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anonymous
Thank you very much for replying. I am not her male friend, i am a sister.
The problem is she thinks that he isnt trying enough to get a job and he is just passing time by going here and there. She doesnt trust her bcuz he has broken her trusts many times this is why it is becoming hard for her to believe that he is trying. And she insults her in front of her children abd in return her husband also insults her. They keep cursing each other.
For the time being try to deal with money issue first, when it's dealt with, then they can start working on the trust issue between them.
About debt, they should try talk to the creditor and make some kind of arrangement to either delay payment, or remove some of the charges. It's going to be tough, but unless they try, they will not know.
If you look at debt statement, usually the total amount includes interest and monthly fee, sometimes creditors are wiling to remove these charges if they see proofs that the debtor is truly unable to make the payment.
There are consequences, but it will give them some relief for the time being. That's why it's still worth to try.
Financial assistance, have they tried getting this? Sometimes government provides some kind of assistance, even if it's small it can help.
Also there are muslim organizations helping muslim families in need, it may not be local but inshaAllah they will not turn down muslims that need help.
They can also try reduce expenses and stick with only basic needs. InshaAllah they will make it through this together.