engagment

[yasmin19777]

i am new to islam and i currently engaged. i have a terrible dilemma which i am very scared of.
I cannot have kids and i am so scared to tell my future husband about it, i think he would be very disappointed and i am scared of losing him.
i know i have to be honest but i dont know what to do.
what does islam say about woman who cannot have kids, i know its not fair on my fiance as he wants kids...
Please any body advise me...i am feeling so sad

[catalzzy]

Oh dear. think you can adopt?

[yasmin19777]

i am not sure what islam says about adoption but of course i would love to,

[Ansariyah]

:sl:

Sista place ur trust in Allah..Isnt Allah who gives? My cousin was told she cant have kids at the age of 20 Shes been married for 3 years n had no kids n just this year Allah blessed her wit a gorgeous lil baby girl Alhamdulilah.

Tell him if u need to...but u can never be too sure that u can never have kids.

May Allah bless u always ameen.

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[Al Ansari]

You should also be honest with your soon to be husband and let him know.

[Salahudeen]

You should tell him everything relevant to the marriage to prevent problems later. For example stuff that has the potential to cause problems between you and him and could possibly end your marriage.

It's better to not get married than to get married and then get divorced cos he realises you can't have kids.

[Rafeeq]

Tell your fiance truth. Truth has its own power, you will not asshamed neither you will regret at any stage of life.
Allah might give you kids later as it is evident in many cases. Adoption may also be one of the solution.

[- IqRa -]

Truth. Because my friend knows someone, who's husband found out after marriage, and now he has marrying the second time, because the wife cannot have kids. Truth is strength.