Originally Posted by AlbanianMuslim
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb my sister I also have know people like this and im sure many of us do but the best thing we can do is advise them best we can in a gentle but firm manner using wisdom and tact and make dua for them as much as we can and leave the rest to Allah
We can advise them and continue to try and instill fear of Allah in them by reminding them about death that it can come any second and that what will we say if Allah takes us now and that their actions are leading them into destruction. We can try to inform them best we can but at the end of the day it is down to Allah to guide them or not so do not ever blame yourself or let your mother blame herself because you can only do the best you can.
My sister continue giving him good advice and trying to make him realise what he is doing to himself and the family but don't nag him too much because that never works and it ends up going in one ear and coming out of the other.
Try to Make him realise that he should be proud to have a sister like you who is very decent and inclined towards Islam because nowadays the sisters are really gone astray and you should make them realise that he is doing such disrespectful things disobeying his dear mother and that if your mother was to go that he would regret it forever for disobeying her and putting her through so much pain and hurting her so much. This will really make him think that what is he doing to himself and his family. Death is the destroyer of all pleasures and brings us back into reality so it is always a good reminder especially for those who are not practising that they can go at any moment so they should start preparing for it now.
You should sit them down everyday even for a few minutes and read them a couple of hadith or ayats from the Qur'an because even a little reminder everyday may impact on them positively and eventually Allah may unseal his heart and make him realise his actions are wrong so that he may make the necessary changes to his life.
My sister dua is the best weapon for a Muslim so make dua for them all the time and cry to Allah and he will listen to your prayers inshallah.
Be patient my sister and know that their guidance is not in your hands. You can only inform him best you can for Allah is the one who guides so there is only so much you can do sister so comfort your mother and tell her never to blame herself and that he will realise his mistakes anc change Inshallah.
Show him these video clips which are VERY effective and from strong effective speakers:
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 1/3
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 2/3
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 3/3
Angel of Death!!! - Sheikh Ahmed Ali
Islam - Punishment of the Grave by Shaykh Riyadh ul Haq
Death and the Grave by Murtaza Khan