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blacklashes
But the problem i have is 1) my job involves me interacting with customers and since i work at an electrical retailer most often its men. im expected to smile and build a rapport so im smiling and laughing pretty much all the time. 2) one of the friends in my group at uni is a nah mehrem, and we talk on msn sometimes about work etc. we also hv telephone details. im never alone with him, but he insists that we sit together in lectures n seminars.
assalaamu 'alaikum,
I would advise you to be very careful sister. Since the majority of the customers who you encounter are non-mahrem males, this places you in a very serious fitnah. If you have to speak to these men, be straightfoward and direct. It appears that you are in a situation where if you are not smiling before them you may lose their rapport. To not take these issues lightly sister. This is a serious fitnah.
In regards to the non-mahrem 'friend' that you speak with through MSN...hmmm...yanni...and he also insists on sitting together?! If the person you speak about is a Muslim then I would have to say you have to advise him on the adaab of such things. If he is not, then I would still advise him that as a Muslim this sort of thing cannot happen--if you have the means to control it. Do you wear hijaab everywhere you go sister? Do they allow you to wear it at work?
WAllaahu alam
format_quote Originally Posted by
blacklashes
I know how to tackle the friend issue (just tell it to him straight), but the other problem regarding work is difficult. i control my self when i am out and about otherwise as much as possible. its harder as well becos my family as a whole are not as religious as we could be! please sisters espeically, give me your advice.
Being that your family is not as religious I understand that you may feel that you are lacking support and advise; however, you can make it your duty to advise them to become more religious, insh'Allaah. As regards work, as I have stated, it is good that you control yourself, but it is better to not place oneself near the fitnah if one is able. I would seek the advise of a shaykh sister.
May Allaah make it easy for you and increase your iman. Aameen.