Assalamu alaykum
Sister maybe your mom was advising you harshly like that because it was an idea forced on her by culture.
How can hiding and being ashamed of your menstrual cycle be the normal way of islam when the hadiths openly talk about this issue for women to learn about thier faith and how to worship during that time??
There is a hadith about aisha being near the prophet peace be upon him when she was menstruating. If Muhammad openly informed the people on these issues (so women know how to take care of their faith during this time) then how can it be wrong if father knows you are menstruating. It is not going to harm it and why should he even care? it is your body and pms has nothing to do with but it may even help him to deal with yo, to know to be calmer and kinder to you at that time if he knows about what you are going through. he is a parent and he needs to set the reasonable limits with you, not make you feel ashamed of yourself for something that is totally normal and even discuss in a wise way by our messenger peace be upon him. And as the caregiver to you, if your mom is not there, he would be neglectful to ignore you during this time and not discuss health issues with you that you need to know about. He has to man up and be a dad if you are going to live with him not your mother.
bukhari 294 Narrated 'Aisha: While in menses, I used to comb the hair of Allah's Apostle .
bukhari 295 Narrated 'Aisha: The Prophet used to lean on my lap and recite Qur'an while I was in menses.
bukhari 297 Narrated Um Salama: While I was laying with the Prophet under a single woolen sheet, I got the menses. I slipped away and put on the clothes for menses. He said, "Have you got "Nifas" (menses)?" I replied, "Yes." He then called me and made me lie with him under the same sheet.
I can continue but I will just leave you link so you can read for yourself sis. :)
https://www.searchtruth.com/book_dis...6&translator=1
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Assalamu alaykum
Sister maybe your mom was advising you harshly like that because it was an idea forced on her by culture.
How can hiding and being ashamed of your menstrual cycle be the normal way of islam when the hadiths openly talk about this issue for women to learn about thier faith and how to worship during that time??
There is a hadith about aisha being near the prophet peace be upon him when she was menstruating. If Muhammad openly informed the people on these issues (so women know how to take care of their faith during this time) then how can it be wrong if father knows you are menstruating. It is not going to harm it and why should he even care? it is your body and pms has nothing to do with but it may even help me to know to be calmer and kinder to you at that time if he knows about what you are going through. he is a parent and he needs to set the reasonable limits with you, not make you feel ashamed of yourself for something that is totally normal and even discuss in a wise way by our messenger peace be upon him.
bukhari 294 Narrated 'Aisha: While in menses, I used to comb the hair of Allah's Apostle .
bukhari 295 Narrated 'Aisha: The Prophet used to lean on my lap and recite Qur'an while I was in menses.
bukhari 297 Narrated Um Salama: While I was laying with the Prophet under a single woolen sheet, I got the menses. I slipped away and put on the clothes for menses. He said, "Have you got "Nifas" (menses)?" I replied, "Yes." He then called me and made me lie with him under the same sheet.
I can continue but I will just leave you link so you can read for yourself sis. :)
https://www.searchtruth.com/book_dis...6&translator=1