Adultery with consent

[Khalid Saifullah]

Counselors, psychologists and social-workers are normally bound to confidentiality. Even if you hold a gun to their head, they will not divulge the intimate details of anyone’s personal life. However, details of a new shocking and shameless sexual trend in the Muslim community are forcing them to break out of their shell, and warn, in broad terms, of an evil that even the devil himself is shy to practice, but Muslims have taken to.

I hesitated for a whole month before putting pen to paper on this embarrassing topic, but ultimately our duty is to admonish, even if enemies are created in the process. If a person’s marriage can be saved by reading it, and if the community can be made aware of it so that married couples do not fall prey to it; better still, if the culprits repent, then it is worthwhile. If the Almighty spoke about homosexuality – a deed so indecent that none should even try to conjure in his mind – in the Qur’an, then we should also not be shy of speaking about this shameless practice. Our Noble Master, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) informed us that if a person loses his modesty, he will do just about anything, even copulate like a donkey in the middle of the street. Sadly, that time is now. Public scenes of absolute shamelessness and perversity can not only be viewed on our television sets and on our internet smartphones at any time of the day by adults as well as children, but rampant fornication and adultery is being practiced in our homes, parks, clubs, brothels, and alleys daily. Children have even been caught watching pornography on their smartphones whilst the Friday sermon is being delivered!

Adultery and fornication, though despicable acts, are committed secretly because there is still a thread of guilt attached to it. But we now have another indecent sexual act which is so lewd that it puts the word “adultery” to shame. It is called “cuckold behavior.” A cuckoo is a bird which lays its eggs in either the nest of another bird or in communal nests and beckons others to look after her and her children. Likewise, “cuckold behavior” is asking a stranger to mate with your wife and you mate with his, and both regard each other’s children as their own. In simple terms, it’s a practice responsible for illegitimate children within marriage, and of committing adultery with not only the knowledge, but the blessing and approval of your own partner!


This is the testimony of young married Muslim woman who recently experienced such an episode.

“I’m married to a wonderful person,” says a woman. “About six months after our marriage, my beloved husband asked me to dress up for an exclusive occasion. We arrived at the palatial home of one of his friends at about 7:00 PM, and I recognized many prominent couples, young and old, from my neighbourhood, there. We dined and the evening progressed without incident until some low seductive music was switched on. As the various couples started dancing or strolling around on the patio and the well-manicured lawn, I noticed that some men would casually latch themselves on to the wife of his friend, and her husband would fall into the arms of his wife. I first thought that I was hallucinating until I seen more and more couples doing this, until everyone was with a complete stranger! I was feeling very uneasy when my husband suddenly asked me to speak to his friend whom we invited home a few times already, and to go for a stroll with him. He would meet up with me and his friend’s wife in the upstairs room, probably with another mixed couple.”

“I was too stunned to even move. As the cold reality of what was really happening hit me like a ton of bricks, my husband became impatient and he harshly pushed me in the direction of his friend. This was too much for me. I removed my high-heels and ran to the car, hiding my face in shame. My husband silently drove me home, but once there, he locked me into our bedroom for three days, abusing me and assaulting me, telling me how I had shamed him by refusing to sleep with his friend, in exchange of him sleeping with his wife, in full view of each other.”

“I pretended to understand, and even agreed to go with him the next time, just to earn my freedom. As soon as I was unlocked, I packed a suitcase and darted straight to my parent’s home.” “I will never return to such a beast, even in a million years,” she said.


Are you shocked? I’m sure, but there is more to come. The above is an account of a modest sister who ran away from the trap, but those involved in it have more to say. According to Mufti Wikipedia, I’m about 50 years behind with my research. This shameful practice, known as “wife-swapping,” but now as “swinging couples,” has been a practice from the 1960s already in the West. However, it is now becoming popular amongst Muslims too. In the West, anything can become legal if two people simply agree to it. A man can sodomise his wife if she agrees to it, and a woman can sleep with her dog if the neighbour doesn’t mind. Islam, however, does not follow such secular thoughts and democratic principles. It’s the law of the Almighty that reigns supreme, irrespective if none agrees with.

