My family is against me

[Life1010]

Selam aleykum,

before I came to Islam, I was an unhappy person. The day was more difficult for me. Over time, I decided to converse with Islam and since then I am a satisfied person. But, however, this problem comes that my family started to go against me. They scream at me as soon as they realize that I take my religion seriously and do not eat pork, drink alcohol and so on. They always say you are not a muslim and insult me ​​constantly and blasphemy about religion. They have only prejudices though they know nothing. I have been a Muslim for about 4 years and have Sabr but also my nerves. Do you have some tips how I can pass this test?

[eesa the kiwi]

My family flipped out when i first converted mum even cried. But then they saw a huge change in me I quit drugs and drinking , became more respectful and started trying to help round the house

These days they still don't really like Islam but they like how it's changed me

Be patient sister and let your actions speak for you

[STN]

Selam aleykum,

before I came to Islam, I was an unhappy person. The day was more difficult for me. Over time, I decided to converse with Islam and since then I am a satisfied person. But, however, this problem comes that my family started to go against me. They scream at me as soon as they realize that I take my religion seriously and do not eat pork, drink alcohol and so on. They always say you are not a muslim and insult me ​​constantly and blasphemy about religion. They have only prejudices though they know nothing. I have been a Muslim for about 4 years and have Sabr but also my nerves. Do you have some tips how I can pass this test?

Is moving out an option? Perhaps find a Muslim brother and get married so you don't have to deal with this and live in calm and peace.

If that isn't an option, maybe tell gently your family that they're acting like racists, bigots and everything that lie about Islam having is manifest in their own actions and perhaps they should reflect on their behavior.

But remember sister, every hardship you suffer for Allah you will have an immense reward inshaAllah for it. The sahabas (R.A) i.e companions of Prophet Mohammad (SAWW) and Prophet Mohammad (SAWW) himself suffered so much hardship in the path of Allah that it will make you cry just reading about that so remember that this temporary hardship is only going to bring you closer to Allah and earn His pleasure!.

May Allah make it easy for you and guide your family to truth too!

[noraina]

Wa alaykum assalam,

Sister, I experienced nothing compared to what you had to go through. However, when I began practising Islam, my family were not exactly overjoyed by it, they made their feelings clear and I got plenty of discouragement along the way.

I would have said if you could possibly move out somehow, to give yourself and your family some space, that would have been the ideal option. But I know that's not always practical, especially if you're young or you're still studying. Keep steadfast upon your Islam, and I know this is easier said than done, but be patient and forgiving with your family. They hate the religion because they know nothing about it. You're probably the only Muslim they properly know, so it may be they see the beauty of Islam through you.

And for your own sake, be more involved with your local mosque and community, make friends with sisters nearby. That feeling of community is so helpful when you're going through difficult times, and they'll be there to support you if you need it.

This is a test of your faith from Allah swt. If you read the biographies of the Prophet :sas: and his Companions, when they embraced Islam, they faced such monumental difficulties and hardships. You will get such a huge reward from Allah swt for going through this for His sake. And keep in mind, there is always light at the end of the tunnel. It's hard now, but you'll overcome all of this in'sha'Allah.

May Allah swt keep you steadfast, give you ease, and guide your family to the truth. Ameen.

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[Life1010]

Thank you for your answers. Unfortunately, I can not get away from home and get married even if I like to come, since I do not come here and not here is a profession to learn. My mother for example abdicate and means that after a few years eh separates again, although is not everywhere is the case. She thinks it is women's oppression and that I am a slave girl when I begin to wear hijab. Unfortunately, it is also hard because of the jobs. My family always feels like I can only do it and constantly burden the me with the stress that they are forcing me here to cover up I am muslim because it is supposedly embarrassing.

[Life1010]

Thank for you answer...

[ahmedahmed]

you need to read your morning and afternoon zikr for your own protection from any harm.

[adyiqbal]

Dear Sister just keeps the strong faith in Allah. He will definitely help you. He is Great and all-Knowing.