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I am going through something, which may seem trivial to some but it effects me deeply. So much so that it keeps me awake at night and i spend crying for hours. There was an individual in our family(stepfather) who spent years abusing my mother financially and worse of all, mentally, he also made up lies about her and spread all over the world, he made her life a living hell. He would visit her sometimes ones a year, He denied her the right to have more children, and abanded the ones he already had. My mother continued to treat him with kindness masha allah, and he never appreciated ones, instead, he got worse and worse. All this abuse she went through, affected me emotionally aswell as mentally, it left me angry and hateful towards him. This person is known to do this to his wives, she was aware before they got married that he left his first wife whilst she was carrying his child and he never came back to her. Not only that today he hates the child he left, and no one knows why even though it was him that abanded him and the mother. His son lives in poverty in a poverty stricken counrty and he refused to financially support him since he is well off and is somewhat wealthy. Anyways, one day she went to his city hoping to make things workout and ask him as to why he is treating her this way, but he told her that he found another wife and divorced her on the spot. When he married the other woman bad things started happening to him the woman pretty much kicked him out and threatened to call the police on him within a week of their marriage, things went down hill from there for him. recently he started crawling back to my mother and iam not happy about this at all. I don't know how to remove myself from this situation or what to do. I know i will be fine if iam not around this person. Everywhere i look i realise i don't really have anyone else in the world to turn to. My mother is willing to give him a chance even though she knows this makes me extremely unhappy. I don't know how she is willing to hurt her own flesh, but she plans to anyways. Although iam aware that its unislamic for a female to live on her own, i decided to discuss with her about the possibility of finding a roommate to live with. she told me if i ever step out of the house that she will disown me and she will no longer be my mother. I know the only reason he wants back is so he can just boast about it. I have spoken to her, cried, begged and pleaded many, many times but she doesn't really care about how i feel. Nor does she want to come up with some sort of solution where everyone will be happy. I just want to be at peace with myself, i cannot stand this person and i want to be as far away from him as i can. Please advice me.
P.s. Please don't tell me to get married.
Shukran
P.s. Please don't tell me to get married.
Shukran