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SintoDinto
05-22-2022, 04:52 AM
I have PTSD and Autism spectrum, and I am also an HSP (high in sensory processing sensitivity, not a real disorder, it means I feel everything deeper and can absorb others emotions. It stands for highly sensitive person). I feel overwhelmed by work and responsibilities that continue to pile up as I get older (im 23, but a bit late, im in the middle of uni and still haven't graduated). Everytime i see films or tv my mom watches that remind me of things I suffered in the past, embarassing, shaming or sad, i get overwhelmed with grief. stories of oppressed muslimsmake me so angry, i often joke about fighting the soldiers of the enemy nations (india, china, burma, russia, etc. ) and raping their women, which upsets my mother and makes her react angrily. i often disrespect my mother because my ptsd causes anger issues and impulsivity and my mother is overbearing, but i cant hold down a job, and i have no where else to go. my siblings hate me. much of my family has disowned me over my snowflake aggression or reactive aggression. or for merely calling too much due to being needy. i feel great grief and i just wish i was dead or that the world would end.
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Flos
05-22-2022, 12:37 PM
Oh dear brother,

I, too, have PTSD and HSP and have dealt with deep depression for the same reasons as you do - world injustice, suffering of innocents. I went through "life has no sense at all" phase.

I can't stand sufferings of Muslims, and other Muslims doing nothing for them, not even caring at all for them. I guess I understand you.

But please don't make jokes about raping any woman in the world. You, as a man, can't comprehend how horrible that is. To us, it's dearer to die, to be killed, tortured in other ways than to be raped. And why would you hurt women? They're not running politics nor fighting our Muslims.

I don't know your mental state due to autism. But, I "channel" my sensitivity into action. It's my fuel. I see something bad, I start acting immediately. Can you do that?
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Pure Purple
05-22-2022, 03:49 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by SintoDinto
I have PTSD and Autism spectrum, and I am also an HSP (high in sensory processing sensitivity, not a real disorder, it means I feel everything deeper and can absorb others emotions. It stands for highly sensitive person). I feel overwhelmed by work and responsibilities that continue to pile up as I get older (im 23, but a bit late, im in the middle of uni and still haven't graduated). Everytime i see films or tv my mom watches that remind me of things I suffered in the past, embarassing, shaming or sad, i get overwhelmed with grief. stories of oppressed muslimsmake me so angry, i often joke about fighting the soldiers of the enemy nations (india, china, burma, russia, etc. ) and raping their women, which upsets my mother and makes her react angrily. i often disrespect my mother because my ptsd causes anger issues and impulsivity and my mother is overbearing, but i cant hold down a job, and i have no where else to go. my siblings hate me. much of my family has disowned me over my snowflake aggression or reactive aggression. or for merely calling too much due to being needy. i feel great grief and i just wish i was dead or that the world would end.
I dont know people with PTSD or autism with such mentality can be justified as I don't have PTSD or autism.
But I felt so disgusted by reading your comment that you make a joke about raping a women of your enemy.
I dont know what country you belong to and being an indian I can say yes discrimination is going on even than I will not make fun of women getting raped even if she is worst of my enemy. Being a woman I can confirm I would prefer to die than being raped and this is with every other woman I think.
I dont know what to say you maybe you need a counselling or psychatrict help and please get out of this sick mentality otherwise one day you might end up harming someone and you will regret on your actions.
If you really care about suffering of Muslims and if you really want to help them please start respecting your mother don't make her upset with you r behaviour.She is the first muslim I think you can help by being a better son.
Stop watching those news which make you so aggressive if you can't handle the truth and what is going around the world.Have some positivity in your life.
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SintoDinto
05-22-2022, 06:32 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Flos
Oh dear brother,

I, too, have PTSD and HSP and have dealt with deep depression for the same reasons as you do - world injustice, suffering of innocents. I went through "life has no sense at all" phase.

I can't stand sufferings of Muslims, and other Muslims doing nothing for them, not even caring at all for them. I guess I understand you.

But please don't make jokes about raping any woman in the world. You, as a man, can't comprehend how horrible that is. To us, it's dearer to die, to be killed, tortured in other ways than to be raped. And why would you hurt women? They're not running politics nor fighting our Muslims.

