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__follower
10-09-2010, 12:56 AM
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dear brothers n sisters , i want some advice on da following matters . first, i have made mistakes ,mistake of loving someone but now the problem is her parents wont allow us to marry as she is engaged , only engaged .not yet nikah, and both of us really want to be together n get married.what should we do ?

secondly, if we just ignore her parents n get married by telling my parents only will it work ?"

lastly please advice me on what to do ?n i am a pakistani ,so most of you can imagine how stupid our culture /tradition is .
please advise :wa:
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Ummu Sufyaan
10-09-2010, 07:31 AM
wa alaykum us-Salaam

If she is already engaged, just let it go and try move on. there are so many reasons why it is wrong to do what you are suggesting.

secondly, if we just ignore her parents n get married by telling my parents only will it work ?"
do you think that is a wise thing to do? honestly, do you think it is right to "kidnap" someone's daughter? forced marriages arent right, but this isn't either. would you go against your parents wishes? if no, then you shouldn't expect anyone else to either.
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__follower
10-09-2010, 11:37 AM
but the point is that she also doesnt want to marry the person shes arranged with., isnt that a sin to force someone to marry someone of your choice but not even bothering to ask about their opinion?

force marriage is a sin isnt it ?
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Ummu Sufyaan
10-09-2010, 11:41 AM
^its not allowed no. but that's different from what you want to do.

it's a really touchy subject i cant advise more than i have.
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Cabdullahi
10-09-2010, 11:52 AM
Originally Posted by __follower
n i am a pakistani ,so most of you can imagine how stupid our culture /tradition is .
please advise :wa:
I know man!....its easier to marry a female Jinn than it is to marry a Pakistani female...its no exaggeration!

Brother how would you feel if you were engaged to someone and some guy tried to run away with the girl....just leave her ...its better for you , for her and for him
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tigerkhan
10-09-2010, 12:27 PM
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if u and that girl is also from pakistan then i suggest leave her.........................rather get ready to face a huge bundle of difficultuies and problems....
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