I have had a heated debate with someone over early marriages and girls. This debate eventually erupted on the statement of the Iranian president’s statement that girls and boys should be married off at the age of 16-18 for girls and 19-21 for boys. In response to this, there were number of people who subjected the idea of early marriages to mockery and said that the very concept is impractical in today’s world.My argument remained that when a teenage couple in the West can go through all the intimate processes that a married couple goes through, and consequently there are so many teen pregnancies and abortions outside the bond of marriage, it is considered a normal thing,
yes to them what is practical is zina, boyfriend girlfriend we all know the works how it is out here in the west this is practical authbillah .. the statment of the Iranian goes agasint what the Nabi aylihi assalat was salam for the prophet peace be upon him said “O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power .” so who ever is able to and has reached the age should marry if a man or a women are ready to go out then why not marry it is best to save ourselfs and alhumdulillah for islam
whereas when the same is done in the context of religion i.e. marriage, people come up with arguments (socially constructed ones) like girls are not ready to bear the responsibility of marriage at such a young age, etc.
well they are right to an extent becasue marriage does have its responsibility and diffuclties and hard times but the merits are greater i found this for you insha Allah it helps
SHAYKH FAWZAAN
Taken from: Islaam’s Solution For The Problems Facing Today’s Youth, pgs. 42-44
From among the problems facing the adolescents is that they abstain from marriage. This is a big problem. The youth abstaining from matrimony produces serious harm and no one knows the outcome except Allah. They use the following alleged reasons for abstaining from matrimony.
* Getting married at an early age diverts from studying and getting prepared for the future.
* Getting married at an early age burdens the youth with the responsibilities of providing for his wife and children.
* The most dangerous reason for the youth turning away from marriage is the obstacles which are placed in the path topwards marriage such as extravagant celebrations. And at times the youth can not afford the espense of these celebrations.
In my opinion, this is the biggest reason why these adolescents do not get married. The remedy for this problem is simple if we correct our intentions.
First, it should be explained to the youth that the merits, superiority, and blessings that lied within marriage outweigh the obstacles and difficulties we previously mentioned. There is not anything in this Dunya except there is a trade off. I am not saying that marriage is easy and that there are not any difficulties or hardships. There are difficulties and problems in marriage however; the benefits of marriage outweigh the problems and difficulties that occur. Consequently, these virtues make those difficulties and hardships forgotten. The benefits of marriage should be explained to the youth until they desire it. Marriage helps people protect their private parts and lower their gaze.
The statement of the Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam points to this
“O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power .”
[Hadeeth Saheeh. Collected by Bukhari and Muslim on the Authority of Ibn Mas'ud.]
The Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam specifically instructed the youth to take part in marriage, because they are prepared for it and have the ability.
It is appropriate for the youth to get married at an early age if he or she has the ability and means to do so. Praise is to Allah – currently this is predominately the case. There isn’t any excuse for the youth to leave off getting married. The Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam explained the merits of getting married at a young age. Matrimony protects the private parts, because the private parts are very dangerous if unguarded.
Allah subhana wa ta’ala says:
“And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts from illegal sexual acts). Except with their wives and the (women slaves) whom their right hands possess — for (then) they are not blameworthy.”
Surah Al-Ma’arij: 29-30
Matrimony protects the private parts. This is to say that marriage safeguards a person from a great evil. Marriage protects that organ and lowers the gaze. If the youth gets married, he will be delighted. He would not be looking here or there at women or at what Allah has prohibited. As a result, Allah saved this person from the haraam by giving him the halaal. By Allah’s bounty, this person was saved from adultery and fornication.
Second, marriage helps a person to attain tranquility and ease.
Allah subhana wa ta’ala says:
“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.”
Surah Ar-Rum: 21
Whenever the youth gets married his soul is relieved from agitation, anxiety and he has a piece of mind.
