are you going to desire this girl once you commit zina with her. you will hear many stories of people loosing interest in one another after they have committed zina. they mean nothing to one another, so what is the point? besides i thought you brothers were more obsessed with the hoori's :hmm: wouldnt it be easier if you just died as a shaheed?
now, if i as a sister, is reminding you about the hooris there must be something wrong with you.
the whole catch to the hardship is whether you're going to remain steadfast, so are you?
besides what so good about her? she gets her menses, plus all those other weird things that the human body (males and females) produces and secretes. go study abit of microbiology and then come and tell me how attractive she is. and if shes non-muslim, god knows how many guys have been attracted to her. god knows, she may be carrying diseases as well. gross. whats so attractive about that?
don't make excuses for yourself and exercise the utmost caution. when she rings you, don't lean towards your nafs, be strict with it and tell it that it cant have whatever it wants. its a no-go zone and make sure your nafs knows it and don't let it deceive you otherwise.
ignore her even if it kills you. once or twice it'll be hard, you will get used to it, after that it will become easier. in your heart, develops a type of delight that makes you feel good for leaving off the sin. it feels nice and one wishes to relive it so they keep staying away from sin. this is what motivates them to continue in obedience-the feeling in the heart...so let yourself taste it.
there was an insightful quote of patience
If a person does not naturally possess the characteristic of patience, he can attain this characteristic by acting as if he does possess it, until it eventually becomes second nature. This is what the Prophet (saaws) has told us in the hadith: “Whoever tries to be patient, then Allâh will help him to be patient.” A person can also strive to control sexual desire and lower his gaze until these too become second nature. The same applies to all other desirable characteristics such as steadiness, generosity and courage.
why does she keep ringing you? tell her to get lost and stop ringing you. what person with self respect will bother ringing after that? know as well that she will only continue to ring you if you keep answering her.
would you like to die committing zina? wallahi there was a lecture i was listening to long ago which had a story about a man who had died in the state of janabah after he had committed zina. is this the way you would like to meet your lord is it?
so you commit zina, later on you get married only for your wife to find out. she wants to kill you and so do your kids for not setting a proper example for them and for hurting their mother. your once happy marriage turns bitter.
you commit zina she later tells you she's carrying your child. you go crazy, your family go crazy. you either fulfill the responsibility towards the child (or abandon it) a few years down the the track you find out she's deceived you all along when you find out it wasn't yours to begin with.
you remain steadfast and get rewarded for it (you give up something for the sake of allah and you get rewarded for it)
you put your head down knowing that Allah is pleased with you with no worries about how low of a level you have sunken, no worries about the sin you didnt commit, no worries if she is carrying your child and inshallah if you get married your wife will adore 100 fold.
perhaps if you fear allah, allah will replace you with someone better only a day later. you never know. wouldn't that be a better result?
zina (and every other sin for that matter) have bitter consequences that you have to be aware of. you have to be cautious and take into account their consequences. whats like going to be like after you commit the sin? whats your personal state going to be like? what affects will it have on your family? your life in general?
get praying if you dont. sit with the righteous people and beware and be alert as to where your nafs will take.