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HandOnHeart
12-09-2009, 01:08 AM
I recently joined in order to enhance my knowledge of Islam before I declare the Shahadah.

I know exactly what people will say to this: 'if you are a believer then don't waste time, ect'. I completely agree that I should declare my belief of Islam to Allah incase it is too late (we could die within the next few seconds). However, there a few problems that have arised.

1- My youth. I am only 15 years old and I am almost positive people will believe I am too young to make a descition like this. I did not find Islam overnight, It took alot of reading, thinking, and travelling to be completely sure that Islam is the way.

2 - My country/family. My family are Irish Christians, my mum and dad have spend endless amounts of money on expensive gifts for christmas. Would it be haram to accept them? Would it be disrespectful (as muslims highly respect their parents) to reject them?

3 - A question for hijab-wearing sisters. If people advice me to wait before declaring the Shahadah, would it be appropriate to begin wearing the hijab even though I have not fully converted?

My overall question is, taken everything into account, should I declare the Shahadah now, or wait?

Please don't judge me by my questions, it's hard to gather information about Islam where I live. Thankyou so much xx
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S_87
12-09-2009, 01:22 PM
Hello and welcome

the journey to islam is not an easy one and Allah is Most Merciful. You will not change over night but it will take a while to get used to stuff. My advice would be to declare the shahadah so that you have taken the plunge. You already believe it in your heart.
once you have done that you can slowly.
as for your questions.

1- your age doesnt matter
2- i am not sure of an exact answer and dont want to say anything wrong but advise you to read this. it has some good advice on how after converting, you should be even more respectful to your parents etc:
http://islamqa.com/en/ref/20961/family%20christmas
3-yes wearing hijab before is absolutely fine and hijab is actually not something alien to the christian religion in any case.

your overall question: if you are firm in your belief and decision then there is no need to wait and Allah will open a way for you.
May Allah have mercy on you and make it easy for you!
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Rabi'ya
12-09-2009, 01:34 PM
:sl: sis

I would say declare the shahadah. declare your faith in Allah and the teachings of Islam. Once you have done this you can take your time in researching further and slowly but surely completing the actions of a Muslim. I took my shahadah when i was 17 but it wasnt until I was 20ish that I considered myself as fully practising. alhamdulillah I got there and I have made all hte effort(and still do) there is so much that u will never know everything.

If you believe 100% in Allah, the Angels, the Books of Allah(esp the Quraan), the Prophets(esp Muhammad(pbuh), The day of Judgement and Qadr(Allahs will/predestination) then I would urge you to accept Islam and start doing all the other bits first.

As for Xmas. I still visit my family for xmas, and they buy me gifts. I always tell them not to, but still they do. I accept them as it is rude not to and I respect them . however, I do not buy gifts for them. just a box of chocs which we all share in the evening.

I'm sure someone will post more evidence for you inshAllah

good luck and i hope isnhAllah we can call you a sister in islam very very soon :)
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HandOnHeart
12-09-2009, 02:29 PM
Thankyou very much, Rabi'ya and Amani. I think it would be best to declare the shahada and learn as i go along with the help of Allah x
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Donia
12-09-2009, 07:19 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by HandOnHeart
I recently joined in order to enhance my knowledge of Islam before I declare the Shahadah.

I know exactly what people will say to this: 'if you are a believer then don't waste time, ect'. I completely agree that I should declare my belief of Islam to Allah incase it is too late (we could die within the next few seconds). However, there a few problems that have arised.

1- My youth. I am only 15 years old and I am almost positive people will believe I am too young to make a descition like this. I did not find Islam overnight, It took alot of reading, thinking, and travelling to be completely sure that Islam is the way.

2 - My country/family. My family are Irish Christians, my mum and dad have spend endless amounts of money on expensive gifts for christmas. Would it be haram to accept them? Would it be disrespectful (as muslims highly respect their parents) to reject them?