I don't know your mental state due to autism. But, I "channel" my sensitivity into action. It's my fuel. I see something bad, I start acting immediately. Can you do that?
Thank you, dear sister @Flos . I know I can never understand what it is like to be raped as a woman, but I will not make those jokes again. I often channel my energy by working jobs, which usually dont last long, and then sending much of the money to charities of oppressed and suffering Muslims. I could also volunteer, or hold down a more long term job, or build a career (not a job) and send better money and resources and expertise to muslims in need. I am currently in school for software engineering, and software engineers make a lot of money, and I am good at coding. I also realized I should try to be light in my small little niche of the world. Like by helping out my mother who is getting older and more weak, without complaining. I enjoy helping out my mother. I apologize if my comments have offended you or anyone else like sister @Pure Purple
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Flos
05-22-2022, 09:42 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by SintoDinto
Thank you, dear sister @Flos. I know I can never understand what it is like to be raped as a woman, but I will not make those jokes again. I often channel my energy by working jobs, which usually dont last long, and then sending much of the money to charities of oppressed and suffering Muslims. I could also volunteer, or hold down a more long term job, or build a career (not a job) and send better money and resources and expertise to muslims in need. I am currently in school for software engineering, and software engineers make a lot of money, and I am good at coding. I also realized I should try to be light in my small little niche of the world. Like by helping out my mother who is getting older and more weak, without complaining. I enjoy helping out my mother. I apologize if my comments have offended you or anyone else like sister @Pure Purple
As a software engineer, you could build up a software that could help Muslims in need. What do you think? That could be your direct action.
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Pure Purple
05-23-2022, 06:33 AM
Apologising me will not make any difference please understand that.You said you will not make joke about it. Even if you don't make joke about it but if you still have these ill feelings in your mind there is seriously something wrong with you. It's good that you acknowledge that is something is wrong with you.
You should seek some professional help.Have you consider seeing a specialist who deal woth ADHD or autism?
You mentioned that you are good at coding but cannot hold down to a long term job. That's great you have a degree only problem is that working in long term.Maybe you have some issue with concentration? May I know what is you daily routine ?
If you want to be consistent with your job first you need to have routine in your life. If you manage to have routine, discipline in your daily life you might be able to hold down to your job?
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Sunshineday
05-23-2022, 07:02 PM
Firstly, I like to add that I actually believe that if Calipah Umar Ibn Al Khattab -companion of the Prophet Muhammed peace be upon him came back, he would not be impressed with the Muslims, and he would actually be criticising the Muslims and if he had the time, would be slamming us around and beating us up. I hope this helps to wake you up from your stupidity. Muslims are being tested around the world, and we still got to to do alot better. So who on earth are you, someone who can't even respect their own Mama going to do for anyone else??

You atrocious point regarding rape as already been answered and so I hope that it knocks you off your wrong thinking. You need to sort yourself out.

I think that there is too much pandering to people, that they complain they are not happy, sometimes, people's biggest happiness memories are just as teenagers-as they don't concentrated on doing anything else.

You need to concentrate on working on yourself and looking at what you can do to help yourself, if you can't do that-don't go around being critical of anyone.

You can't complain to Allah that no one loved you-that is not a requirement to pass your test. Allah isn't going to send someone to Hell because they didn't love you. As per the Quran believing men are for believing women. So you need to conduct yourself better.

AS Shaytaan plays on people with hands, You don't do much in your life and the Shaytaan is leading you astray and you just spend time living in your mind. What your mind is thinking of is of no importance.

A story of Calipah Umar Ibn Al-Khattab, he was listening to someone and thought he was OK, but when he found out he wasn't doing a job, he didn't think too highly of him.

You haven't built the discipline to be a servant of Allah-he certainly would be asking you to fight for him-not that you should be joining anyone except the Mahdi or the Prophet Jesus peace be upon him when he returns.

Discipline is about spending a lot of time and placing other people's needs first. I suggest, you concentrate on sorting yourself out to try and be productive, to be helpful to Muslims and non-Muslims alike, we are sharing the same planet -it is not for you to speak of jihad (when jihad are for occassions for oppressions, we are not hear to go on a killing spree as is to help people to learn-that is where when the people come down to attack the Mahdi they will be swallowed by the earth as no point of Jihad-what is to teach them??). You are foolish and immature. A Man is supposed to be kind, generous and looking at the needs of others, he only fights when he has to (and you can't even fight against your own mind, just by being led by it). The west is doing the opposite teachings, making it look like people can't help themselves -you don't seem insane, so you are responsible for your thoughts and actions.

You don't absorb people's feelings, that is impossible, you think you pick up how people feel and allow yourself internally to do that. I like to add this example, it is no different if you have a evil person beating up someone, the evil one is saying he is feeling like this now, the evil person think they know how the victim is feeling, but actually what the evil person is doing, is feeding off their own emotional responses (but they think this is taken from the victim as they place people in a certain position). You are clearly been led astray and what are of your emotions -when you easily talk about rape?? You are not caring as no one would be asking anyone to be raped non-Muslims or Muslims, that is for cursed people.

