psychological and emotion preservation

[Ummu Sufyaan]

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What does Islam say about the psychological and emotion well being of one? such as bullying, defending oneself from bullying (physically, verbally). and not just bullying, anything that affects our psychological and emotion well being, even predicaments that one can land themself in, for example one may act upon something, knowing that it may cause them to be hurt and distraught.

In Islam, how important is it to preserve psychological and emotion well-being?

i haven't really come across any articles/resources of this nature, so inshallah do post if you know anything.

another question related to this, is how does one psychological and emotion state hold them accountable. as far as i know, one who is insane is not held responsible for their actions, etc

In western countries, when someone in convicted of something/are on trial, they take into account their psychological state they were in when committing the crime.

but sometimes (i personally feel) that this system is abused and the system gets taken advantage of even in light of evidences that that person wasn't in the best state of mind when committing the crime. you fnd a lot of cases (as im sure many of you have witnessed) where the lawyers/perpetrator practically defend themselves with silly silly excuses that lead them to commit that crime.

my point? In Islam, where is the line drawn? yes, that person may not have been in the best psychological state, but how does Islam preserve that the shareeah doesn't get abused in this way?

[syed_z]

Asalaam O Alaikum.... thanks for the Topic..

What does Islam say about the psychological and emotion well being of one? such as bullying, defending oneself from bullying (physically, verbally).

A verse of Quran says..

(4:77) Have you not seen those who were told: 'Restrain you hands, and establish the Prayer, and pay the Zakah'? But when fighting was enjoined upon them some of them feared men as one should fear Allah, or even more..."

This is what Allah (swt) says to those who are eager to fight each other over petty issues, to Observe patience, and establish prayer to humble themselves, as prayer protects us from Fahsh (immodesty) and Munkar (loathsome deeds)... and give Zakah, and not only that but it also points towards charity as, charity does helps our Hearts become purified... which then helps us Learn to be patient and be at peace within our Hearts....even if the one who has anger problem, or cannot face anything wrong being done to him, they can easily over come their problem by practicing the above mentioned commands....


So this is what Quran says if being driven by Anger to fight others... and Also this Verse...

(7:200) And if it should happen that a prompting from Satan stirs you up (to blind Anger), seek refuge with God: behold, He is all-hearing, all-knowing.


So rather than getting out of control, we need to excercise patience..... and at that time recite those Duas which can help us Calm down our Anger...Seek Protection in Allah right away from Satan's influence...


Also Prophet Muhammad (Saw) said in a Hadith ...

"A Muslim who lives in the midst of Society and bears with patience the afflictions that come to him is better than the one who shuns society and cannot bear anything wrong done to him."

and so our bearing with Patience many hardships makes us strong, and every time we face hardships we invoke Allah (Swt) more and we get closer to him.


(13:22)... and who are patient in adversity out of a longing for their Sustainer's countenance, and are constant in prayer, and spend on others, secretly and openly, out of what we provide for them as sustenance, and (who) Repel Evil with Good."

Again Allah (swt) emphasizes on spending much, not only money, but also knowledge, kindness, good habits etc.... and who Repel Evil with Good.... meaning they repel the evil done to them by inturn doing good to them and not returning an Evil for an evil... this makes other realize their mistake , and makes that person comes close to you. This can also mean, that they ...Repel Evil with Good... meaning they do Taubah (repentance) and Istighfar for whatever Evil they have done like hurt some one, beat some one, curse someone etc.

and not just bullying, anything that affects our psychological and emotion well being, even predicaments that one can land themself in, for example one may act upon something, knowing that it may cause them to be hurt and distraught.

(4:78) ..Yet, when a good thing happens to them, they say "This is from God", whereas evil befalls them they say "This is from you (o fellow man)!" SAY "All is from God."

Mankind , most of us have that attitude towards good happenings and bad happenings in our lives. The Good ones we like and we accept. But when the bad ones come, rather than us accepting the fact that they came from ourselves, or due to our own actions, we blame it on others! And we say it is because of so and so, and while very few of us learn from our lessons.

So the best way is to understand that many problems and hardships caused by Our own doings or those which are sent our way by God and the good things happening in our Lives, are all from God... Say "All is from God".... meaning that Allah (Swt) bestows good things to us in our lives and tests us to see whether we are thankful.... similarly, Allah (Swt) tests us with Trials and Hardships to see whether we are patient or act rebellious. If we are patient in adversity, we become more strong from inside of ourselves and our closeness to Allah (swt) increases... and also if we do evil due to our own Free Will given by Allah (Swt) then the consequences that we face are also to help us learn our lesson and make us a better person....

So there are all these aspects about good and bad in our lives, whether it comes our way or caused by our own actions....


(2:216)... It may well be that you hate a thing, while it is good for you and it may well be that you love a thing the while it is bad for you.


There might be many consequences we might face as a result of our wrong doings and might have to suffer due to that in our lives, but it is that suffering which teaches us a lesson, which makes us not repeat those wrong actions inturn making us better persons. Similar with Trials, Allah (Swt) sends them our way, and sees whether we cross the Limits of Allah (Swt) or exercise patience and stay within the limits, this trains us to be obedient to Allah (Swt). Suffering gone through by us in this life also increases our good deeds and our bad deeds are eliminated.


And Allah (Swt) knows best.. Please share views then may be we can learn some more on this...