help me please

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i need help leaving my husband i need phone lines in the uk Islamic phone lines am in scotland

[MazharShafiq]

why are you leaving your husband?

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Because he will not let me wear the hijab or pray he punches door makes holes in the doors he
Smashed my laptop on my hand etc

[AbdurRahman.]

I don't think an Islamic organisation can help you as they don't have the resources. You need to go to citizens advice beureu and they will put u up in a womens shelter

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[azc]

i need help leaving my husband i need phone lines in the uk Islamic phone lines am in scotland

Does it help?

http://www.mwnhelpline.co.uk//m/
Consult with your friends or other sources for their reliability.

[*charisma*]

If he's not Muslim, is oppressing and abusing you, why are you still with him? Report him and get help. It doesn't have to be from a Muslim organization.

[jameelash]

Dont you have relatives ?contact them and get help.that's the. best solution

[MazharShafiq]

Because he will not let me wear the hijab or pray he punches door makes holes in the doors he
Smashed my laptop on my hand etc

then you must go to any Islamic shelter and ask. your problem them .maybe they could help you.

[Bmh2019]

Police are ready for help and have-victims helplines too

[AbdurRahman.]

Do you have children?, if you do you can either get police to impose an injunction on your 'husband' so he cannot come back to your home. But you might have to tell them that he's been beating you. A 'white lie' is ok in Islam if there is no other way to get your right.

Alternatively you can go to councils homeless person's unit and say your husband is beating you and they'll put you up in emergency temporary accommodation

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thank you all for replying i have no children and no family all my friends are his friends too and there all christian he dont let me go out on my own am not allowed to be Muslim him and a minster keep me christian which i dont not want to be
they say my mental health is the reason am not allowed my faith in Allah
i love Allah and i want to be Muslim i cry every night about it am alone

[Saira Khan]

i need help leaving my husband i need phone lines in the uk Islamic phone lines am in scotland

Dear Sister,
Everything is there on this website for domestic abuse/ Violence (Scotland). Read on this website about it or just make a call on 0800 027 1234 - Lines are open 24 hours

http://www.scottishdomesticabusehelpline.org.uk

Please write down if you need any other psychological assistance.
Stay blessed.

[AbdurRahman.]

thank you all for replying i have no children and no family all my friends are his friends too and there all christian he dont let me go out on my own am not allowed to be Muslim him and a minster keep me christian which i dont not want to be
they say my mental health is the reason am not allowed my faith in Allah
i love Allah and i want to be Muslim i cry every night about it am alone

Sister Islam is the truth from God and anyone who dies as a non Muslim burns in hell for all eternity so you have to be Muslim no matter what.

Just run away from the house and go to nearest citizens advice beureu. I got help from them when I was teenager. They gave me bus fair and booked me into a youth hostel. I'm sure they'd send you to secure womens shelter.

Doesn't he leave you on your own in daytime while he goes out sometime?, does he lock you in?, you have to try your best to get out and get help

[AbdurRahman.]

In the meantime, as long as you believe in Islam in your heart then you'll remain Muslim, so if he is forcing you to be Christian, never renounce the belief of Islam in your heart and never embrace Christianity in your heart.

And always pray to Allah for Him to help you. Allah listens to all

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i talked to my husband this morning about everything he and i talked for a while he promised me he will not stop me from praying and wearing the hajab , he said he not been happy as a christian for a while he feels that he made a mistake in becoming going back to Christianity he said his family will never understand why he wants to be Muslim its he step father who made him stop being Muslim by calling him names such as terrorist and bomber he said sorry for what he did to me he said he will never do that again both me and my husband are ok we are going to a mental health group today i have a normal scarf which i can make into a hajab he has ordered me on online it gets here tomorrow i have to leave the house now but i do have the phone so id be able post

thank you brothers and sister for the help

[AbdurRahman.]

i talked to my husband this morning about everything he and i talked for a while he promised me he will not stop me from praying and wearing the hajab , he said he not been happy as a christian for a while he feels that he made a mistake in becoming going back to Christianity he said his family will never understand why he wants to be Muslim its he step father who made him stop being Muslim by calling him names such as terrorist and bomber he said sorry for what he did to me he said he will never do that again both me and my husband are ok we are going to a mental health group today i have a normal scarf which i can make into a hajab he has ordered me on online it gets here tomorrow i have to leave the house now but i do have the phone so id be able post

thank you brothers and sister for the help

That's good as at least you'll be able to practice your religion.

