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MuhammadIbrahim
I believe this case reminds me about the wisdom of multi-wives in Islam. I think your man can get married to both of you and that woman his parents insist on. He could get marry to her first in order to please his parents, and then get to marry you.
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The case in this topic, and the example that you have written have nothing to do with wisdom of multiple wives.
Arabs have strong tradition of arranged marriage with the purpose to build ties between two families or clan. However, although this tradition strictly implemented, there is also looseness, which a man can marry the woman that chosen by himself as the second wife after he married the first woman that chosen by his family. Many Arab men use this looseness.
But the OP, and the man she want to marry are not Arab. They come from two different cultures, which in their cultures (at least in one culture), marry someone from different ethnic is taboo, even if for the second, third, or fourth wife.
Yeah, this is cultural issue.