It is estimated that about 4% of couples in the West practice wife-swapping. As of 2011, some experts believe that there were as many as 15 million Americans swinging on a regular basis. The following three reasons have been given for it:


The first reason is that some couples came to realize that monogamy is not natural for humans. So many begin fantasizing with another person when being intimate with their partners. Our Prophet Muhammad (may peace be upon him) likened such fantasizing as being unfaithful to one’s spouse, on par with adultery itself. If a person cannot get over a woman, Islam has permitted polygamy; but if the woman is married, then you need to respect her position. Wife-swapping is not the answer.

Every person in this world has been given a vivid imagination so that he may ponder over the message of the Qur’an. He is not to stimulate his imagination by viewing pornography, erotic pictures and reading romantic exotic novels so that his lust can be inflamed and he craves for more. Since ‘more’ is generally not possible as the person may be married, or the object of one’s desire is a film star or supermodel, the person tries to satisfy these desires by fantasizing. The cure for this is that when these filthy thoughts come to mind, picture yourself on the Day of Judgment giving an account of your deeds. If this doesn’t work for you, then take out your frustration on the culprit: the television and the laptop, which sometimes husband and wife jointly see. If a steamy scene appears on screen, both of them will open their eyes wider, but block the eyes of their children! This mutual approval of both husband and wife seeing such filth causes their imagination to race out of control and leads to many problems in their marriage. If you cannot control what you see, take a sock and fill it with a clump of stones. Swing it a few times until it picks up momentum, then take aim at the television or the laptop. Break them in 200 pieces. Then have a milkshake to celebrate!


The second cause of wife-swapping is that some middle-aged couples experience a rut in their marriage and cannot find anything else but sex to solve their problem. They do not take to sports, religion, studying or community work to occupy themselves, so they came up with a sick way of stimulating themselves by seeing others enjoying themselves with their wife. “If I can see how she screams with joy with someone else, I can also do the same with her,” is their reasoning. “Why cheat secretly when we can do so with the approval of our partner? Everyone goes through ups and downs in life, and this is just a coping mechanism,” they say. All married couples have problems, even after being married for fifty years. We have doctors, psychologists and medication to treat any condition, but to prescribe wife-swapping to create love in your marriage is like dousing a flaming pan of oil with water! It will only worsen it.


The third reason of wife-swapping couples is their ability of overcoming Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) such as AIDS and the issue of overcoming jealously and possessiveness for each other. In order to overcome viewing one’s wife as not one’s princess charming to be loved and protected, but the dirty property of the whole world, they separate sex from love. Such people shouldn’t even get married as they are nothing but vampires in sheepskin! Being intimate with one’s partner is a sign of the ultimate love; but for them, women are like machines – to be used and duped that they still love them. According to their perverted reasoning: “We don’t have to sneak and cheat anymore, we can do it in front of our partner and can be honest about it!”


Research reveals that many “swingers” have either been abused as children, are such drug addicts that a chemical “high” is not satisfying for them anymore, or have serious mental problems. Women who agree to this shameful practice generally suffer from an inferiority complex and actually rationalize it in this way: “If he can enjoy himself in my presence, then I’m happy for him!”

If “swinging” is not acceptable to Muslims due to its lopsided reasoning, then the equally shameful sexual practices in the name of our fair religion such as “Mut’ah” and “Misyar” should also not be acceptable. The “Mut’ah” or “Fixed-Term” marriage contract, which involves a token payment and a fixed amount of time, either 30 minutes or 30 days, with no witnesses or foral contract, is nothing but prostitution. Similarly, the “Misyar” or “Travelling-Marriage” contract wherein a man marries a woman, and she agrees to forego her right of maintenance, living with her husband, equal distribution, and even making such marriage public, in exchange for a husband who will visit her at his sole discretion for whatever amount of time. This is nothing but being a glorified mistress. Religion has come to protect and uphold chastity, and Swinging, Mut’ah and Misyar corrode it. Don’t be fooled by incomprehensible societal reasons or far-fetched textual evidence from the Qur’an that justify immorality and oppression to women. If you cite a reason or an evidence for anything, or if people agree to a sin, it doesn’t necessarily legalise it.

