question about thinking about your boyfriend!!!!!

[xoxox]

hey i just want to know whether thinking about a guy love (boyfriend, fiancie) is that harram. like i going to marry him, i want him to love and kiss me and so on..........

[true believer]

no way. dating is HARAM. so what if u want to "marry him"?...does dat mean dat u can commit zina out of marriage. sis, ur not alone. there are loads of other muslim girls tryna make some excuse of whateva so they can commit zina with their "boyfriend". "boyfriends" are haram sis. please please open ur eyes. this is shaytan tryna mislead you. ur not a bad person, but ur actions will drag u down in allah's eyes. sis, if u TRULY want to marry and WANT UR MARRIAGE TO LAST, with right intentions, u must do it the HALAL way. why do u wanan curse ur relationship with this person by commiting zina before u guys are even married. dnt deluded urself and dnt let shaytan twist things and make the wrongs seem right. because islam is strict on dating. its forbidden. ur marriage will not last if u start it haramly and put zina on shoulders. so please, u will find out so much bout this person and if they realli honestly want to marry u n spend their life wiz u by doing it the halal way. because if he says no, or LETS DATE..or "GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER"..(ALONE) den it shows he doesnt reali respect or value u as a strong muslim woman. dnt lower or comperimise ur deen for some boy. allah will reward u if u do it the way He wanted u to. dnt go against allah. because despite of what u think...by dating and doin things He probited den u are going against him. zina is a high sin, be careful. dnt take ma words in a harsh way, but i must be honest for the sake of allah. dnt curse urself.

[GuestFellow]

Try to wait for these...activities to occur when you are married. Avoid dating and be patient. Learn self-control.

[AntiKarateKid]

Honestly, the best way to him his through his family. Get your peeps to contact his, and make sure everyone is comfortable with whats going on between you two and shoot from there towards marriage.

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[xoxox]

Hey thanks for the tips.....i wasnt planning to do that.. thanks

[aadil77]

woh I think you two should get married asap and not prolong it like some cultures make you do, otherwise the wait will kill you

[Grace Seeker]

If I understood the OPs question, she wasn't asking whether or not it was OK to commit zina. If fact she didn't even say that she was thinking of zina. But she does want to know if it is ok to think about the things that she is thinking about. If she thinks about kissing is just the thought, in and of itself, haram? She does not suggest having contact with her boyfriend/fiance. In fact later says that she is not planning to do any of those things. It sounds like the peeps have already gotten together and a marriage is in the works. She wants to know how she allowed to think about him as she waits (patienty or impatiently she doesn't say) till that day.

I don't think anyone has yet answered the question the sister is actually asking.

[IAmZamzam]

Thinking and wanting are often largely involunatary things and therefore beyond our control and therefore not something we're responsible for. What matters is not what you think or want but what you do.

[- IqRa -]

I guess your intentions matter the most, right?

[IAmZamzam]

I guess your intentions matter the most, right?

As I said, your actions matter the most. Your intentions, however, are behind your actions and to have one is technically perfoming an action.

[Humbler_359]

Sister xoxox,

What kind of this silly question you ask? Do you want to be pre-martial relationship with boys? If yes, let's get married soon if you desire. Any activities are ready only after marriage. Got it, get it, good?

BW, there is no things "boy-friend, or girl-friend" in our policy. What are you thinking now? :hmm:

Do you mind kindly how old are you? ............... Hope you reply back soon.

[Chuck]

As I said, your actions matter the most. Your intentions, however, are behind your actions and to have one is technically perfoming an action.

Salam br its me Chuck ;D

Just to say something, while, actions do matter since sin is with the action but good intentions get rewards. I suppose that is a way for God to promote good intentions because intentions can lead to action.

In short:
Good intention = reward
good action = reward too.

bad intention = no sin
bad action = sin.