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AnonymousGender
First I am not talking about relationships or freindships before marriage,I am talking about a man who met a girl in the presence of her wali ( father or brother) then he find her practicing Muslima,from a good famly ,her looking is acceptable and have good personality,but he doesn`t have any feeling towrds her,even when he repeated the meeting( in the present of the wali )he stil doesn`t feel anything towards her.
So do you think that love can come after marriage,so he can force himself now for marreing her then feel love later? or have he to wait until he meet someone who love her from the first sight.
Salaam brother.
Love does not just grow on a person straight away. Yes if you meet somebody, you may be attracted to them, but to really love them you have to spend time with them, get to know them, etc.
Of course in your situation it may be different because you may have only known her for a short while, but love can grow over time.
If you feel that you may develop something with her after marriage than it's your choice to go ahead with it, so long as you don't mind marrying her. I think you should speak to her more, get to know her. Ask her about her views on Islam and other important subjects. It may not be everything but it may give you an insight into the type of person she is. Of course i am not an expert, infact i have little to no practice but this is just what i think.
I think love IS important for a marriage to work, because if a husband and wife harbour no love, then it can easily fall out, or have effects on the children. For example if the parents fight all the time infront of children. Of course that's thinking a bit too ahead but it's something to consider. But like i mentioned, love grows over time. If you think this sister is an acceptable person then you may start to develop affection over time. If you are unsure, i would suggest waiting it out a bit more, meeting a few more times and even speaking to her parents just to get some knowledge of her, this is just my view.