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Life1010
I love a Muslim brother and we are very good friends. Often we marry the subject, but he does not want me because I'm three years older I'm 19 and he's 16 years old. Nevertheless, he always makes me signs that he likes me. I have a constant feeling that Allah has predestined me. We get along in all respects only because of the age he makes such problems can you maybe tell me why?
Assalamualaikum.
There is difference between liking someone and wanting someone. I can like a woman if this woman has good character and behavior, be kind to me. But does it mean I also want her to become my life-partner?. Not always. There are other considerations. If I thought she was not the right type to be my partner, I would not try to get her although I would always treat her respectfuly.
Young sister, from your first post I see you already realize that he doesn't want to be your partner. So why you force yourself to try to get him?. He respect you because you always treat him well. But this respect can be lose if you force your feeling on him.
And are you sure Allah has presdestined that you will marry him in the future?. .... Don't think like that because we don't know what will happen in the future. If indeed Allah destines like this, then whatever happen you would marry him in the future. However, if Allah does not destine like this, then whatever you do, you would never marry him.
What you must do now is release him from your heart although you must still maintain your good relationship with him. Let him go if then in the future he choose another girl. And always believe, if Allah destines that he is not for you, then Allah will give you another man who will love you and make you happy.
:)