Lastly, our Noble Prophet Muhammad (may peace be upon him) has said that due to immorality, you will be afflicted with droughts, oppressive rulers and injustice. Although everyone in society may not be immoral, but if we do not stop the immorality in our midst, all of us will suffer the divine consequences. Let us all do our bit to clean up our environment.

[greenhill]

It seems that faith is being diluted due to temptations and desires. Constant exposure to the Western ideology has taught us to circumnavigate the laws of the deen.

A sad reality that it is going to be more rampant in time. If not it won't be said that we will be living in the times of the Great Fitnah. We now have Islamic banks charging interest.

:peace:

[Abz2000]

the verse in surah al baqarah which says: "ba'dukum li ba'din 'adoow" can be delved to explain the consequenses of sexual perversion.

a husband and wife/wives are united for a specific reason and a ceremony for people to witness marriage has also been prescribed and come about for a reason.
A husband will most likely lose the feeling of responsibility (which is brought about by marriage) towards a wife and the need to keep her safe and protected if she coaxes him or falls into his error of smashing the nucleus of family.
the husband may end up becoming constantly suspicious or the wife or losing the respect that he needs.
when a father of a household is amongst his children, there is a need for him to be conforming with the guidance of Allah and for the children to be bonded with him and receive input without the psychological resistance which comes about from a paternity difference.
the authoritative strand amongst siblings (which comes from the father) will also be different and they'll most likely be finding each other at constant odds - no way of rearing components of a future harmonious community.
one may see it as lawful racism/tribalism/patriotism but the mentioned mentality is required up to a certain extent within a family nucleus until the children are old enough to think for themselves, with the guidance of Allah being a constant throughout the entire process.

splitting up the genetic variation beyond what is normal in a family would cause crashes in the psyche through resistance with the majority of commands and result in damaging the blueprint for future generations although the effects are not always apparent in a generation or two, the term "he's a bast*rd that's why" didn't come about accidentally (the mentality to conform and keep fidelity, respect for lawful covenants and honour are done away with). There is a natural weaning period and we see that in breastfeeding, the human immune system, Quranic law enforcement, evolution of divine law through the scriptures etc and the way in which tribal significance was implemented right up until the final and universal revelation which is Quran

it would be a mistake to say that it is therefore wrong to bring up orphans or foster children just as it would be wrong to say that a mortal wound or ailment shouldn't be fixed due to the fact that such repair would disrupt the immune system, since positive healing is made lawful for us and we know that Allah repaired the barren womb of Zakariyyah (pbuh)'s wife when he saw a leaning towards good.

we would do good to bear in mind that "may the best man win through" or "survival of the fittest" exists on a grand scale, we have seen this with the appearance of std's and more directly through the fate of the people of sodom and gomorrah etc.
the fittest a person can be is their ability to conform with the laws of the universe - which are set in place by Allah.

the damaging of the family nucleus and resultant chaos in society are not unrelated and can be observed as a plot of satan to destroy mankind, however satan plots and plans, and Allah plots and plans, and Allah is the best of planners.
the people of evil/corrupted societies give rise to a generation of people who are not tribally compliant and psychologically tethered and the rebellious generation which grows up at rock bottom is more easily able to accept the truth and naturally bond with Allah, such a situation is evident in the fact that weaning people off the umbilcal cord "religion" and producing "free thinkers" has made them more prone to adopt Islam since the arguments of atheism no longer stand to scrutiny and Allah makes the truth to prevail over falsehood.

a blessed man who came to construct the true and fruitful links and destroy the false and harmful links on a complete scale:

