what am i going to do

[AnonymousPoster]

:sl:
I am soo confused, a brother proposed to me and he is like, everything u could ever dream of having in a guy, hes religious and so on mashallah, but then how can i except some elses proposal wen my heart it sumwere else? :cry: im so afraid of doing something wrong, i really really wished that my destiny would be with another guy who i ever never even spoken to one day, i have heard so many good things about him! and now im just stuck and dont no what to do or to say? we plan and so does Allah, do i follow my heart? what im i going to do?

[AnonymousPoster]

Where is Yr heart?

anon2 :peace:

[AnonymousPoster]

i was always thinking abt da other guy, i always wished it was him oneday, what am i goin 2 do i am such a bad person,

[Re.TiReD]

:wasalamex

Your heart is elsewhere? Where is that elsewhere? Is it possible to marry that 'elsewhere'?

Genuine questions sis because if Mr.Elsewhere is somebody who cannot be, or somebody that you've just got attached too then I suggest you do things the right way and go with this new proposal. Wallahu A'lam

And its true that we plan but Allah (swt) also plans and He is the best of planners.

WassalamuAlaykum

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[S_87]

this other guy..is there any possibility with him:?

[AnonymousPoster]

i have no idea, i have only spoken to him a few times but i hear so much good things abt him....im soo confused

[Yanal]

Define good things. First who did you hear them from? Can you trust this source? What's your opinion on these " Good things" After these questions are properly answered I can answer to your question.

[AnonymousPoster]

I know myself that he is a hafid, he was in my bioligy class for a short while so i know hes hard working, people always say how he works hard, hes religious..theres nothing more u can ask for

[Yanal]

Thats not what I asked for. Please reread my questions as I think you misunderstood them.

[AnonymousPoster]

Define good things. First who did you hear them from? Can you trust this source? What's your opinion on these " Good things" After these questions are properly answered I can answer to your question.

Good things, something u always look for in people, e.g good atitude etc. yes i can trust this source, i think this is everything u can look for in some one, is there anything more u can ask for

[Yanal]

Love, for his future wife. If that's everything you want what's the problem?

[Ummu Sufyaan]

:sl:
I am soo confused, a brother proposed to me and he is like, everything u could ever dream of having in a guy, hes religious and so on mashallah, but then how can i except some elses proposal wen my heart it sumwere else? :cry: im so afraid of doing something wrong, i really really wished that my destiny would be with another guy who i ever never even spoken to one day, i have heard so many good things about him! and now im just stuck and dont no what to do or to say? we plan and so does Allah, do i follow my heart? what im i going to do?

:sl:
what are your chances with this "first dude." look at things realistically.
and pray istikhara sis :)

[Lonely Gal]

if your heart werent elsewhere you u go with the propasal, is that man a good enough man in ur eyes?
Id go with your heart, cos u dont want to go with the proposal only thinkin what if,.
If where ur heart is, is a no-no and the proposal guy is a decent, honest bloke, then look ahead and take the step..

[IbnAbdulHakim]

I know myself that he is a hafid, he was in my bioligy class for a short while so i know hes hard working, people always say how he works hard, hes religious..theres nothing more u can ask for

he sounds really good.l

why dont you ask about for him?

theres no shame in it, khadija asked for the prophet sallallahi alaihi wasallaam

never forget istikhara

[God-is-great]

Try praying istikhara and inshallah you’ll get your answer

[Green_shoes]

Take your time and don't rush into anything you have doubts about, if in doubt wait till you feel its the right thing to do otherwise just wait you have nothing to loose not making the wrong decisions, i'm sure you're still young and there is no need to rush into major decision like this, it will affect you the rest of your life.

ps. listen to your heart