However it's important that he becomes Muslim again... Try to explain Islam to him and tell him he shouldn't care even if his entire family are against him as it's more important to please Allah and save oneself from hell.

If he doesn't become Muslim within a few months then it will effect your faith in a way so get back to us and we'll tell you what to do

[Bmh2019]

Regents park and east London mosque can be of additional help on to help from professional authorities like police, social emergency accommodation unit at most councils. Get help from as many specialist professional placs you can such law or plolice. Units and council and otters who can help in guidingbin appropriate direction too. Take action and become proactive. Btw ii am only non specialist forum member just like you are. I out of sympathy i am responding yo you only as i would get police involved to set some boundarieson his actions on you as none should not infringe your right to worship and freedom of moving about etc. Hope that helps you from a dellow simple forum member

[CuriousonTruth]

This seems a bit confusing. You married someone who became 'muslim' just for marriage and then went back to becoming christian after marriage and now doesn't support you practicing your religion. Is my reading correct?

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we married in a christian wedding before the both of us became Muslim at the same time he went back to Christianity there is someone butting in to our marriage and that is the local minster at one of the places i go for support for my mental health there groups this minster is involved in if i leave i will have no support the minster is blunt and tells me am doing this for attention and am not really Muslim am wasting peoples time etc my husband listens to him and is influencing him .
we have to go to these groups or ill be unwell because i have no support

[MazharShafiq]

thank you all for replying i have no children and no family all my friends are his friends too and there all christian he dont let me go out on my own am not allowed to be Muslim him and a minster keep me christian which i dont not want to be
they say my mental health is the reason am not allowed my faith in Allah
i love Allah and i want to be Muslim i cry every night about it am alone

you take a good decision islam is true religion.

[Bmh2019]

This seems a bit confusing. You married someone who became 'muslim' just for marriage and then went back to becoming christian after marriage and now doesn't support you practicing your religion. Is my reading correct?

Btw sister in religion, youare you a muslimah and your husband converted to marry you? Is that correct.
What religion was he before. Does ge practice islam and do 5 times daily salah like you as it seems you do?

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No we meet before both of us whete muslim we not had an muslim wedding he and i was together beforr we became Muslim i cant look after myself because of mental health i hear voices and am very depressed i called the helpline but my husband come back in the room i had end the call

He will not pray and i am going to hell because of this

[Bmh2019]

Sister in faith, as a general forum mermber like tou, i am sympathetic and have personal fluctuations in my marriage and no ons is problem free jn every way. We are responsible for own deeds, actions, hence you carrying his sins is questionable. I hope other mrmbers can clarify this. A 3rd tarty like moque staff, police, council staff, womens safety unit, bullying and donestic abuse departments in police abd cuncil are a starting point to straighten your situation as well as muslimm spititual guidance in soirutual
matters from mosque staff as inficated before. Police authority may be of extra required part solution in your situation.

No we meet before both of us whete muslim we not had an muslim wedding he and i was together beforr we became Muslim i cant look after myself because of mental health i hear voices and am very depressed i called the helpline but my husband come back in the room i had end the call

He will not pray and i am going to hell because of this

Remember.

Allah is the Most Merciful

Surah fateha conveys also about Mercy.
A transliteration is available online

Sister, please please connect with family and friends and must also seek help from qualified professionals for your situation like your adoctor, hospital nurses and health workers, social worjers, social services, police stations anx domestic abuse units and, counselling services. You must takd action and tell police everything aviut your husband actions. They can guide you in correct sources to help you morecorrectly. They can provide victim protection as you are a victim of abuse and police can stop it. Call 999 now

Take action and tell police of the abuse and that your alone and scared as it seems from your messages

Allah hafiz

Call or ask your friends or family to get police involved urgently immediateky to start to resolve this.
Yiu must not hesitate ,
Thats my personal opinion and suggestion. Call or get someone to call 999.
Do you want someone to call 999 for you

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can i go to another city ? he has all the money and i need medication he locks it away stop me from over dosing he will be angry he will hurt himself

[AbdurRahman.]

can i go to another city ? he has all the money and i need medication he locks it away stop me from over dosing he will be angry he will hurt himself

you mean go with your husband?, you shouldn't go alone as you need looking after.

