Inshalah tomorrow I am going to consult one of the biggest scholars in the region about this, because unfortunately I really wanted to marry a practicing woman like who where niqab, following strictly the deen but I could not find one many look more religous than they really are. I found mashalah a very good sister who is welling to wear the niqab and does not belong to sect, beautiful and everything also has no problem to raise my kid when I bring him inshalah but I wished that I find someone who wears it for the sake of Allah rather because I asked her for it so thats why I am a bit confused. The online thing is a HUGE risk when I used to live in the U.S I met my Ex online and it was a disaster, she wore the niqab and now she is in clubs after divorce thats what happen when people are doing something not for the sake of Allah!!! But this one pray at night so I hope she is better. May Allah guide her. It is really a tough choice, if I die for the sake of Allah one day I want a god fearing woman who will raise my children and be responsible, pray for me.
Finding a partner online is not recommended.
I personally know three people who used this method and in all three cases it was a disaster. The women were only marrying for financial reasons. The sad part of it is that there were kids involved in all three cases.
In one case the father was prevented from seeing his kid who was so cute :ma:. The 2nd one's kid is now on the other side of the world so it's very difficult to see them.
One of them was cheating on their husband and has several kids from several men all being looked after by social services because she is not fit enough to look after her kids. Needless to say, that one didn't last long. And I won't even mention the part about the kid who's life is ruined because of a mother who cannot control her desires.
There's another story about a sister who was communicating with a brother via Skype and she looked quite attractive but when he went to meet her in person he said she looked very different. This put him off completely from looking online.
The problem with meeting people online is that you cannot verify the claims of the person because in most cases, you do not know anyone they know who can personally verify what they're saying is true.
The traditional way of meeting people through people you know whether it's family or friends is best because at least you are likely to know someone who the other side knows and you can get some real life verification.
It's always best to see the person, in person.
The other issue nowadays is the health aspect. I've heard that some people require you to take a HIV/AIDS test before they'll consider you any further and vice versa. That is how bad things are nowadays.
You said you've already had a bad experience via the online method. Are you sure you want to go through all that again?
Since you asked for advice, my sincere advice to you brother is to:
1. Put your trust in Allaah :arabic2:.
2. Make sincere du'aa
3. Firstly make sure you're able to fulfil the rights of the woman.
4. Then get the word out and and speak to people you know.
5. :ia: what is written for you will come to you but use the correct means and be patient.
