format_quote Originally Posted by
lynn4now
alast my sister is baptist .....I am not one for arguments it is one of the uglist form of communication nor am I for religon bashing so it is not my strong suit. So I am at a lost what to do..No one should lose family over beliefs...
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i reckon i used a poor word sequence in that sentence. i'm not talking about arguing, nor religion bashing.
let me retry that:
your sister told you that cannot "practice Islam" under her roof. let me use this quote:
format_quote Originally Posted by
cOsMiCiNtUiTiOn
(Islam) is the most beautiful religion
what exactly does your sister mean? she probably doesn't mean, "don't be nice to her. don't be kind to her. don't be charitable.
start stealing and using bad language. don't be respectful. don't be good to your neighbors. don't be modest." or just do those things
outside? it would be pretty silly. but she doesn't understand that.
using those as examples, question her beliefs about your Din. you're challenging her [mis]concepts about Islam, and not her personally. other than the outward sign of a hijab, she probably knows ZERO about it. and yes, explaining Tawhid, is crucial. many Christians think we worship the moon god and a black box. because of their teachings, they think Islam is the religion of the antichrist. how are you going to get along if you don't challenge, or rather, explain those misconceptions away.
she may even think you have gone nuts. you have the proof that you haven't. if you don't, at least, try to explain it, how can you possibly change her mind?
and despite what anyone might think, trinity IS NOT in the Bible. you COULD make a case for 2 gods if you accept the Gospel of John, but not 3. the word wasn't even coined until the end of the 2nd Century. and it took many centuries after that for the "holy spirit" to be declared fully one third god or part of the trinity on an
equal standing with the other 2. that is just simple, basic history. the majority of scholars agree that John wasn't written until about 95 CE.
you start with simple explanations of beautiful concepts, but eventually you
will need to explain Tawhid. give her the right to know what she is mad about. and she's a Baptist? do you realize how close wusl is to baptism? a statement of faith and a cleansing? repeated at least weekly. we jst make our repentance to God directly.
take out the trinitarian/crucifi
ction concepts about Jesus, and our faiths are pretty similar. does she even know that we are awaiting the return of Jesus the Messiah? i doubt it. this is why her beliefs need to be challenged/explained correctly. the more that you know and understand, the easier it is to explain those in a non-confrontational manner.
explaining it is actually your job. even if she still doesn't like it or "get it", you get the reward and the piece of mind knowing that you
did explain it.
my mom's Catholic [whole family, actually], but she knows the stuff i tell her makes sense. i always take the time to explain things to her. it is almost funny at times. i'll take 20 minutes explaining Tawhid. she'll claim that she understands. then, because i'm really sick, she'll say, "oh, you should pray to this saint or that saint" i'll be like, "mom! didn't you hear me explain why we don't pray to people?" she always says it, so i always make i explain we only pray to God(
before hand, cuz i know it's coming). ten minutes later, she does it again! she's actually trying to be helpful, she just forgets.
your sister doesn't know she is wrong. it doesn't sound like you have the luxury of ignoring it.
AND she's already angry. what could make
more sense than clearing up her misconceptions?
is this clearer?
ma Salaama