format_quote Originally Posted by
Farheen89
Assallam o alikum
mei ne phle zid kr k apni pasand ki mangni ki pr jb se mei umrah se ayi hn or itekaf se uthi hn mera dil us shadi ko krne ko ni mnta . istekhra mei phle han ayi thi pr mei ne ab Allah se roo roo kr dua mngi phr b mra dil ni mnta pr ab mre ghr wle ni mnte wo khte hyn phle kiu ni scha phle kiu zid ki or wo lrka b ab zid pr ara hy k mei ye rishta ni toron ga mei bht pareshn hn mei un logon mei adjust ni ho skti ye mje ab smjh agya hy mje pls koi guide kre pls as soon as possible
Jazak Allah
Attempted interpretation:
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I first chose my desire out of jealousy/extreme eagerness but when i returned from Umrah and got up from I'tiqaaf - my heart couldn't accept that marriage.
Iskikhaara first gave a yes then i cried to Allah and made dua - yet my heart couldn't accept it, now my non-mahram guardian doesn't accept, he says: "why didn't you seek at first? Why did you (choose out of) jealousy/extreme eagerness and this boy has now come upon jealousy/extreme eagerness such that "i'm not going to let go of this marital match" ?"
i'm in much turmoil, i can't adjust amongst those people, this is what has come to my understanding now.
Could someone please give me guidance me as soon as possible?
Jazak Allah.
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One piece of advice:
You need to keep a calm head and communicate respectfully and clearly (with all parties involved) and with sound reasoning until the situation comes to a mutual understanding in obedience to Allah :swt:
if however you choose to be manipulative, deceitful, or unwilling to openly and clearly state your feelings - you will lose respectability and you will most likely end up deeply regretting your state of affairs later on. However, please make an attempt to evaluate and reconsider the marital match based on knowledge and good thought in case it is the best one.