3 - A question for hijab-wearing sisters. If people advice me to wait before declaring the Shahadah, would it be appropriate to begin wearing the hijab even though I have not fully converted?

My overall question is, taken everything into account, should I declare the Shahadah now, or wait?

Please don't judge me by my questions, it's hard to gather information about Islam where I live. Thankyou so much xx
Peace be to you,

1. I do not believe that you are to young. As you stated, it took you time and a lot of research to come to the conclusion that Islam is the way. I think that is very mature of you to take initiative and seek the truth on your own. :)
2.Tough one. In my very humble opinion, I would say it would be alright to accept the gifts being that you are still a minor living with your parents (I assume) and maybe just not open them until another day or something. Do you plan on telling your parents that you want to revert? If so, then you can explain to them that you no longer celebrate Christmas. If that doesn't go over so well then just accept the gifts and open them another day. No need to live in hostility.
3.If you want to wear hijab right now before taking your shahadah then go ahead. No harm in it. Even if you just want to start gradually like wearing long shirts and skirts and a scarf, etc.

If you believe that there is only one God, Allah and Mohammed (sallahu ta'aala alayhi wa salaam) is the last messenger of Allah.... then please declare your shahada. There is no reason to wait.

PLEASE ask as many questions as you would like.

I hope my answers were of a benefit to you insha'Allah.
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Insaanah
12-09-2009, 09:46 PM
Peace, Kay

I agree with the other posters.

Your age doesn't matter. You are obviously mature enough to have done your research seriously and have come to realise that Islam is the truth.

With regards to the presents from your parents, I am not sure what the correct Islamic opinion is. However, it is possible that they may have bought your presents already or spent money, as you say, on expensive gifts. My only worry is that would your turning them down immediately as you revert, leave them with negative feelings about Islam? If you decide to accept them then accept them for this year only, then tell them the truth about Christmas, and the high position that Jesus peace be upon him holds in Islam, and how he never said he was son of God etc. Slowly slowly.....gently, gently, so as not to put them off. And let them slowly see how wonderful Islam is, through your behaviour, and through the beautiful change in your life.

Also remember, that even though your parents are non-Muslim you still have to show them the utmost respect, even more than you did before. You still have to obey them as long as they don't tell you to go against Islam.

There is no harm in your wearing hijab before you convert, but no reward either without faith.

In answer to your overall question,

Declare your Shahada now :)

Say it in front of Allah immediately (as you read this), then in front of a witness, or in the mosque later, inshaAllah.

We are waiting to welcome you home to Islam as a sister, and we are here to support you throughout.

May Allah also guide your family to the light of Islam. Ameen.

Peace
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Hamza Asadullah
12-10-2009, 10:44 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by HandOnHeart
I recently joined in order to enhance my knowledge of Islam before I declare the Shahadah.

I know exactly what people will say to this: 'if you are a believer then don't waste time, ect'. I completely agree that I should declare my belief of Islam to Allah incase it is too late (we could die within the next few seconds). However, there a few problems that have arised.

1- My youth. I am only 15 years old and I am almost positive people will believe I am too young to make a descition like this. I did not find Islam overnight, It took alot of reading, thinking, and travelling to be completely sure that Islam is the way.

2 - My country/family. My family are Irish Christians, my mum and dad have spend endless amounts of money on expensive gifts for christmas. Would it be haram to accept them? Would it be disrespectful (as muslims highly respect their parents) to reject them?

3 - A question for hijab-wearing sisters. If people advice me to wait before declaring the Shahadah, would it be appropriate to begin wearing the hijab even though I have not fully converted?

My overall question is, taken everything into account, should I declare the Shahadah now, or wait?