Book 17, Number 4206:
'Abdullah b. Buraida reported on the authority of his father that Ma'iz b. Malik al-Aslami came to Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) and said :
Allah's Messenger, I have wronged myself ; I have committed adultery and I earnestly desire that you should purify me. He turned him away.
On the following day, he (Ma'iz) again came to him and said : Allah's Messenger, I have committed adultery. Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) turned him away for the second time, and sent him to his people saying: Do you know if there is anything wrong with his mind. They denied of any such thing in him and said: We do not know him but as a wise good man among us, so far as we can judge.
He (Ma'iz) came for the third time, and he (the Holy Prophet) sent him as he had done before. He asked about him and they informed him that there was nothing wrong with him or with his mind. When it was the fourth time, a ditch was dug for him and he (the Holy Prophet) pronounced judg- ment about him and he was stoned.

He (the narrator) said : There came to him (the Holy Prophet) a woman from Ghamid and said :
Allah's Messenger, I have committed adultery, so purify me. He (the Holy Prophet) turned her away.
On the following day she said : Allah's Messenger, Why do you turn me away ? Perhaps, you turn me away as you turned away Ma'iz. By Allah, I have become pregnant.
He said: Well, if you insist upon it, then go away until you give birth to (the child).
When she was delivered she came with the child (wrapped) in a rag and said : Here is the child whom I have given birth to.
He said : Go away and suckle him until you wean him. When she had weaned him, she came to him (the Holy Prophet) with the child who was holding a piece of bread in his hand.
She said : Allah's Apostle, here is he as I have weaned him and he eats food.
He (the Holy Prophet) entrusted the child to one of the Muslims and then pronounced punishment. And she was put in a ditch up to her chest and he commanded people and they stoned her.
Khalid b Walid came forward with a stone which he flung at her head and there spurted blood on the face of Khalid and so he abused her.
Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) heard his (Khalid's) curse that he had hurled upon her.
Thereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: Khalid, be gentle. By Him in Whose Hand is my life, she has made such a repentance that even if a wrongful tax-collector were to repent, he would have been forgiven.
Then giving command regarding her, he prayed over her and she was buried.

Book 17, Number 4207:

a man who came to confirm the truth before him and also show the power of healing:

18Early in the morning, as Jesus was on his way back to the city, he was hungry.*19Seeing a fig tree by the road, he went up to it but found nothing on it except leaves.
Then he said to it,*“May you never bear fruit again!”
Immediately the tree withered.
20When the disciples saw this, they were amazed. “How did the fig tree wither so quickly?” they asked.
21Jesus replied,*“Truly I tell you, if you have faith and do not doubt, not only can you do what was done to the fig tree, but also you can say to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and it will be done.*
22If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.”
The Authority of Jesus Questioned
23Jesus entered the temple courts, and, while he was teaching, the chief priests and the elders of the people came to him.
“By what authority are you doing these things?” they asked. “And who gave you this authority?”
24Jesus replied,*“I will also ask you one question. If you answer me, I will tell you by what authority I am doing these things.
*25John’s baptism—where did it come from? Was it from heaven, or of human origin?”
They discussed it among themselves and said, “If we say, ‘From heaven,’ he will ask, ‘Then why didn’t you believe him?’*26But if we say, ‘Of human origin’—we are afraid of the people, for they all hold that John was a prophet.”
27So they answered Jesus, “We don’t know.”Then he said,*“Neither will I tell you by what authority I am doing these things.

The Parable of the Two Sons
28“What do you think?
There was a man who had two sons. He went to the first and said, ‘Son, go and work today in the vineyard.’
29“ ‘I will not,’ he answered, but later he changed his mind and went.
30“Then the father went to the other son and said the same thing.
He answered, ‘I will, sir,’ but he did not go.
31“Which of the two did what his father wanted?”
“The first,” they answered.
Jesus said to them,*“Truly I tell you, the tax collectors and the prostitutes are entering the kingdom of God ahead of you.32For John came to you to show you the way of righteousness,
and you did not believe him,
but the tax collectors and the prostitutes did.
And even after you saw this, you did not repent and believe him.

