Scenario series of Resentment and solutions;Forgiveness.

[Berries'forest]

Resentment

Scenario (1):

Sami and Ahmad have been friends since childhood. They used to attend the same school and their families we well acquinted as well. As years went by Sami and Ahmad gradually grow up and start university,but Sami had to move away and it had a very disheartening affect on both him and Ahmad since they were best friends and used to do all kinds of things together. Sami choice of major was studying photography; he was always fascinated by breath-taking natural scenes and God's gift of nature. While Ahmad was more an intellectual lad choosing to major in Polictical siences. At the age of nineteen both young men exchange bid wells to each other promising tha they will carry on their frienship even if it was distant and sending e-mails to each other every week or so. They were both very committed in their contact to each other atleast for the first three years after no short notice their conatct has been cut permenantly before it rung a bell. Both became a faded memory to each other as twenty years passed by and both have started their own families by then and life's affairs actively occupied them. One day Sami recieves a phone call and his nine your old daughter Sarah picks up the call the person on the otherside of the phone aks if her Ahmad is at home. She answers yes and asks him who he is after telling him that she is his friend's liitle daughter. He replies with a wide smile on his face that he is her father's childhood friend since they were about her own age. Sarah rushes off to her father informing him he has a phone call, meanwhile Ahmad retrieves back his old hildhood memories. The conversation between the two as Sami picks up the phone was a blended mixture of awe longing happiness and surprise, Sami suggests that they should meet at resturant next wednesday's evening to catch up on all the things they've both missed out on each others' lives. Sami prepares himself that evening and just about everyone is his home are thrilled they've never seen him so excited before it almost seemed like he would dance out of joy. "Dad can I please come with, I want to see your childhood friend. He said he would've give me chocolates and a teddy bear if we ever meet. He aslo said that he'll introduce me to his daughter who is one year older than me. Daddy please take me with you!" Sarah pleaded but her father decline and promised her he will take her and the whole family next week to visit Sami at his home. For his content Ahmad told him that he moved to a town that's only forty five minutes away. Hours quickly went by as the time went closer five evening and as Ahmad walks into the resturant there infront of him stands Sami welcoming him with open arms and a warm embarce, it was eay for him to identify him since he didn't change much and he then proceeded by escorting him to their reseved table. As they bartered hearty hearty greetings , they ordered their meals and didn't waste a moment on catching up on their latest and oldest news, as the waiter placed their plates on the table; the conversation was getting more serious as Sami starts expressing his political views and his position on the country's economic and political state. Which unintentionaly alarms Ahmad's red flags as he intently listens to what his old pal has to say, now Ahmad was trying his best to holdback conveying his radically opposing views to that of his friend's. But things went outof hand when Sami starting cursing the Governor whom happens to be a relative of Ahmad's leaving him no other option but to quite fiercely retaliaite on what he saw as a clear attack on his behalf. They both lost their appetite and starting throwing insults at each other both ready to turn it into something more violently physical, but the manager seperates them and asks them to leave the resturant as they have become unwelcome customers even sparring them payingthe price of their meals and boy were they expensive ones. Ahmad and Sami seem to have thrown away all their precious childhood memories right away from a single disagreement on politics. But not only that; they've both grown resentful of each other as stated in when they both shrug off declaring :" I can't believe I wasted my time with him. Out of all people I didn't expect him to turn out like that he's really changed and not to the better either. I never want to seen him again ever!". But poor little Sarah's shock and confusion when her father arrives home furious scolding her when she asks him about his meeting with his friend telling her to forget all about visiting them next week or ever in a life's time demonstrates who resentment can be dagerous as her father clams up in his bedroom forbidding anyone to enter without his personal permission which he never granted to anyone that day. The scene at Sami's wasn't too different either. Bottomline they both gained nothing but resentment and a painful headache along with that too.


It is obvious that both lads came to to the resturant to enjoy a meal and each others company. Without previous knowledge of the possibility that their meeting may escalate into something like this a quarell with an aftermath of bitter resentment toward each other. They both came with exclusively positive thoughts and impressions, dissmissing all negative ones and opening space for only a positive pattern of ideas that generate good feelings. As they swept over discussing personal issues like family and work, one subject of politics came up that made them both alarmed and defensive which eventually resulted in them not showing their most aimable traits and ending their friendship for supposedly ever after. There's two things they've done here which lead to their feeling of resentment. One the failed to agree to disagree and second they completely forgot that this is their first ever meeting since almost twenty years which entails that they should've been more tolerant and forgiving but that wasn't in their heads at that time the heat of the moment preoccupied both of them.

Inorder to deal with resentment correctly, we have to understand what it is and how it affects us. Resentment can be dangerous to not only our sould but to our minds and bodies as well. As you can see both men departed each others company exhausted and jaded both mentally and physically. Resentment can be defined as left over ill feelings for someone whom you believe has wronged you in any kind of way. It involves bitterment and ill wishes for that person often with joy for their failure and frown upon their success. We all develop ill feelings when someone has wronged us especially when that person hasn't provided convicing reason to why they wrong us. But the main problem here is not developing those feelings as time is the best healer and we naturally get over it and move on to something else, but it is the gardual over lapping of these feelings building on to something that we can't let go of these ill feelings and we are not able to forgive for what's been done even if it was just a misunderstanding like in the example of the above scenario.It is a feeling of disappointment ,displeasure or indignation that stems from an incident, real or perceived, that is hurtful. When you resent someone it will taint all your future interactions, no matter how trivial, with that person.

Resentment can be overt or hidden, immediate or detained.

Sometimes resentment sits right on the surface of your heart. You may resent a coworker who gets ahead by taking undo credit for your work. You may resent a friend’s patronizing attitude toward your hobby or someone returning the good you to them with harm and hurt. There are inumberable issues, on large and small scales, that have fired a sense of resentment in people. Resentment can sneak up on the best prepared of all of us even those of us with no record of short fuses and temper tantrumst. No one is abosultely immuned to it . It is how we handle it that matters – how and how soon, how we mitigate it and recover the good feelings back again. The longer we let resentment linger, the more powerful it becomes but unfortunately it only works against us garnishing the worst in all of us.

There will not only be explanation, observation and understanding provided on why resentment should be dodged with equipped arsenal because of the negative effects it can have on you and not the other person, ironically.Even moreso it is like swallowing poison and waiting for another person to die. The issue of resentment will be adressed and also the solutions and practical ways we can cure our hearts from this dangerous vice threatening our relationships with those whom we love and wish good for.

　

　

To be continued.

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I'm making this scenario series to share helpful information and improve my writing skills which I have to admit are very weak. I can benefit very much from any feedback or criticism. It's okay even if it's harsh I'd be grateful you took the time to read it before I post my second part..