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EllyDicious
In what way do the Islamic men contribute to their home, family, children and wife?
Do they cook? Do house-chores? Wash the dishes? Iron ...etc?
Or they are the typical type of man who work all day to bring money home?
HOw does it work generally and for you personally ?
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Most of the Muslim families I know here, are of the idea that men should work and wife has to do all the rest.
I'd be curious to know how it works over there.
I am not Muslim, but can I answer? :) I like answering your questions. :p
Personally, I believe that if the man is working outside of the home and the wife is in the home then it is her responsibility to do everything in the home. Her duty should be to make life easier and more pleasant for her husband. He should be able to come home to a clean house, a happy wife, happy children, and just relax. If both the husband and the wife are working outside of the home, then each should contribute within the home as they are able. Marriage is about a partnership. It should never be about who is doing more or who is working harder. Both should be contributing. If the woman is home full time, then that is her job. Her husband should not be expected to come home after working outside the home and then be put to work or burdened with her problems from the day. He has had his own problems. Additionally, both should be appreciative of what each other does. And if one is weak, and not able to do something, then the other should be there to step in. That is what a partnership is all about. Both giving their all. Sometimes one may be weak and other times it may reverse. Resentment doesn't get things done. If the husband is not working and the wife is the primary breadwinner, then he is in the role of a stay at home spouse and it should be his responsibility to work in the home. He should not expect his wife to work outside the home and then come home and take care of the house as well, while he is lazy. If he is not able to work due to a disability then it is different. In a case such as that, he should do what things he can and the wife may have to take on greater responsibilities.
Obviously, I don't believe in a one size fits all. Ideally, I'd love to be a stay at home wife and mother, but unfortunately life has not afforded me that. :) For me, I love more than anything to be in that role and to care for a husband, children, and home. I like to clean. LOL I like to cook and garde and sew and homeschool and do so many, many things.