Sign from Allah?

I have been praying tahajjud almost everyday for a year to marry someone. Nothing seemed to be happening. One night I begged Allah (swt) to send me a sign. Then suddenly this person’s (whom I’ve been praying for) photo came up on my phone. This person had blocked me (over a year ago) so I should not be able to see his photo. I could see his photo for around two days. Then it disappeared. Is this a sign or just a coincidence?

You were obsessed woth that person in spite clear sign he/she blocked you.
You prayed, if you, such long time for a dunya issue a person should not probably pray for, because there was a clear sign from that person (a block) and you were not in contact (engagement, family, jamah, friendly, halal of course) and there are so many other people and dua to spend time on.
Maybe it would be better to ask istikharah and dua which person to choose and to ask Allah to give you the best spouse.

We should improve in every aspect too, our education, earnings, clothes, looks, hygiene, fitness, friends, nawafil dua, salawat, estegfar, sadaqah and so on.

Increase nawafil and be consistant and do not tue your heart for one person that does not even comunicate with you.

I do not know your social/ethnic background, but your tahajjud story seems not so common, especially in context of your question and experiences.

Duas give results fast inshaAllah, especially in tahajjud time, consistant, regularly.

Puresoul said:

I have been praying tahajjud almost everyday for a year to marry someone. Nothing seemed to be happening. One night I begged Allah (swt) to send me a sign. Then suddenly this person’s (whom I’ve been praying for) photo came up on my phone. This person had blocked me (over a year ago) so I should not be able to see his photo. I could see his photo for around two days. Then it disappeared. Is this a sign or just a coincidence?

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Asalaamu Alaikum,

My sister it was clearly just a coincidence as you've been thinking about this individual for so long and desperately hoping that he would contact you again. However you've already received your response from Allah hence why this person remains out of your life. Surely Allah knows best for you in your life and it maybe that if you did end up marrying him that things would have gone very badly and if children were involved then it is an even more difficult situation and painful situation. So thank Allah for doing what is best for you.

Surely If this person does not want to marry you then please do not continue to push for it or wait for him as you will only be wasting your time and energy when it could be better used and spent in investing into your Akhirah and in more fruitful pursuits like searching for a potential suitor for marriage. There is someone for you who is meant for you and who will be much better for you than this individual. So make every effort in exploring all the permissible avenues and ask of Allah in your Dua's at Tahajjud time for the right person that will be most beneficial for you and best for you to marry instead of asking for this person to come back into your life for you to marry them.

So my sister as hard as it maybe please delete his contact details completely and get a new number so that he is never able to contact you again. This is because you do not want to leave any doors open for him to potentially contact you again in the future which will only "mess with your head" and bring back painful memories. Such a door can also lead to much more serious sins. Such things have happened in many cases, even though one has moved on and married someone else. So do not leave such a dangerous door open. Change your number and internalise in your mind that you will start from afresh and a new beginning and that you have accepted that this person is not meant for you. You are much better than resorting to lowering yourself in waiting for a person who has already rejected, disregarded you for marriage.

However we must also acknowledge that if we went about marriage in the right way in terms of remaining within the acceptable limits and boundaries set by Allah then we would never have fallen for anyone before Nikah and been in such a predicament. So we must learn from our past mistakes and ensure it does not happen again by making sure that your mahram is present in all your interactions with a non mahram whether face to face, via phone, email, or any messenger apps. It is much safer for you and a protection for you from Allah against any potential harm and for such a thing to happen again in the future.

Finally my sister if you think you need therapy/counselling to get over this then there is no shame in that at all. Sometimes we need further help and assistance in life with past painful events and trauma's. However at the same time keep asking of Allah as he is there for you and he knows what you are going through and he has done what is best for you in this regard and he will find someone who is best for you in marriage Insha Allah.

Please also refer to the following thread which contains articles, help and advices to help overcome the pain and hurt from a pre marital relationship:

How to get through pain from a pre-marital relationship