abdulmājid;1404592 said:
Even if I'm not on Facebook, I am online on messengers and spend my daytime in front of this stupid computer. I am addicted to internet, not Facebook. Any suggestions, how I can curb this thing? Out of 24 hours I am online for a significant amount of time, 14-16 hours. I think the main problem is my PC being always online, as I am typing this, I am online since I woke up and it's 10:18 here and I'll be until late night...entertaining myself on the internet, home alone. :ermm:
I feel, I'm experiencing an emotional crisis...
Asalaamu Alaikum, you are not alone my brother. Unfortunatley many of us do not balance what we do in our daily lives properly and the result is that we waste years of our life only realising once a significant amount of time has already been wasted. The time we must act is now. We must try to balance our lives properly so that we are spending more time in worship than anything else. That is because the hereafter is for eternity and therefore we must put more investment into it than into this life which can end at any second. Here is what we need to do:
What we need to do is to draw up a daily plan that we can stick to which will give us some structure to our day and in which we can include limits and targets which we can try and reach each day. In this plan we should include what we need to do in our day. If you are studying then put in the times you are at school/college or University. If you are working then put in your work hours.
You need to put in your daily targets in this plan. Include in the plan how much studying you will do. Put in strict timings for how long you will spend each day on the internet and online. Put in a realistic time and stick to it. Be firm on yourself that you cannot waste anymore of your life and precious seconds and that you need to get a grip of yourself before anymore of your precious time is wasted.
Also include in the daily plan how much Qur'an you will recite each day. For example one juz, half a juz or even one page:
The Virtues of the Qur'an: http://www.islamicboard.com/quran/134292721-virtues-quran.html
Also include how many nafils you will pray like for eg. Salaatul Duhaa, Salaatul Tahajjud etc:
VERY Rewarding Nafl Salaahs we can Pray Everyday: http://www.islamicboard.com/worship-...-everyday.html
How much Dhikr you will do like for example 1000 dhikr or 500 etc:
Easy Dhikr which is light on the tongue but heavy on the scales!: http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...vy-scales.html
Also include how much knowledge you will gain each day like listening to one lecture a day, reading Qur'an translation or biography of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) etc and how much you will read like one page, two pages etc.
Include that you will learn one dua day:
Fortress of the Muslim:
http://www.islamicbulletin.org/free_downloads/prayer/fortress_of_a_muslim.pdf
You will learn and implement one Sunnah a day into your life:
Beautiful Sunnah's To Do Everyday:
http://www.islamicboard.com/general/134302085-beautiful-sunnahs-do-everyday-our-lives.html
And that you will learn one Ayah of the Qur'an each day.
Give yourself realistic targets that you feel you can reach each day. Allah loves consistency so even if the good deed is small but you do it everyday then it is better than doing a big good deed sometimes.
Also set yourself targets for how you can better yourself as a person like for example, reduce swearing, lying, helping parents more, improving manners, thinking good about others etc. Then keep at it until you have eradicated it and then set yourself a target to improve another aspect of yourself.
You can also include that you will eat certain types of healthy foods or that you will do a certain amount of walking, jogging, gym etc
Also make a habit of reviewing your day at the end of each day and writing down how you can improve yourself tomorrow.
It is crucial we make a plan like this which is realistic and then internalise in ur minds that we need to stick to it in order that we can make the best of each day in doing everything to please Allah and refraining from anything that angers or displeases him.
These two threads will help you to make a plan which will benefit your health and maximise the amount of worship you do everyday:
My Daily Ibadah (worship) check!
http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...hip-check.html
30 ways the youth should spend everyday of their lives!
http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...eir-lives.html
These articles wil help you to maximise to increase your imaan and help you draw up your plan and maximise the amount of good deeds you do everyday inshallah:
10 Steps to Increasing our Iman(Faith)
http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...man-faith.html (10 Steps to Increasing our Iman(Faith))
10 steps to getting closer to Allah
http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...ser-allah.html (10 steps to getting closer to Allah)
Forty Very Easy, Quick & Rewarding Good Deeds for all of us to do Everyday!
http://www.islamicboard.com/worship-...-everyday.html (Forty Very Easy, Quick & Rewarding Good Deeds for all of us to do Everyday!)
Wasting Time is worse than Death!
http://www.islamicboard.com/general/134303410-wasting-time-worse-than-death.html
The Effects of Good deeds will remain forever!!!
http://www.islamicboard.com/general/134303409-effects-good-deeds-will-remain-forever.html
Want to see the REAL appearance of Almighty Allah everyday?
http://www.islamicboard.com/general/134303154-want-see-real-appearance-almighty-allah-everyday.html
Here are some very beneficial lectures to increase your imaan and fear of Allah:
AMAZING short speech -"The Goodly Life"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-fugf1DcNyc
Remembrance: ask Allah for his forgiveness
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z-EK9r3rMzQ
Angel of Death!!! - Sheikh Ahmed Ali
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUzRJXlB2uA
HARD HITTING Lecture on HELLFIRE & the Day of JUDGEMENT! يوم القيامة والجحيم
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0O6L_fBk7VM
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 1/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DWTehIeCOUU
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 2/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yXTtk7rWx_U
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 3/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wmiD86w9fBc
Islam - Punishment of the Grave by Sheikh Riyadh ul Haq
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UWb-hYIm2WE
Death and the Grave by Murtaza Khan
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7r2nzJVecqo
How can we not appreciate what we have after watching this?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkEBUC0APMg
If you need anymore help and advice with anything at all then please do not hesitate to ask.
And Allah knows best in all matters