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02-04-2012, 06:27 PM

I have just found out, after nearly 2 years of marriage, that my husband smokes. When I confronted him, he says it's a "habit" that comes and goes, every couple of months. He says he is tired from work and smokes to "relax" himself.

Please can someone give me advice on how I can try and make him stop smoking.

Some practical advice would be helpful InshaAllaah.

JazaakAllaah Khayr in advance.

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02-05-2012, 07:15 AM
I would also like to add that it's not the fact he smokes is what hurts me, the fact that he never told me hurts me more.

02-05-2012, 09:59 AM
Anyone? I'm really upset.

'Abd-al Latif
02-05-2012, 10:07 AM

Sometimes it's hard to admit to bad habits, especially to our loved ones because it's their opinion of us that we value the most. Let him know that you are hurt and why, but that you are there for him and you want to help him quit. And as far as your efforts go, you should never stop until he quits for good.

If you live in UK, encourage him to buy nicotine cigarette. I know people who have taken nicotine cigarettes and because of it they do not feel the urge to smoke for a whole week, just from one stick. The stuff you inhale from nicotine cigarettes isn't harmful and it's effective in subduing (and eventually killing) the urge to smoke.

Word of advise, don't force him to quit cold turkey because it could cause him to lose his temper.

Here are some articles on how to quit smoking



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02-05-2012, 10:19 AM
Tips To Help You Stop Smoking

Stopping smoking is not easy. Below are some tips which may help you to quit smoking. At the end of the leaflet there are details of further resources that may help.

Write a list of the reasons why you want to stop, and keep them with you. Refer to them when tempted to light up. You may wish to read a separate leaflet in this series, called 'Smoking - The Facts'. This gives the reasons why smoking is so harmful and lists the benefits of stopping.

Set a date for stopping, and stop completely. (Some people prefer the idea of cutting down gradually. However, research has shown that if you smoke fewer cigarettes than usual, you are likely to smoke more of each cigarette, and nicotine levels remain nearly the same. Therefore, it is usually best to stop once and for all from a set date.)

Tell everyone that you are giving up smoking. Friends and family often give support and may help you. Smoking by others in the household makes giving up harder. If appropriate, try to get other household members who smoke, or friends who smoke, to stop smoking at the same time. A team effort may be easier than going it alone.

Get rid of ashtrays, lighters, and all cigarettes.

Be prepared for some withdrawal symptoms. When you stop smoking, you are likely to get symptoms which may include: nausea (feeling sick), headaches, anxiety, irritability, craving, and just feeling awful. These symptoms are caused by the lack of nicotine that your body has been used to. They tend to peak after 12-24 hours, and then gradually ease over 2-4 weeks.

Anticipate a cough. It is normal for a smoker's cough to get worse when you stop smoking (as the airways "come back to life"). Many people say that this makes them feel worse for a while after stopping smoking and makes them tempted to restart smoking. Resist this temptation! The cough usually gradually eases.

Be aware of situations in which you are most likely to want to smoke. In particular, drinking alcohol is often associated with failing in an attempt to stop smoking. You should consider not drinking much alcohol in the first few weeks after stopping smoking. Try changing your routine for the first few weeks. For example, don't go to the pub for a while if that is a tempting place to smoke and drink alcohol. Also, if drinking tea and coffee are difficult times, try drinking mainly fruit juice and plenty of water instead.

Take one day at a time. Mark off each successful day on a calendar. Look at it when you feel tempted to smoke, and tell yourself that you don't want to start all over again.

Be positive. You can tell people that you don't smoke. You will smell better. After a few weeks you should feel better, taste your food more, and cough less. You will have more money. Perhaps put away the money, which you would have spent on cigarettes, for treats.

Food. Some people worry about gaining weight when they give up smoking, as the appetite may improve. Anticipate an increase in appetite, and try not to increase fatty or sugary foods as snacks. Try sugar-free gum and fruit instead.

Don't despair if you fail. Examine the reasons why you felt it was more difficult at that particular time. It will make you stronger next time. On average, people who eventually stop smoking have made 3 or 4 previous attempts.

Stop Smoking Clinics are available on the NHS. They have good success in helping people to stop smoking. Your doctor may refer you to one if you are keen to stop smoking but are finding it difficult to do so.

Various medicines can increase your chance of quitting. These include nicotine replacement therapy (NRT) which comes as gums, sprays, patches, tablets, lozenges, and inhalers. You can buy NRT without a prescription. Also, medicines called bupropion (trade name 'Zyban®') and varenicline (trade name 'Champix®') can help. These are available on prescription. See separate leaflets called 'Smoking - Nicotine Replacement Therapy', 'Smoking - Helping to Stop with Bupropion' and 'Smoking - Helping to Stop with Varenicline'.

Quit - a charity that helps people to stop smoking
Quitline: 0800 00 22 00 Web: www.quit.org.uk

Smokefree - information from the NHS
Free smoking helpline 0800 022 4 332 Web: www.smokefree.nhs.uk
For help and advice on stopping smoking, and for details of your local NHS Stop Smoking Service.

Source: http://www.patient.co.uk/health/Smok...p-you-Stop.htm

02-06-2012, 08:49 AM
He doesn't want anyone else to know.

02-06-2012, 09:06 AM
Asalaamu Alaikum,

Did some searching on here.

And I would recommend you check these links out, people with similar problems to yours and see the advice they have been given, it may help you inshallah.


02-08-2012, 09:19 PM
i understand ukhtee, i have seen this video that many muslims smoke because they dont think it is harram whereas Quran teaches us to take care of our health and dont consume something that will kill us

perhaps you can go to youtube and gather ISLAMIC lessons that emphasize how bad is smoking and give it to him in cd

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