what can i do this Ramadhan ?

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I want to do something for Ramadhan i cant fast because am on Medication and the medication give me dry mouth to a point where i can hardly talk
all day no drinking water or anything its would be a lot worse .

I want to go to the Mosque but i have no one to take me there as i cant go on my own due to my mental health is bad ( i hear voices and see thing i also have delusions ) my husband said he will not take me there my husband isnt Muslim ( yes i know its harm but i cant make him be Muslim he is his own person and no am not leaving him ) anyway am unsure what to do i dont know any sisters in my area and the last time i went to the mosque( This thread for details http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-s...120-sorry.html )i nearly fell down a fight of wooden stairs that where very dangerous for someone with problems with balance also am Obese so that kinda dont help so i have to go to another Mosque as there is no place for me to pray with other women av seen in side of the building ( Photos on line )and they have normal stairs and am also unsure how they will react because my husband isnt Muslim and am staying with him


I really want to do something for Ramadhan we dont have much money but will give something to a charity
this will be my first Ramadhan in a long time and am not very sure what i can do

[sister herb]

Well, hmm... this sounds very familiar to me before when in my city hadn´t much Muslims when I became a Muslim. Ramadan and specially eids felt quite lame when I had to spend them all by myself.

Maybe you will find some nice sister and can chat about Islam and all the Ramadan stuff with her. Maybe not much but better than be totally alone.

[sister herb]

You could start to study some Arabic during Ramadan (if you don´t know it already). You can study online whenever you like and you have time, from forums you can find help if you want to ask something and it´s Islamic as it helps you to understand prayers and the Quran better so it fits the Ramadan well.

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I am looking in to it the only problem is that i have a learning difficulties ( i use a spell checker on line )
i can start slowly and see if i can learn some :readquran:

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[muslimah_B]

Asalam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu sis


I read the other thread aswell and firstly i have to say (im sorry if i sound harsh or rude but i have to convey the truth)
That in technical terms you are not married to him, he is not a believing man and and you shouldn't be with him, around him or living with him
That being said i cant force you to do any of that, just advice you and leave the choice up to you.
I also went through the same but it was in reverse i was with a muslim man and i was a non believer (not a atheist just didnt think Christianity was correct, well the way i was taught it )
I was open minded and had alot of reservations about islam but i eventually became muslim, but before we could marry he passt away (and believe me i really suffered when he did)
I also had problems with my family, i was beatan up and kicked up and shunned for over a year, then slowly started to get back onto talking terms with them then visiting terms as my dad ended up in hospital and nearly died so i had no choice but to reach out.
In sha Allah with time your mum will come around but you have to be firm with your faith and put yourfoot down with your faith, if your on and off with your faith they will see that and think your just going through a phase and you will snap out of it... but if you are consistent then they will realise that this is who you are and in order to still be in your life to accept it.

As for ramadan its the perfect time to learn more about well everything islam, you could essentially watch islamic videos all day, the history of islam, about the stories of the prophets the companions, you could try and learn new surahs, the options are endless..

But honestly if the man you are with is not willing to accept islam there may come a time where you will have to leave him and find a suitable muslim husband, who would care for you and look after you.
Whilst you are muslim and he is not, you will come across many problems with the differences of everything you believe and well what he thinks doesnt exist... it will take a toll on you and could eventually destroy your emaan and your faith.

In sha Allah please forgive me if i have upset you in any way that was not my intention at all.

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Thank you sister
av asked him again he is still saying no he said he would never be religious even if his mother asked him to be
i guess i have to deal with this...he said am worth everything to him but he not going to change his mind :cry:
he said he supports me being Muslim and will help me with what ever i need but he he never wants to get into a religion too many rules for him,just isnt him
he was Muslim at one point but he dont practice and dont consider him self as a Muslim
:(

[muslimah_B]

Thank you sister
av asked him again he is still saying no he said he would never be religious even if his mother asked him to be
i guess i have to deal with this...he said am worth everything to him but he not going to change his mind :cry:
he said he supports me being Muslim and will help me with what ever i need but he he never wants to get into a religion too many rules for him,just isnt him
he was Muslim at one point but he dont practice and dont consider him self as a Muslim
:(

Maybe try playing Quran in the house loudly enough so he can hear, in sha Allah the words of Allah may soften his heart and turn him back to the deen.
Try just talking about islam like add it into every conversation you have with him, make everything you do and say be about islam, dont force it on him just mention and talk aboit it and get him to engage into conversations about it in sha Allah

[eesa the kiwi]

Maybe try playing Quran in the house loudly enough so he can hear, in sha Allah the words of Allah may soften his heart and turn him back to the deen.
Try just talking about islam like add it into every conversation you have with him, make everything you do and say be about islam, dont force it on him just mention and talk aboit it and get him to engage into conversations about it in sha Allah

the playing quran is a brilliant idea mashaallah only thing i want to add is make sure you play it alongside a translation (i can link you some mp3s if you want)
subhannallah the quran is powerful, inshaallah it will hit him

[Marina-Aisha]

Things to do:
Read the quran ( read ten pages a day in sha Allah u will finished by time ramadan is finished)
Give charity ( doesn't have be money, smiling, helping out ur neighbours, family etc
rememberance of Allah
Reading about prophets
Learning 99 names of Allah
Watching lectures

I haven't got any friends so I know hw u feel but Allah only friend we need. I started go classes now learning arabic, I thought I couldn't do it cos Im dyslexic, I learn things slower of people but it's not impossible. In sha Allah u find someone who be helpful. Just keep it in ur dua. I hope I was little helpful.

[~ Sabr ~]

:salamext:

Memorise Qur'aan.

[sister herb]

Maybe try playing Quran in the house loudly enough so he can hear, in sha Allah the words of Allah may soften his heart and turn him back to the deen.
Try just talking about islam like add it into every conversation you have with him, make everything you do and say be about islam, dont force it on him just mention and talk aboit it and get him to engage into conversations about it in sha Allah

I don´t think that´s a good idea. If someone doesn´t want to listen, it may feels harassing and drives him more far from Islam. It may cause family disputes and arguing during Ramadan isn´t good at all. As you know your husband much better than we, you know the best ways to talk with him (if it´s necessary) about islamic matters and also you know the best when it´s not a good idea to talk.

[muslimah_B]

I don´t think that´s a good idea. If someone doesn´t want to listen, it may feels harassing and drives him more far from Islam. It may cause family disputes and arguing during Ramadan isn´t good at all. As you know your husband much better than we, you know the best ways to talk with him (if it´s necessary) about islamic matters and also you know the best when it´s not a good idea to talk.

I understand your point, but the fact that they are living together is quite frankly concerning as he isnt a believer in anything and use to be, which can impact on her and her emaan, i dont mean to forcefully impose it on him, but like when talking id refer everything back to islam ie
"Oh look at that duck"
"Yea such a beautiful creation of Allah"
Things along those lines lol

[_E_3]

i want to do something for the refugees adults and children there are so many of them
its breaks my heart to read about it
theses people need help i can only give a little bit of money but i want to do so much more
i have Islamic relief in my sig
and am putting it in my face book
unsure what else i can do
I cry that my brothers and sisters are suffering so much
I feel helpless to do anything about it apart from doing what am doing

[anatolian]

If you cant fast you feed a muslim for each day you dont fast.

[~ Sabr ~]

:salamext:

Memorise Qur'aan.

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yes i can do that id love to do that as it makes Allah happy

[Umm Abed]

Another thing you can do is invite a revert into your home, (if everything is alright),

you will make someone's day :)