Please don't judge me by my questions, it's hard to gather information about Islam where I live. Thankyou so much xx
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, welcome to the forum. Allah is wanting to guide you towards the truth that is why your heart is being inclined to come towards Islam. The shaythan is trying to stop you by giving you lame excuses why you should'nt revert yet and his plan is that you never revert. If you know that Allah is one and that he has no partners and none are like unto him and that Muhammed (Pbuh) is the last and final messenger and the slave of Allah, then all you have to do is proclaim it and accept the truth that your heart yearns for.

It is never too late and never too early to accept the truth. Here is a story of a young 15 year old who searched for the truth and accepted it at such a tender and young age.

"15 year old Girl Becomes A Muslim"

Childhood

I was raised to believe in God from childhood. I attended church nearly every Sunday, went to Bible school, and sang in the choir. Yet religion was never a really big part of my life.

There were times when I thought myself close to God. I often prayed to him for guidance and strength in times of despair or for a wish in times of want. But I soon realized that this feeling of closeness soon evaporated when I was no longer begging God for something. I realized that I even though I believed, I lacked faith.

World Was A "Game"

I perceived the world to be a game in which God indulged in from time to time. He inspired people to write a Bible and somehow people were able to find faith within this Bible.

As I grew older and became more aware of the world, I believed more in God. I believed that there had to be a God to bring some order to the chaotic world. If there were no God, I believed the world would have ended in utter anarchy thousands of years ago. It was comfort to me to believe there was a supernatural force guiding and protecting man.

Children Take Religion From Parents

Children usually assume their religion from parents. I was no different. At the age of 12, I began to give in depth thinking to my spirituality. I realized there was a void in my life where a faith should be. Whenever I was in need or despair, I simply prayed to someone called Lord. But who was this Lord truly? I once asked my mother who to pray to, Jesus or God. Believing my mother to be right, I prayed to Jesus and to him I attributed all good things.
I have heard that religion cannot be argued. My friends and I tried to do this many times. I often had debates with my friends about Protestantism, Catholicism, and Judaism. Through these debates I searched within myself more and more and decided I should do something about my emptiness. And so at the age of 13, I began my search for truth.

Humankind is always in constant pursuit of knowledge or the truth. My search for truth could not be deemed as an active pursuit of knowledge. I continued having the debates, and I read the Bible more. But it did not really extend from this. During this period of time my mother took notice of my behavior and from then on I have been in a "religious phase." My behavior was far from a phase. I simply shared my newly gained knowledge with my family. I learned about the beliefs, practices, and doctrines within Christianity and minimal beliefs and practices within Judaism.

A few months within my search I realized that if I believe in Christianity I believed myself to be condemned to Hell. Not even considering the sins of my past, I was on a "one way road to Hell" as southern ministers tend to say. I could not believe all the teachings within Christianity. However, I did try.
Call to "salvation?"

I can remember many times being in church and fighting with myself during the Call to Discipleship. I was told that by simply confessing Jesus to be my Lord and Savior I would be guaranteed eternal life in Heaven. I never did walk down the aisle to the pastor's outstretched hands, and my reluctance even increased my fears of heading for Hell. During this time I was at unease. I often had alarming nightmares, and I felt very alone in the world.

But not only did I lack belief but I had many questions that I posed to every knowledgeable Christian I could find and never really did receive a satisfactory answer. I was simply told things that confused me even more. I was told that I am trying to put logic to God and if I had faith I could simply believe and go to Heaven. Well, that was the problem: I did not have faith. I did not believe.

Questioning Belief

I did not really believe in anything. I did believe there was a God and that Jesus was his son sent to save humankind. That was it. My questions and reasoning did, however, exceed my beliefs.

The questions went on and on. My perplexity increased. My uncertainty increased. For fifteen years I had blindly followed a faith simply because it was the faith of my parents.

"Muslim - Christian Dialog"

Something happened in my life in which the little faith I did have decreased to all but nothing. My search came to a stop. I no longer searched within myself, the Bible. or church. I had given up for a while. I was a very bitter parson until one day a friend gave me a book. It was called "The Muslim-Christian Dialogue."