26.*While the Unbelievers got up in their hearts heat and cant - the heat and cant of ignorance,
- Allah sent down His Tranquillity to his Messenger and to the Believers, and made them stick close to the command of taqwa; and well were they entitled to it and worthy of it. And Allah has full knowledge of all things.

27.*Truly did Allah fulfil the vision for His Messenger. ye shall enter the Sacred Mosque, if Allah wills, with minds secure, heads shaved, hair cut short, and without fear. For He knew what ye knew not, and He granted, besides this, a speedy victory.

28.*It is He Who has sent His Messenger with Guidance and the true way of life to proclaim it over all ways of life: and enough is Allah for a Witness.

29.*Muhammad is the apostle of Allah. and those who are with him are strong against Unbelievers, (but) compassionate amongst each other.
Thou wilt see them bow and prostrate themselves (in prayer), seeking Grace from Allah and (His) Good Pleasure. On their faces are their marks, (being) the traces of their prostration. This is their similitude in the Taurat;
and their similitude in the Gospel is: like a seed which sends forth its blade, then makes it strong; it then becomes thick, and it stands on its own stem, (filling) the sowers with wonder and delight.
As a result, it fills the Unbelievers with rage at them.
Allah has promised those among them who believe and do righteous deeds forgiveness, and a great Reward.

Their intention is to extinguish Allah.s Light (by blowing) with their mouths: But Allah will complete (the revelation of) His Light, even though the Unbelievers may detest (it).
9.*It is He Who has sent His Messenger with Guidance and the true way of life, that he may proclaim it over all ways of life, even though the Pagans may detest (it).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xgHCDPF5P48

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99.*We have sent down to thee Manifest Signs (ayat); and none reject them but those who are perverse.100.*Is it not (the case) that every time they make a covenant, some party among them throw it aside?- Nay, Most of them are faithless.
101.*And when there came to them a messenger from Allah, confirming what was with them, a party of the people of the Book threw away the Book of Allah behind their backs, as if (it had been something) they did not know!
102.*They followed what the evil ones gave out (falsely) against the power of Solomon: Solomon did not disbelieve, but the satans disbelieved, teaching people sorcery and such things as came down at babylon to the angels Harut and Marut.
But neither of these taught anyone (Such things) without saying: "We are only for trial; so do not disbelieve."
They learned from them the means to sow discord between man and wife. But they could not thus harm anyone except by Allah's leave.
And they learned what harmed them, not what profited them.
And they knew that the buyers of (evil) would have no share in the happiness of the Hereafter.
And vile was the price for which they did sell their souls, if they but knew!
103.*If they had kept their Faith and guarded themselves from evil, far better had been the reward from their Lord, if they but knew!
104.*O you of Faith! Say not ra'ina but say unzurna (to the Messenger. words of ambiguous import, but words of respect; and hearken (to him): To those without Faith is a grievous punishment.

the swine has a known sexually perverse nature.

59.*Say: "O people of the Book! Do ye disapprove of us for no other reason than that we believe in Allah, and the revelation that hath come to us and that which came before (us), and (perhaps) that most of you are rebellious and disobedient?"

60.*Say: "Shall I point out to you something much worse than this, (as judged) by the treatment it received from Allah. those who incurred the curse of Allah and His wrath,
those of whom some He transformed into apes and swine,
those who worshipped evil;- these are (many times) worse in rank, and far more astray from the even path!"

61.*When they come to thee, they say: "We believe": but in fact they enter with a mind against Faith, and they go out with the same but Allah knoweth fully all that they hide.62.*Many of them dost thou see, racing each other in sin and rancour, and their eating of things forbidden. Evil indeed are the things that they do.63.*Why do not the rabbis and the doctors of Law forbid them from their (habit of) uttering sinful words and eating things forbidden? Evil indeed are their works.

[Khalid Saifullah]

It seems that faith is being diluted due to temptations and desires. Constant exposure to the Western ideology has taught us to circumnavigate the laws of the deen.

A sad reality that it is going to be more rampant in time. If not it won't be said that we will be living in the times of the Great Fitnah. We now have Islamic banks charging interest.

:peace:

Very true.