serena77 said:
my parents... both atheists....
My parents are both Methodists but I manage to get by. My mom had a very serious problem with my Islam at first but she got over it. I’m pretty sure yours will too. You just have to give it time.
my mother does not wish me to marry... does want me to live here until they are gone.....
I’m afraid you’ll just have to take those things up with her.
and its a rural area.... hour or so to the closest mosque... and my car only likes me half the time.. but mechanics can't find out the other half.... lol
As surah 2 says, Allah does not place on any soul a greater burden than it can bear. In its favor it has only what it has merited and standing against it only what it has truly earned. Probably there are online broadcasts from mosques as there are from churches. You might want to look into that.
i do have a dog.... err... else my parents have dogs. one of which has adopted me... is neurotic and no one else woud ever want him... while its been suggested that i just make sure he never enters the room i pray in.. which makes sense and i know there are some different schools of thought on dogs... i do love the little rugrat!
.... he's also only middle age.
It’s not your dog, and remember that you shouldn’t let a human interrupt your prayers either unless there’s some really urgent reason for them to do so. It’s not about the dog, it’s about the interruption.
fear of doing things that are harem without knowing i am. and i mean i know everyone sins..... and i know it won't be perfect to start off with ....i get that.... i do.... but what if i can't learn the prayers right..... can i use youtube and recite along w/ it?
There is more than one way to do the prayers, and the different ways are similar enough so as to make no difference. Allah judges us on our efforts, remember, our intents. That very same final verse from surah 2 I quoted above says that He does not punish people simply for making honest mistakes.
keep in mind i still want to take this slow.... even if al of those are answered i couldn't tomorrow revert...
Whatever other concerns you have, I am still here for you, God willing. Just be sure not to let reluctance to change be the true motivator. Not that I’m accusing.
i will say i'm proud of myself because of the amount of non pork substitutions i like. Turkey brats... are AWESOME!!!
I do enjoy beef franks, yes. They taste better than pork ones anyway.
other issue.... and i've mentioned it on the forum before... but am trying to answer completely.... is the meds issue. right now due to certain medications.... waking up for the last prayer and the first.... omg... even if i manage to wake up I wouldn't be coherent.... at the same time its finally a combo that is working.. and its the first time thats happened....
I’m sure you can figure it out, and if you can’t then, again, just do your best because that’s all God wants or expects. I suggest you ease into it gradually until you’ve got it just right.
and fear. Conservative bible belt areas are a little unnerving to be probably the only muslimah in.
I live in Arkansas, my sister, which is known across the U.S.A. as the BUCKLE of the Bible Belt. If I can get by, so can you.
i hope i haven't been too honest in all of this.
There is no such
thing as “too honest”, though I’m sure (*rolls eyes*) that some would dispute that.
Its not the prayers, the fasting, the beliefs of Allah and the prophets ... and the fact that there is no trinity ( oh what a relief actiually ) .....
I know how you feel! I used to be Christian and it
is truly a big relief to finally rip up that Moebius strip of rationalization and semantic self-hypnosis once and for all. Good luck trying to get other Christians to do it, though!
and swimsuits are perfect they look much like wetsuits... i can do that. i get that its all stupid little things.... i know that.... being afraid of not learning what i need to a bit bigger.
That very concern itself already makes you a bit bigger, my dear Sister.
and i know i don't have to tell my parents right off... my church however will freak if i leave... i have more jobs than the priest does it seems.... i could never tell them why i left. Its one thing that bothers me so much about the church... they are so closed minded.. so against certain things....
Almost everything in this life seems worse in anticipation than it does when the event finally arrives. And then it’s over and done with!
I'm sorry if i've said too much and i hope i didnt say the wrong thing. Salaam to all. Serena
Don’t worry about saying too much in a subject and situation like this; if anything, worry about saying too little.
