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AnnaK
It also sounds as if there's an assumption that men will be the providers and have a job that brings in revenue, but for some undefined reason the women won't.
They could, but that usually complicates the matter. In the end, it still has to remain some kind of exchange. If she has her own money, what would she need yours for? You see, if she does not really need me, I'd better also not really need her either. Love comes and love goes. So, emotions are not particularly a stable basis to rest a supposedly life-long relationship on. There will be times when it is not mutual love, but possibly even mutual hatred, but that should not matter, because the man will usually still call his wife for marital duty, and the wife will still need his financial contributions. So, that guarantees, especially for the sake of the offspring, that through love and hatred, everything stays together, and that everybody can await better times, when at least some kind of mutual understanding will return.
The underlying transaction in marriage, is not the exchange of love, which is only a tool, an instrument, to facilitate the real transaction, which is to collaborate on generational reproduction. If all there was to it, were love, then we would not even waste our time on it, or expend so many resources for that. Sexual desire and the need for love are only tools enlisted by the laws of nature to urge you to reproduce, before your own time is up, because if living beings forget to do that, live would simply cease. Seriously, these sexual desires and the need for love are not goals in themselves. They are just instruments.
In that sense, the use of force, is also just a tool. The laws of nature will exhort men to draw blunt axes and eliminate any impediment to generational survival, in order to protect the system of life. Seen from that perspective, it is entirely understandable that a man does not think much of unceremoniously killing another man. It was simply wanted that way. In the end, we are all just tools to carry out the will of the singular God.