasy

the mother/father in law and perhaps inlaws in general will treat her different, she will be the centre of many nights of gossip of bitter aunties the list goes on.

explain to her? the mom? the wife? the hubby? you need to be more specific in your question
 
Ouch....that sounds harssh! Gossip of bitter aunties :ooh: personally I think it'd result in ... hmm well it wudnt be gud for the relationship btween hubby and wife :skeleton:
 
JσℓιєFℓєυя;1002862 said:
Ouch....that sounds harssh! Gossip of bitter aunties :ooh: personally I think it'd result in ... hmm well it wudnt be gud for the relationship btween hubby and wife :skeleton:
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personally other then the girl/boy feeling uncomfy in the company of each others relatives, i dont see why it should affect the love and affection they have between each other much.

they just have to be understanding...


i know in my family personally we have gatherings of dhikr etc, we recite the Quran together and do many other things, so if a prospect didnt accept these as sunnah or nawwafil ibaadah and considered them bid'a then it would cause a huge fall-out between the couples


wallahu a'lam
 
IbnAbdulHakim said:
i know in my family personally we have gatherings of dhikr etc, we recite the Quran together and do many other things, so if a prospect didnt accept these as sunnah or nawwafil ibaadah and considered them bid'a then it would cause a huge fall-out between the couples
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Thats the important part. JazakAllah khayr.

Also a ques for any of the brothers - would you convince her to ur way of thinking and not stop until she understood u or would u leave her be?
 
JσℓιєFℓєυя;1002839 said:
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Hmm....Say...

Would you marry somebody who had diff beliefs to you? i.e. On several things such as Tawassul, waseelah etc etc...

For brothers this may be important but may also be irrelevant since the child takes the religion of the father and the wife should obey her husband in all halal matters anyway.

For sisters, well what do you think? :blind:

WassalamuAlaykum
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:wasalamex

Nope. I have a fall out on this between other people, a hubby's relationship is just gonna be totally mashed who I disagree with :-\ Just me.

Meh.
 
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JσℓιєFℓєυя;1002867 said:
Thats the important part. JazakAllah khayr.

Also a ques for any of the brothers - would you convince her to ur way of thinking and not stop until she understood u or would u leave her be?
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well... i got a strong feeling she'll do her utmost best to convince me :p in which case i will show her the reasons i believe that which i do.

i wouldnt go on and on about it, but whenever the issue is raised i would have my daleel
 
Mixed marriage according with the Catholic teachings:

1634 .... But the difficulties of mixed marriages must not be underestimated. They arise from the fact that the separation of Christians has not yet been overcome. The spouses risk experiencing the tragedy of Christian disunity even in the heart of their own home. Disparity of cult can further aggravate these difficulties. Differences about faith and the very notion of marriage, but also different religious mentalities, can become sources of tension in marriage, especially as regards the education of children. The temptation to religious indifference can then arise.

1635 According to the law in force in the Latin Church, a mixed marriage needs for liceity the express permission of ecclesiastical authority.137 In case of disparity of cult an express dispensation from this impediment is required for the validity of the marriage.138 This permission or dispensation presupposes that both parties know and do not exclude the essential ends and properties of marriage; and furthermore that the Catholic party confirms the obligations, which have been made known to the non-Catholic party, of preserving his or her own faith and ensuring the baptism and education of the children in the Catholic Church.139
From:http://www.vatican.va/archive/ccc_css/archive/catechism/p2s2c3a7.htm#1633
 
as salaam alaykam

i have a lot of disagreements between my friends on this topic, and we have quite a lot of serious beef, also some people do stuff, which is blatant shirk, and you need to like understand are they doin shirk or not, like even some methods of tawassul like in pakistan they have some peer n awliya and people go to their graves and do all haa dee daa, and call that tawassul, so it depends on how what type of difference,

but it also depends how strongly the person feels about it, like the person couldnt give a crap, if its minor differences like raful yadayn or summin like that, its fine, but major disagreements then i think you should rethink it, because marriage life has its arguments generally, throwin in religious arguments is just like throwin oil in fire
 
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