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Assalamu Alaikum

Alhamdulillaah i got married last sunday and wanted to ask everyone to make dua for me and my wife.

The reason I have shared this in the mixed forum rather then brothers section is because I feel sisters can provide amazing insight into the women's side of married life (help me be more sensitive towards her by advising me)

We performed the Nikkah and will have a feast later.

If anyone has any pearls of wisdom to share I would very much appreciate it.

If anyone has learned from experiences then please let me learn through your errors

I have created this thread simply to open up to peoples experiences and in hopes of being as well prepared as possible (on top of reading all the books so far)

If someone has advise to give of a sensitive nature please feel free to PM me (again sisters also - this is for the sake of Allaah)

Assalamu Alaikum!
 
Congratulations! Remember our prophet Muhammad's hadith! he said, "The best among you is the best to his wife/wives and kids. And I'm the best among you to my wives and kids. You should be very patient with your wife.
 
Wa'alaikumsalam warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

Alhamdulillah. Congratulation, brother. May Allah bless you and your wife with married life that sakinah, mawadah, wa rahmah.

:)
 
Congratulations! May all your life will be full of happiness.

In the marriage life, we should always remember two little words. They are Thank you and I am sorry. They will help you over the conflicts and the times of misunderstandings.
 
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bro , may Allah bless your marriage .


Remember , she is not perfect . You will get her perfect version in the paradise In'sha Allah .

here u must respect her feelings , don't mention about her faults to others , give her time to cope with new life and changes .

Offer tahajjud together .
 
JazakAllah khair for replies

Also what is the feeling of sisters in regards to doing Umrah right after marriage?

Is it something you are comfortable with or would prefer to wait and get to know each other more?
 
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:ma: and may Allah bless your marriage with goodness and barakah, ameen.

I would say if you get the opportunity to go for umrah then do take it, it would be amazing to go together now, alhamdulillah.
 
You will have ups and downs, it's part of the package. Don't give up when you guys are facing tough times. A lot of people these days give up the moment they face an issue with their spouse and the first thing they think of is divorce. If you guys can learn to work things out and make compromises, then I guarantee you the marriage will be stronger and last forever. I'm not married but, trust me on this. I learned this by other people's experiences.

When you guys do experience this, give each other some space as well. Learn the things that make your wife happy and learn the things that piss her off and be sure to stay away from the things that piss her off :)
 
بارك الله لكما و بارك عليكما و جمع بينكما في خير!

I once heard a person giving advice to a groom and he said that a man should fulfil the emotional needs of his wife to the best of his ability-never invalidating her feelings-in return she will do the world for him.

Always express your love in both words and actions.. She knows you have love for her but she would like to hear it too.
 
Umm Abed said:
Why? It has to be from both sides, so both have to play a role.
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I can understand that but both sides are also human so may not be aware of all emotions playing within us hence not realise the need for a return.

I have seen this so many times.
 
IbnAbdulHakim said:
I can understand that but both sides are also human so may not be aware of all emotions playing within us hence not realise the need for a return.

I have seen this so many times.
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Best is to talk and be open with your partner, in that way there is more understanding and then it will come naturally.
 
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^ Very good advice[emoji108]
 
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