Avoiding negative thoughts about the other partner is crucial in the survival of a marriage, because everything concerning an individual that one likes appears rosy but at the same time everything concerning an individual that one dislikes appears evil. Moreover one becomes preoccupied nearly to the point of obsession in searching out the targeted party’s faults. If this negativity infiltrates a marriage then the husband and wife begin to see everything of the other partner as poison.
A rosebush has beautiful roses as well as sharp thorns but it is up to us to focus on the good and not the bad.
A story just for an inspiration - There was once a very beautiful woman married to a dark man whose features made him look extremely strange and scary. There were both however very happy together because both were very righteous individuals who were devoted to Allah :arabic2: . One day the husband happened to smile in happiness as he looked at his wife, and at this she said, “We are entrants of Paradise.” Her husband asked how she came to know this and she continued, “When you look at me you smile in gratitude and when I look upon you I exercise patience, both the grateful and patient shall enter Paradise.” :ia:
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