Originally Posted by talibilm
It is better for the woman to listen to her husband as long as the husband isn't asking his wife to sin. The woman should politely and respectfully decline her parents as priority is given to the husband over others.
Imam Ahmad (rahimullah) said concerning a woman who has a husband and a sick mother that "Obeying her husband is more obligatory upon her than (taking care of) her mother, unless he gives her permission." (Sharh Muntaha al-Iraadaat, 3/47).