If you might overdose then that's a good thing he keeps the medicine locked up. It shows he really cares for you

It is important that you start doing your salah as that will make you a proper Muslim and it's also good for curing mental illnesses as salah brings peace to heart and mind

[Bmh2019]

Sister, Call 99 and tell them about this

Why are uou still hesitant to get police to straighten this out, be sensible and vontact police soon

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things are calmer now he promised he will not do what he did again he says i can go to the mosque and pray he said he dont want to lose me he prayed with me tonight and he is sorry
he scared of losing me

[Serinity]

As salamu alaykum sister,

Cling to Islam as if it was burning coal, no matter what, never leave Islam.

If he is abusing you and forcing you to renounce Islam, then try and get out of there asap..

Idk much abt scotland, but there should be organisations that will help you.

NONE has the right to prevent you from praying to Allah, NONE.

So you don't need ANYONE'S permission for submitting yourself to Allah, and worshipping Allah.

[AbdurRahman.]

Salamualikum wr wb Dear Sister.

A very important message to you

So your husband has become Muslim again?, that's good.

Get him to read this post so he understands his responsibility

A non Muslim man is not allowed to be husband of Muslim woman this is why when he became Christian again, an automatic divorce took place and you both are no longer man and wife. You both need to marry again to make your relationship lawful.

All that's needed is 2 Muslim male witnesses or 1 Muslim male and 2 Muslim female witnesses (who are adults and trustworthy people) and if he says to you in their presence: I marry you, and you reply back, I accept, then the marraige will be done.

And before the exchange of these words he needs to say how much he'll give you as mahr.

It is your Islamic duty to refrain from any intimacy before this remarriage.

JazakAmullah kharain. Walalykumassalaam wr wb.

PS: I think in time you will know whether he has become Muslim or not... If he doesn't become Muslim and remarry you, you have to do the right thing and leave him

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He banned me from here he cant blocked the site but forbin me from here again him and his Minster from his church wanted me to explain what i knew about Islam they confused me am in the tolet of a drop in he at the door i want to die

[Bmh2019]

He banned me from here he cant blocked the site but forbin me from here again him and his Minster from his church wanted me to explain what i knew about Islam they confused me am in the tolet of a drop in he at the door i want to die

Get police involved urgent now

[azc]

https://islamqa.info/en/answers/1507...0%2C4529747321

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He says am ill i need Allah he trickled me his Minster from his church they going to hurt me if i call the police they will take his side am mentally unable to look after myself i should die now throw myself out a Windows

[*charisma*]

If you are not willing to help yourself, how can we help you? You have to report him and the minister.
If you rely on your husband for financial support, seek other types of governmental help. I'm sure there is something available for abused women. There are even domestic shelters. Check to see what is available around you.

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Hes gone left when i said am sticking to Islam he has to come back to give my medication he staying with a friend who can take him in for a few days he giving me money and promised not to buy anything to harm myself i have to wear the hijab when he is here is that right he has keys to make sure am eating he my carer and he needs to check on me and my cat

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oh and thank you all for helping me I LOVE ALLAH ALWAYS

[Serinity]

from what I can read - one moment he promises you to be good with you, another moment he completely abandons you and takes your medicine, and then gets angry just because you said you'd call the police.

From what I can read, he isn't someone who will help you. Stay on Islam, yes. But stay with him?

Dont you have any relatives you can live by, or get some govermnetal help? I wouldn't stay with someone who is that unstable and forbids you from praying, and is angry at you. and tries to convert you. and have you leave Islam.

Get out of there, you need help, but this guy doesn't seem to give you that. If I was you, I'd PHYSICALLY go to a nearby police station and say "I am being abused please help. I don't want to stay with this guy anymore, I need medication. "

And to ensure you never have any contact with him anymore.

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he is gone and thats all i can get more meds from my dr and i can have the lock on the door changed i have no family and all my friends are christian and woulsnt understand me being Muslim and would take his side i have asked him to not came back he is staying away

[Bmh2019]

Have you called and informed police of this situation?
yes or no?
if no, then do it as indicated by sister previously on this forum. It seems uou dont want to resolve your dilemma from uiur teluctance to get police involved whom have power to resolve matters????

[Bmh2019]

Yes or no

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Am sorry i havent been posting in the last few days i have a bug and have been sick . i dont need to involve the police he gone for good he's down in Oxford now am in Scotland he will not be back again
thank you all for your help and support

[xboxisdead]

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