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LauraLee
Hello, any input would be greatly appreciated on this matter.
I am a non-muslim, but have been told the following two and would like to understand if this is accurate.
1) That one can "date" another if he claims her to be his wife in his heart even though a ceremony has not happened.
2) That a wife will love her husband and treat him with respect even if he tells her he no longer loves her and she should not leave.
I am just learning about Islam, but to me the first one seems very wrong as it leads to the possibility of sin. Isn't there a statement that if two are in the room there is a third (Saytaan) even if this is just over the phone/internet?
Please can someone clarify? I would greatly appreciate it.
I just want to make sure I am getting the correct information when learning about Islam.
The first statement is totally wrong, it's a sin to have a relationship outside of marriage even if he claims to be her wife in his heart. The truth is she is not his wife regardless if he claims it in his heart. Whoever told you this was wrong. And be careful in case they want you to have a sinful relationship with them and they told you this to make you think it's ok.
After the ceremony takes place only then are you his wife and only then can you engage in the activities that a married couple engage in.
Yes there is a statement like that, no man and woman are alone with each other except that the 3rd amongst them is satan.
The second statement depends on the people involved, in Islam if a woman is unhappy in her marriage because the husband is not giving the due rights to her then she can divorce him, if he tells her that he doesn't love her any more but still wants her to stay with him then it's her entirely her prerogative, she can leave him if she wants or she can decide to stay. Whatever she decides is up to her.