“That you may find repose in them.” Surah Al-Furqaan: 74
Verily, the matrimony of this youth is among the reasons for his tranquility and serenity. Accordingly, matrimony is a reason which numerous blessings spring from. end
and much more good
MATRIMONY AT AN EARLY AGE AND ITS BENEFITS
I said in response to a person that Divine knowledge is never subjected to change, but he said that it becomes obsolete with the passage of time, and religious knowledge can be altered with human needs. (He was referring to Qiyas and Ijma but didn’t know the terms).
Alhumdulillah great answer naam the deen itself is not subject to change its rulings are not subject to change but read below insha Allah we will talk about qiyas and ijma
My question is that, is religion subjected to change with the passage of time?
no it is not Islam is for all times Allah says He has compelted the deen and is pleased with islam as our deen..
times change deen doesnt so know we have cars this is a change we drive them we have planes we fly in we have phones we call and internet we use now the time changed but the deen didnt we drive the car we use the internet for good etc as for
And how can it be applied to the concept of early marriages for girls.
nowadays it is the best time to get marrige with all the fitnah going aroud with all the fasad zina abortions aids and all other diesases cheating tempttions etc. going around marrige and Commitment is not a bad thing responsiblity is a bad thing subhan Allah
Personally, I find it absolutely alright because marriages are the best way to contain one’s carnal urges.
naam it is and that is why it should be happening more..
But how do I give a concrete, rational answer to that person?
Allah knows best but to much debating isnt good tell the person The Prophet said this and that and the merits of it and what you know to be haqq then leave it it is not for us to guide anyone it is not for us to make others see we are only mubasireen we tell them and make dua and Allah knows best
as for qiyas and ijma
well ijma it is what the scholars agreed on which has refrence from kitab or sunnah such as in surat luqman it mentions lahwa alhadeeth the scholars ijtamu that it is singing or the prophet said everything that is a muskira (intoxicant) is haram the ulama ijmau that this is haram and the qiyas is that qat (it is a plant in yemen that people chew) is haram becasue it is a muskira
so in short both cant go to far from kitab and sunnah like i come and say that driving cars are haram why there is no basis in this
Qiyas was used whenever a new situation arose for which they could not find a reference from the Hadith or sayings of the Sahabah such as qat is haram such as
takeing from a fawta
This hadeeth contains the legislation of the ‘Eid prayer and that it does not have an
Adhaan or Iqamah; this is the opinion of the vast majority of the People of Knowledge.
However, some of the Shafi’eeyah, among the People of Knowledge, say that the call for
the ‘Eid Prayer is by saying “As-Salatul Jamee’a” based on an analogy drawn between
the ‘Eid Prayer and the Eclipse Prayer. However, this qiyas (deductive reasoning) is in
opposition to the text, since the ‘Eid prayer never had an Adhaan or an Iqamah. There is
a principle, among the Usooliyyeen, that states, “The Qiyas that contradicts the texts is
an invalid consideration.”
so the qiyas here is that there is somthing he went to to get this concuslion weather it is right or wrong is another story but the point here is there was somthing he took this qiyas from also scholars say: “If Athar (Hadith) exists, Qiyas is abandoned,”
as for ijma well then if we are talking about the scholars then they have ijma on somthing either quran and sunnah like alcohol is haram also ijma the picture making is haram etc they all have somthing from kitab and sunnah also they can have ijma of the sahaba and this is daleel as scholars have said ijmaa' of the companions is proof as it cannot be said that when they united they opposed the Messenger sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam becaus eAllaah protected their ijmaa' just as He protected the Qur'an and the Sunnah so i hope this help and if there is somthing that you didnt understand that i didnt make clear pls let me know im not that good at explining so in short ijma has basis in kitab sunnah or ijma of the compainons that is clear as for qiyas then this is to derive somthing from somthing like a hadith mentions somthing that was in the times of the prophet and now we have it and it falls into that then this is qiyas qiyas must have some basis as for in marriage then it is clear and qiyas is not needed Alhumdulillah
if this doesnt answer the other 2 questions you asked in you other post insha Allah i will try to explain more may Allah increase us in iman