affairs..!!!

[nisha_fav88]

this is mainly for sisters but bro's can chip in some advice as well

how wud u react if you found out/suspect ur husband in having an affair???

[S_87]

maybe want to kill him...

[Güven]

Just DON'T touch the car.

[S_87]

Just DON'T touch the car.

that would hurt?

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[crayon]

That.

[Güven]

that would hurt?

definitely :skeleton:

[jannat]

Salams,

God forbid, but kill him!!!
Hope als well wid u hun,
Khair

[The Ruler]

It would depend if I really like the man I'm married to and if I really want to live the rest of my life with him.

If I don't -which is more likely- I'll see it as a pathway to divorce and a single life. Whoo.

[Mysterious Uk]

Hmm.. i think upset would be an understatement.. But then again i'm not married or anything soo i dunno. Would fundamently depend on how much i like him.

[MO783]

would kill me

[ardianto]

Just call your lawyer, especially if you live in California.

[Faseeha]

:sl:

This is what I would want to do if that happened to me:

Invite all his friends and family over for a meal or something, and then in front of everyone make him apologize for what he'd done!

But since we're supposed to be covering up people's sins and all, I'd probably just leave him asap

[ragdollcat1982]

:sl:


Invite all his friends and family over for a meal or something, and then in front of everyone make him apologize for what he'd done!

Adultery is very personal issue for me. Four years ago my husband and I seperated and I did some things I am not proud of imsad. It was a rough time then. I had lost my job, my faith, everything and then I find out he had been looking at pornography ever since I gave birth to our son and he had been having emotional affairs with various women. So I left him for 6 months.

[BlissfullyJaded]

:sl:

If it's about you sis, did you find out, or it is suspicion? Don't let yourself get worked up if it's suspicion until you're able to get the proof... And then try to get your family support?

definitely :skeleton:

Then definitely the car will be touched. :skeleton:

[Ibn Abi Ahmed]

May Allaah protect us from even coming close to it!

[ragdollcat1982]

May Allaah protect us from even coming close to it!

Aman to that.

[Sunni Ninja]

if i suspected he was having an affair i wud be upset but would either try to think im silly or taking things out of propotion or on the other hand find out and spy on him which would be silly best thing would be to ask him up front his reactions will giv a person a true answer..
but if i found out he was having an affair i would feely like killing him but knowing me i would probly forgive him and give him a chance to change which may be silly

may Allah give strength and pateince to those in a situation like this and pratect other who are not in a situation like this to safe gaurd their respect and honour in the eyes of Allah Ameen

[Yanal]

Ameen. I would have an affair myself..no actually I will ask the person he is having a affair with why?

[Ummu Sufyaan]

:sl:
stab him...ok not really but he's so packing his bags and leavin...

May Allaah protect us from even coming close to it!

ameen...

[nisha_fav88]

i dnt want to kill him and go to prison or let alone go to hell..i cud have an affair as well but tht wud also mean am booking myself a one way ticket to HELL..!!

i first had sum suspicions but then i caught him red handed (i found an email frm the b****) and i called his parents and my parents and made a huge scene but he compleletly denied it and then i called his frends and i called her as well and found out she's married and got kid..!! he's still totally denying and i really dnt knowe wat to do bcos i know he's lying. anyways i had an arranged marrige so it took my some time to start loving him and i think tht love is also dissapeared now. seriousley am feeling so trapped but this situation had definatley helped me to get closer to ALLAH (swt)

[- IqRa -]

May Allaah protect us from even coming close to it!

Ameen.

We should always hope for the best from Allah inshAllah, as Allah himself says "I am as my servant thinks I am"

But Allah forbid if something like that did happen...We'll cross the bridge when we come to it.

[Layla454]

I don't think we could even begin to imagine something like that, may Allah save us from that

[ummsara1108]

Betrade.

[Sahabiyaat]

If i found out for definite, or if he was shameless enough to openly admit it, id react differently depending on if we have children.If we did have children, i wouldnt leave him, i'd just tell him never to touch me again, ill live in the house, take care of him and his kids,but as far as me and him go, its over. I can never love him again.

also depends on if i loved him to begin with, if i did, it would kill me, and if i didnt it would be insulting, but would hurt less.

if i didnt have kids, ....i dunno....depends on exactly how his relationship is with this other woman.