I took the book and read it. I am ashamed to say that during my searching never did I once consider another religion. Christianity was all I knew, and I never thought about leaving it. My knowledge of Islam was very minimal. In fact, it was mainly filled with misconception and stereotypes. The book surprised me. I found that I was not the only one who believed there was a simply a God. I asked for more books. I received them as well as pamphlets.

Learned Islam

I learned about Islam from an intellectual aspect. I had a close friend who was Muslim and I often asked her questions about the practices. Never did I once consider Islam as my faith. Many things about Islam alienated me.
After a couple months of reading the month of Ramadan began. Every Friday I could I joined the local Muslim community for the breaking of the fast and the reciting of the Quran. I posed questions that I may have come across to the Muslim girls. I was in awe at how someone could have so much certainty in what they believed and followed. I felt myself drawn to the religion that alienated me.

Islam Brought Comfort & Reminder

Having believed for so long that I was alone, Islam did comfort me in many ways. Islam was brought as a reminder to the world. It was brought to lead the people back to the right path.

Beliefs were not the only thing important to me. I wanted a discipline to pattern my life by. I did not just want to believe someone was my savior and through this I held the ticket to Heaven. I wanted to know how to act to receive the approval of God. I wanted a closeness to God. I wanted to be God-conscious. Most of all I wanted a chance for heaven. I began to feel that Christianity did not give this to me, but Islam did.

I continued learning more. I went to the Eid celebration and Jummah and weekly classes with my friends.

Through religion one receives peace of mind. A calmness about them. This I had off and on for about three years. During the off times I was more susceptible to the temptations of Satan. In early February of 1997 I came to the realization that Islam was right and true. However, I did not want to make any hasty decisions. I did decide to wait.
Satan Tempted

Within this duration the temptations of Satan increased. I can recollect two dreams in which he was a presence. Satan was calling me to him. After I awoke from these nightmares I found solace in Islam. I found myself repeating the Shahadah. These dreams almost made me change my mind. I confided them in my Muslim friend. She suggested that maybe Satan was there to lead me from the truth. I never thought of it that way.

On March 19, 1997 after returning from a weekly class, I recited the Shahadah to myself. Then on March 26, I recited it before witnesses and became an official Muslim.

Became Muslim

I cannot express the joy I felt. I cannot express the weight that was lifted from my shoulders. I had finally received my peace of mind.
...
It has been about five months since I recited the Shahadah. Islam has made me a better person. I am stronger now and understand things more. My life has changed significantly. I now have purpose. My purpose is to prove myself worthy of eternal life in Jennah. I have my long sought after faith. Religion is a part of me all the time. I am striving everyday to become the best Muslim I can be.

People are often amazed at how a fifteen year old can make such an important decision in life. I am grateful that Allah blessed me with my state of mind that I was able to find it so young.

Striving to Be A Good Muslim - In Non-Muslim Society

It is hard to be a good Muslim in a Christian dominated society. Living with a Christian family is even harder. However, I do not try to get discouraged. I do not wish to dwell on my present predicament, but I believe that my jihad is simply making me stronger. Someone once told me that I am better off than some people who were born into Islam, in that I had to find, experience, and realize the greatness and mercy of Allah. I have acquired the reasoning that seventy years of life on earth is nothing compared to eternal life in Paradise.

I must admit that I lack the aptitude to express the greatness, mercy, and glory of Allah. I hope my account helped others who may feel the way I felt or struggle the way I struggled.

As salamu alaykum wa rahmatulah wa barakatuh,

Natassia M. Kelly



Here are some short clips of young children convert to Islam:

British Children Converted To Islam Part 1

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ih7kUyGHCgA

British Children Converted To Islam Part 2

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qkk6QeNG4eE

British Children Converted To Islam Part 3

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SlneZTqbFLU

British Children Converted To Islam Part 4

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-VLcPiH_wOk

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