You are clearly not sorting yourself out and externalising things to have some sort of control-we Muslims are not foolish as we follow the Prophet Muhammad peace be up him's teachings - and not those that are provided by those that don't even accept Allah (where they wish to treat humans as dumb, even psychologist saying they can learn much about human beings by studying animals). Shaytaan certainly has done a number on you. AS you have to learn, what even children already do, be happy to engage in a task, even if it is playing lego, and concentrating on what they can do for themselves and even push people away as they want to do it themselves -not as some grownups do, want to teach people to walk around them as if they are treading on eggshells
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SintoDinto
05-24-2022, 01:13 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by Sunshineday
Firstly, I like to add that I actually believe that if Calipah Umar Ibn Al Khattab -companion of the Prophet Muhammed peace be upon him came back, he would not be impressed with the Muslims, and he would actually be criticising the Muslims and if he had the time, would be slamming us around and beating us up. I hope this helps to wake you up from your stupidity. Muslims are being tested around the world, and we still got to to do alot better. So who on earth are you, someone who can't even respect their own Mama going to do for anyone else??

You atrocious point regarding rape as already been answered and so I hope that it knocks you off your wrong thinking. You need to sort yourself out.

I think that there is too much pandering to people, that they complain they are not happy, sometimes, people's biggest happiness memories are just as teenagers-as they don't concentrated on doing anything else.

You need to concentrate on working on yourself and looking at what you can do to help yourself, if you can't do that-don't go around being critical of anyone.

You can't complain to Allah that no one loved you-that is not a requirement to pass your test. Allah isn't going to send someone to Hell because they didn't love you. As per the Quran believing men are for believing women. So you need to conduct yourself better.

AS Shaytaan plays on people with hands, You don't do much in your life and the Shaytaan is leading you astray and you just spend time living in your mind. What your mind is thinking of is of no importance.

A story of Calipah Umar Ibn Al-Khattab, he was listening to someone and thought he was OK, but when he found out he wasn't doing a job, he didn't think too highly of him.

You haven't built the discipline to be a servant of Allah-he certainly would be asking you to fight for him-not that you should be joining anyone except the Mahdi or the Prophet Jesus peace be upon him when he returns.

Discipline is about spending a lot of time and placing other people's needs first. I suggest, you concentrate on sorting yourself out to try and be productive, to be helpful to Muslims and non-Muslims alike, we are sharing the same planet -it is not for you to speak of jihad (when jihad are for occassions for oppressions, we are not hear to go on a killing spree as is to help people to learn-that is where when the people come down to attack the Mahdi they will be swallowed by the earth as no point of Jihad-what is to teach them??). You are foolish and immature. A Man is supposed to be kind, generous and looking at the needs of others, he only fights when he has to (and you can't even fight against your own mind, just by being led by it). The west is doing the opposite teachings, making it look like people can't help themselves -you don't seem insane, so you are responsible for your thoughts and actions.

You don't absorb people's feelings, that is impossible, you think you pick up how people feel and allow yourself internally to do that. I like to add this example, it is no different if you have a evil person beating up someone, the evil one is saying he is feeling like this now, the evil person think they know how the victim is feeling, but actually what the evil person is doing, is feeding off their own emotional responses (but they think this is taken from the victim as they place people in a certain position). You are clearly been led astray and what are of your emotions -when you easily talk about rape?? You are not caring as no one would be asking anyone to be raped non-Muslims or Muslims, that is for cursed people.

You are clearly not sorting yourself out and externalising things to have some sort of control-we Muslims are not foolish as we follow the Prophet Muhammad peace be up him's teachings - and not those that are provided by those that don't even accept Allah (where they wish to treat humans as dumb, even psychologist saying they can learn much about human beings by studying animals). Shaytaan certainly has done a number on you. AS you have to learn, what even children already do, be happy to engage in a task, even if it is playing lego, and concentrating on what they can do for themselves and even push people away as they want to do it themselves -not as some grownups do, want to teach people to walk around them as if they are treading on eggshells
uh.....yeah! youre rude........that's no way to prove a point....clearly you know nothing about me. or mental health. or psychology. or eschatology. im going to ignore your entire post, and every post from now you post on my OPs, im ignoring due to you being cancelled in my mind.
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SintoDinto
05-24-2022, 01:15 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by Pure Purple
Apologising me will not make any difference please understand that.You said you will not make joke about it. Even if you don't make joke about it but if you still have these ill feelings in your mind there is seriously something wrong with you. It's good that you acknowledge that is something is wrong with you.
You should seek some professional help.Have you consider seeing a specialist who deal woth ADHD or autism?
You mentioned that you are good at coding but cannot hold down to a long term job. That's great you have a degree only problem is that working in long term.Maybe you have some issue with concentration? May I know what is you daily routine ?
If you want to be consistent with your job first you need to have routine in your life. If you manage to have routine, discipline in your daily life you might be able to hold down to your job?
fyi i already go to therapy!!!!!!!!! and a psychiatrist!!!!!!! you people stop recommending this stuff to me!!!!!! ive been in therapy most of my life!!! and psychiatry much of it!!!!!!
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quranmualim
05-24-2022, 10:20 AM
It is good if you have emotions and feelings for other but excess of everything is bad. Make your mind busy in daily working and learning. This phenomenon ony takes place when you are alone and overthinking the current circumstances. Do zikr in your spare times and read the life of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH).
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