[nisha_fav88]

If i found out for definite, or if he was shameless enough to openly admit it, id react differently depending on if we have children.If we did have children, i wouldnt leave him, i'd just tell him never to touch me again, ill live in the house, take care of him and his kids,but as far as me and him go, its over. I can never love him again.

also depends on if i loved him to begin with, if i did, it would kill me, and if i didnt it would be insulting, but would hurt less.

if i didnt have kids, ....i dunno....depends on exactly how his relationship is with this other woman.

Its a long distance relationship, basically my hubby moved to the uk after marrying me (am basically frm uk) and this woman seems to be one of his old colleagues so i guess its an old flame still burning..and we dnt hve any kids but i was juts planning to hve one and then i found out abt this..i dnt hve the freedom to divorce, theres no such thing as divorce in the society i come from....am going mad.!!:laugh:

[Muhaba]

I hope that never happens to me becuase I don't think i would survive. But if i do, then i'd go straight for divorce, insha-Allah

[Sahabiyaat]

Its a long distance relationship, basically my hubby moved to the uk after marrying me (am basically frm uk) and this woman seems to be one of his old colleagues so i guess its an old flame still burning..and we dnt hve any kids but i was juts planning to hve one and then i found out abt this..i dnt hve the freedom to divorce, theres no such thing as divorce in the society i come from....am going mad.!!:laugh:

this shud be in the advice section sis.

Does your husband want to marry this woman?

[SouljahOfAllah]

Erm...i would probly be very hurt, and would end the marriage (but would do deep thinking if there were children) reason being is i would mind him having a second wife, but for him to go behind my back and have an illigal relationship....no thats would hurt - probly would die before i get to kill him!

edit: if there were children i would ask him to repent sincearly, if he goes back to it i will ask him to repent again if he does it again i will ask him to leave us a peace until he has changed his ways and if he does not within 3 months then kullah (is that what they call it?)

[Bub]

If it was me, i would forgive him because Allah (SWAT) said forgive people at leaste 70 times a day and if i forgive people even they hurt me so badly and Allah would forgive my sins inshaAllah.

[ژاله]

^bub,would you be even kind enough to accept her as a co-wife?:omg:i doubt if any woman can do that willingly...
sis nisha,can you go on with him like that?you define your limit of tolerance,decide if u can bear with this affair or not,if its impossible for you to live with him then go for a divorce,theres no point in being his wife then.on the other hand if you think that this can fixed,then wait for sometime.but first have a word with him in private,i mean dont involve any relatives,tell him that you are going to get divorce if he doesnt change himself,and see his reaction..if he has some feelings left for you,may be he changes himself,otherwise,the sooner you come to know what you have to with the rest of your life the better!
may the best happen to you,
you are in my prayers inshallah:)
take care dear sis!

[Bub]

I said if it was "ME" and I didnt say anything about her though because I was thinking what I would have done if my hubsand have done that to me.

[Bub]

*husband* correct the mistake

[S_87]

^bub,would you be even kind enough to accept her as a co-wife?:

in a lot of cases the woman could also be married :?

[Frijj]

this is mainly for sisters but bro's can chip in some advice as well

how wud u react if you found out/suspect ur husband in having an affair???

are you implying that the sisters don't and will not cheat?

[nisha_fav88]

are you implying that the sisters don't and will not cheat?

umm not necessarily but men mostly do the cheating and since im a gal i thought it wud be nice to hve advice frm sister and i wanted advice frm bro's aswell so i cud see his point of view.

[nisha_fav88]

this shud be in the advice section sis.

Does your husband want to marry this woman?

no he cant even if he wanted to bcos she's already married and got a kid..!!! but her hubby lives abroad (UAE i think)

[Ali_008]

:sl:
Go for divorce, if there's anything left in him for you, he won't let you go and being his wife you'll be able to know, how genuine his persuasion is in not letting you go.

and if he's ready for a divorce......... May Allah make it easy for you.
The entrance of a third person in a marital relationship, i think, is completely intolerable unless there's some forced necessity.

[AlbanianMuslim]

i think you should gather as much evidence as you possibly can, then get the elders in your family as well as his together, and present your evidence
if he continues to deny it even with all the evidence, you have every right to seek a divorce

inshallah you will make it through this