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Are there any hadith or verses from the Quran on the above subject?
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Firstly Islam forbids hitting anyone on the face. This is established by the following hadith of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) Narrated by Abu Hurraira:
" Avoid striking the face, for Allah created Adam in his image."
(Muslim and al-Bukhari). So to slap ones wife is forbidden in Islam.
If the wife committs indecency or becomes rebellious against her husband then only in exceptional circumstances and as a last resort when all else has failed is it is permissable for the husband to lightly strike her but it is forbidden to cause her any injury, similar to the proper disciplining of a child. It is never lawful for him to strike her face or cause her any bruise or injury. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said regarding this:
"So beware of Allah regarding women for you have taken them as a trust from Allah and you have made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have the right over them that they should not allow anyone on your furnishings who you dislike. If they do that, hit them in a way
which causes no injury. And, they have the right over you to provision and clothing according to custom." (
Bukhari & Muslim)
So the hitting is subject to the condition that
it should not be harsh or cause injury.
Al-Hasan al-Basri said: this means that it should not cause pain.
‘Ata’(Ra) said: I said to Ibn ‘Abbaas, what is the kind of hitting that is not harsh?
He said, Hitting with a siwaak and the like. [A siwaak is a small stick or twig used for cleaning the teeth - Translator]
The purpose behind this is not to hurt or humiliate the woman, rather it is intended to make her realize that she has transgressed against her husband’s rights, and that her husband has the right to set her straight and discipline her.
Also one must keep in mind that hitting the wife is ONLY if she is doing something very wrong and you have already tried to speak to her about it, and that has failed, AND you have abandoned her bed and that has failed,
ONLY then is it permissible to hit her lightly, as a last resort.
In no way does Islam allow men to hit out at their wives in a moment of anger, to take out their frustration on them or simply because he felt like it, as some people wrongly claim. As Muslims we must protect the sanctity of our religion and also it is upon us to protect women from abusive husbands - we therefore must be very assertive in establishing the fact that NO, Islam does not in anyway way allow a man to abuse his wife!
It is a fact that our beloved Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) never hit nor did he even ever shout at any of his wives or servants. He was the best towards his wives and was the perfect example for mankind. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) stated:
"The best among you is the one who is the best towards his wife"
(Hadith - Muslim, #3466)
So a Muslim must be the best towards his wife and must never hurt nor injure her whether mentally nor physically.
And Allah knows best in all matters